I wonder why this thread is not visited too often Any guesses?

Regardless, I am *gulp* in my 50's & yes it pains me to write that & I should pop in here more often myself!

Happy Sunday to all!

Hi Anya/Georgia,
I think it gets slow in here because we all have so many other interests. It's awkward to be grouped together because we're a certain number of years, especially since none of us feel our age often. I forget how old I am and remind myself I'm not a kid only when the body won't function like I know it should.

Hey everyone. I'm new to this thread. I've finally started checking out the forums on this site which led me here. I look forward to interacting with the 40 and ups on this thread. Hope you're all having a good Tuesday.

Welcome
 

Hey, Welcome to the group. This is a good place to be.

Well, Things didn't "work out" for this gal and me. She didn't want to move here. I told her I have a responceabilaty looking aftetr my Mom. I gave my word to my dad and my brother. By the way Mom had a bad spell yester day and also this AM. The spell she had I wanted to take her to the ER in Olean,NY. It ended up I slept on the other side of her bed till she felt better.
Any ways I prmest I would take care or look after her and I don't give my word unless I mean it. I don't go back on my word unles its a emurgence and then,I have to.

long distance romance
 

Well, Things didn't "work out" for this gal and me. She didn't want to move here. I told her I have a responceabilaty looking aftetr my Mom. I gave my word to my dad and my brother.
By Blueeyes 226_1


LDR could be difficult and costly. My last partner lived in California and I lived in Boston and we did the long distance for almost 2 years we visited each other every three months. Finally I moved to California and the relationship had a 7 year run after.

LDR could work out but there has to be trust !! love !! and honest daily communication.


Its important not to rush things, we have responsibilities in our individual lives and we can not expect to pick up and go ASAP. I have heard and seen people pick up and go ASAP and it has been a terrible mistake.

Love grows when you nurture it gently and slowly, developing deep roots that will stand strong when difficult times arise.

Thanks,I hope she gets better soon. But,she is 85 now COPD and she never smok in her life its from other people smoking around her. She has worked all her life. I dread when,she passes over.
Thanks to all

I will have to agree... As I have gotten older I found my three kids still need me but in a very different more expensive way then they did as kids and now the parents need me to take care of them... The good thing about the age we are now is I am now not letting myself be walked on and not caring about what everyone thinks about me... Family not happy with me oh well...
I need to live my life the way I want it to go and not what everyone expects from me... A very rude awakening for most of my family!

Hello,
Would like to join in. I really like find folks my own age group to chat with and relate to.

*brings flowers* *joins in*


:boquet:

Hey all! How is every one? Its been really hot the last few days. Mom,my cats and I didn't sleep at all last night. To day I layed down and watch tv with my youngest cat,Molly, and feel asleep and didn't wake up till 8:45 tonight. Is every one doing ok with this heat wave? I hope all is well with every one.
Take care all
blueeyes226_l

New Here...
 

Hello to all, and yes I have tipped the over 40 scale....41 actually. Wishing all apleasant evening and weekend :)

OMG You said it first.... i second that.
 

WARNING! Flirtalert!
 

the older the grape, the sweeter the wine ;)

[subscribing]

Well in actuality, I have had the username for years and that is how others recognize me. My status has changed a bit over the years and my intent of presence on this site includes magnanimous pursuits transcending simplistic skirt chasing endeavors, obliterating any sentiment of the butch-femme bathhouse scene....lol. More cerebral capacity than brawn here.....thanks for the inquiry ;)

Canada calling!
 

Hello everyone. It is a warm summer night here in B.C.

Biceps, are you coming up for our Pride next weekend? I haven't been for years and look forward to the rush when the dykes on bikes come blazing by!

cheers,
fever

Oldie here
 

Yep,I guess mid fifties is considered an oldie...

Ah to be young again.....:sigh:


Slade

I respond (being an oldie myself) with the old tried but true quote of ..." Butches are like fine wine..they get better with age" :wine:

can I come in? I'll be 40 in Sept :D hello everyone

Thank you :) I like your siggy ;) nice to meet you MsW8ing

Friends with benefits?
 

Don't know if this the exact response you are looking for but no, it is not me at all. I had one night stands when I first came out as bi but only with women, I was about 19 or 20. When I accepted I was Lesbian, I did have a few just because it was all so exciting and new, it was a second adolescence for me and a much, much better one than my first adolescence!

By the time I was in my mid-20's I was with my first real GF for a year and then my long-term one for 19.

I have not had casual sex since my break-up. I do not judge anyone for their sex life or choices. For me though, I am older now and looking at the last 20-25 years of my life down the road. I want another relationship, one of substance and committment-not just a fuck (though if I am totally honest, I wish I could do that without any emotional repercussions but I know myself, and that I can not).

I think that in this day and age, one can have whatever type of relationship we want. For some, the friends with benefits or one-night stand is it. I even believe it is also a right-of-passage when we are younger and that it helps us understand who and what we are and what it is we want and need. I know enought about myself now to know that it just would not work for me.

In some ways I am more confident in myself but in others; I feel much more vulnerable than I did when I was younger. When I was young, I felt invincible. I don't feel that way any longer.

well for me i dont want a casual hook up i want something we can grow in and last.... hope that helps :)

Please feel free to post now if you like, I doubt anyone here would be unwilling to "spot" you a few weeks

ruthie, there are many of us here. Single folks looking for the long term
relationships we deserve.

hello everyone. Hope you're all having a good summer. I'm being overworked but not really minding it...yet. I'm on day 9 of a 20 in a row work stint. Planning a vacation in September though. I want to get a place on the beach during Rohoboth Beach pride weekend. I haven't taken a real vacation in years so I'm looking forward to it. have a good night.

Ruthie, I can find NJ on a map, other than that I may not be much help in your search. There are single butches all over the planet (no pun intended). Its just a matter of finding the special one you are looking for.

Premature birthday wishes for your very special day

Handsome
 

Have you ever been to Rehoboth Handsome? I have been there once a year ago and friends of mine just stayed at a reasonable b & b in the heart of everything. Let me know and i can pass on the info. They have a great little girl bar there that has some really cool musicians. Really nice place.

Don't work too hard and rest when you can!

Ruthie, i would love the info, especially any you have on clubs for women. I was there years ago when i was in my early 20's. I was actually staying in Ocean City, MD but drove up the coast to hit a club in Rohoboth called Square One. I'd really like to get an ocean front room so i'm kinda set on staying somewhere on the beach. thanks for the info Ruthie

btw, is the b&b for gays and lesbians?

((((((((Ruthie)))))))))....know I loves ya!!! Take care....Clay