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in all my dreams i was the bold handsome man. in real life i was the one who held doors open, who walked on the outside of the kerb,who carried bags. i was as much of a boy as my brothers at least on the inside. can't ever remember a time when i looked in the mirror and thought 'thats me' Thi nk the reflections song in mulan was written just for me.
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Thanks to Linus and Greyson for the PMs, link and input. Guess I don't feel so alone in my thinking anymore.
Thanks again, jet |
Hey All,
I wanted to share with you a cool radio program about a variety of trans topics and issues. Great listen, check it out :) http://kboo.fm/GenderBlender |
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So, I'm working on what I'll post up but if you want to post your own picture with a message, do so. It'd be nice to see so many positive and supportive options out there. |
So I upload my pix and comments. You can see them here: http://www.ireport.com/docs/DOC-418506
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Thanks for all the comments everyone. Weirdly enough, I got an email from the same editor this morning asking me further about my iReport and would I be ok with my real name being used and what phone number to call me at if they have further questions.
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Linus, you are awesome man. Thank you for being that brave!
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FYI
Tonight on CNN a documentary called "Her name was Steven" 8 PM eastern.
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Remember that tonight/tomorrow morning is time change: spring forward. |
And whatever you do, don't go to CNN and check out the article on it (or rather the comments to the article). They are vile and hurtful.
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First time posting in this thread, but been reading along quietly as I contemplate where I want to go with my life...
I know who I am, and what I am. I am male, but very much retain my queer identity at the same time. It is what works for me. That being said, I have finally made the decision that I am ready to start seeing a therapist, and taking T so that I can move forward with who I am. First question, how did you go about finding a therapist? I'm in the San Francisco bay area, so I am sure I have a lot of resources available to me, but I am also very secluded, and have for most of my life been a hermit, so I am very unaware of what my resources are around me. Second question, has anyone looked into an alternative to shots? I have such a huge issue with needles, of any kind, that it is a big deal breaker for me unfortunately. I know there are options such as the patch, or a gel. Does anyone have any experience with these? I've been doing a little bit of reading up on them and it seems they might be viable options for me. |
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As for the 2nd, once the 1st is addressed they can look into other mechanisms for getting T. I've heard that patch based T tends to be a "lower" dosage (lower being a relative term). There are also "pellets", although these are more expensive they last for 3-4 months at a time (not sure yet if the US allows for those yet). I don't know much about the gel other than it has to be done daily. |
I was reading a POC TransWoman's blog (http://transgriot.blogspot.com/2010/...ual-white.html) and noticed that she is very right. CNN, although doing some decent work on presenting trans individuals, is leaving out a huge part of the community: trans individuals of colour. My own privilege blinded me to the fact that this part is missing. The reality is they often face greater socio-economic challenges that are otherwise missed by white trans individuals. From my conversations with some trans men of colour they face new challenges (I've heard of trans men being stopped more than white trans men). I honestly do not know of specific challenges that POC trans women face but I would imagine it is similar to WOC and yet, amplified.
Why is it that in our own trans community we ignore this part of the community? It's not a small part (at least not here in NYC in the groups I've been in). |
So as a follow up to Logic's post... First thank you Linus for that link, we checked it out, and while their mission statement says they are open to people of all gender presentations, they seem to me more geared toward TransWomen. But I did do a little research and found a couple of clinics. Does anyone in the bay area have any experience with the Trans services at the Tom Waddell Clinic, The Lyon Martin clinic, or with New Leaf counseling? I do have a friend that goes to New Leaf and he is really getting a lot out of it, but any other insight would be great. Also, I have done a lot of reading, but am I correct in that the first step he should take in the actual process would be finding a therapist? Are we on the right track?
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If you like, send me a pm here with you contact information and we can talk some more. Good luck. |
I wanted to come in and say hi to all of My fellow trans brothers, not only to see how everyone is doing but also to give a quick update on how things are doing. I came out to My parents and didn't realize that My mom was going through alot, so whatever few days of silence that occured had nothing to do with Me so everything now is all good :)
I found out from a trans friend here that a place called Klinic, a community health care center, has a trans clinic with a doctor who deals with all trans patients. I called and talked to them, and got an intake appointment with the doctor's assistant in April to see if I can get in to be this guy's patient. His name is Dr. Whetter and if all goes well not only could he become My family doctor but he could also help Me to begin My transition. I'm optimistic about things but once the intake is done (April 16th) then I will see how things go ........ I'll make sure to keep everyone updated when things happen, and what he says :thumbsup: |
Glad to hear it turned out well in the end, Braedon.
I got a surprise call today. CNN called to talk to me further about my iReport! :| I called the intern back so we'll see where, if anywhere, it leads but I gotta admit.. kinda exciting. :cheesy: |
I am too Linus :)
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The following article titled Falling in Love with a Transgender Man was posted on O magazine (Oprah):
http://www.oprah.com/relationships/F...nsgender-Man/1 Well written and beautifully expressed. Andrea |
Well, I just spoke to the Intern at CNN. Very nice conversation and he said that the story should be up by the end of the week or next week. He'll send me a link when all is said and done. Whee! :)
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So here is my question. For those of you that where working when you started your transition, how did you handle it? Did you explain to your employer what was going on or just do it and if any questions came up then answer them?
I'm worried about the reaction my employer will have and as well how to handle it with my customers as I have a lot of public interaction since I'm in charge of all sales for the company. |
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I face customers regularly (as a technical trainer, I can't really escape that). The first step I took was talk to my direct manager and let them know what was going on. I then went to HR and spoke to them about how to address it with colleagues. Since many of us work out of homes and only meet now and again, I have it slightly easier (I rarely have to share a bathroom with colleagues). Together with HR, I put out an email that detailed how I wanted to be referred to (name and gender) and a FAQ on things to expect during my transition (FTM). HR left the choice to me if people had questions. I'm pretty open and the only question I really got was how to pronounce my name (Linus can be prounounced as Lie-nus or Lyn-us and since we're IT both were fairly common, depending on whether coming from the US or Europe). The choice of whether to transition and then address it or address it first depends, IMO, on the company and culture of the company as well as size. I'm lucky in that my company already has gender discrimination written into the corporate policy and it's fairly strictly adhered to. I can send you the FAQ if you want to use it as well as a copy of my letter I sent if it helps you (just PM me your email). |
tyra's show today is on transgendered children...
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See, here is the issue im running in to. I work for a very small company, maybe 30 employees max. We have no HR, and the owner does basically what he wants and feels is right, even if it is not. My co-workers, not an issue, some of them already know of my desire and are totally okay with it. My biggest fear at this point for me, is that my boss can find a way to fire me.
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http://transgriot.blogspot.com/2010/...denial-of.html
Now this is interesting. Although the court case is for trans individuals who are in prison, the impact could be something beyond those borders and potentially on a national level (i.e., insurance companies will not be able to put in writing that SRS treatments are not allowed). |
Finally was posted: http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/04/14...ex.html?hpt=C1 (see picture #4) :cheesy:
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Heh.. Thanks. Ya. I wish others saw that (and based on the comments below the story it is obviously missed).
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Good going Linus. That took a lot.
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http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/foru...ead.php?t=1184
Hey guys! I started a top surgery thread! I would appreciate everyone stopping by and giving there 2 cents! Thanks |
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I always knew I was different. It wasn't until after I came out that I knew I should have been born a male. That came around the age of 21. Knowing how my bio family reacted when I came out as gay, I know I will not come out as trans to them. If they find out, so be it. And if they don't like it, so be it. I don't need their approval or acceptance. The way I see it, for ME and ME alone, they gave me life, if them holding on to their "daughter" is the highest act of respect, so to speak, I can pay them, then I will do it until they are no longer here. |
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