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Oh, yeah, we forgot to tell you there were eggs and old people here before you sailed off into the sunset. |
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Hey we live in Hill Country! AAAAHHH |
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and like i told ya , i use to like ya till i met ya |
thank ya Oiler and Pup for another great time and for your hospitiality.
it was fun friday night and was great passing out the baskets and seeing their smiling faces. |
A moment of silence, please......I'm selling the Beer Frig..........
I know. :vigil: |
Moment. :vigil:Yeah. Okay. That good? LOL!
So about this weekend. Any thoughts? Do y'all want to come this way or was Glyniece serious? I can never tell. |
my son had a grand time this weekend at the austin wedding... or, should that be the wedding in austin?
they flew back austin to LA and then supposed to fly LA to SF...turns out the LA flight was cancelled and they got home 6 hours later after going through phoenix.... so, for me (living happily in crazy-ninaland) I had a great time in austin though a rocky trip home... thanks...and see ya next time (when I will do all I can to get a direct flight) :) |
Well, Saturday night I am going to be Angelique's "ass-istant". She is the one who is chair for the Hot Flash dance at Rusty's.
If you don't know what Hot Flash is.. Our demographic is composed of women approximately 30-55 years old with a solid mix of all races and classes. Hot Flash Dance Parties take you back to the 70s and bring you forward into the 21st century with a mix of 65% retro and 35% contemporary music. Hot Flash is held early in the evening so you can groove through the entire dance AND make plans to continue to party afterward... at dinner, other parties, or your own private party! check out the following pages: http://www.facebook.com/#!/pages/Hot...35924296473461 http://www.hotflashdances.com/ I would LOOVVEEE it if y'all could make it :) Also, I'm not on call this weekend so I'm down for WHATEVER else y'all wanna do :) |
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Exclusion policies push my fairness buttons and stir up hurty feelings from my past, when trying to find my community at the only place I knew of, lesbian bars. Women there would tell me to go back to the straight bars where I belonged. Ouch on the "lesbian-only" judgment swinging around and hurting many. I don't really think the "safe-from-men space" justification flies at a bar and dance. Sigh. I hope I'm overstepping and reading too much into it. I hope Arwen's wrong about D not being able to go if he wanted to (then I could finally quit speaking to that hooker). I hope we (that's the royal "we") are not bringing a new queer social event to Austin that would judge against and exclude half of our community. |
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Well here's their policy: Trans Policy: F2Ms are welcome at women-only dances as long as they self-identify at the door. While I understand, that's a bit much for me. It doesn't feel like a good thing. |
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while it's nice to be welcome at a function i don't qualify for, the cover charge seems a bit steep. if it's women-only, then it's women-only, right? which is fine. however, being required to essentially say "i'm not really a guy" is some major suckage. how about getting about 20 of us guys together to show up, then insist we be patted down at the door? what is the policy on MtF? i can see where the sponsoring group is making an effort toward inclusion, toward allowing guys to participate in community functions. but really? |
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But I really do understand the need for guy-only and gal-only space. I respect that. I just wouldn't feel comfortable there. No harm. No foul. I hope it's a really successful event! |
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oh, and you had best look me up while you're here. it's been far too long since our paths have crossed. |
I suppose I didn't think about it either way. Yeah I spoke to the site manager and she said that the person just has to identify themselves as trans at the door. As I am not trans, I didn't know that identifying as trans was a negative thing? Anyway, I understand those of you who don't want to come b/c of that.
Pup...I honestly don't think it's about excluding trans people or being a "female-identified lesbian" ONLY party. It's a party geared toward having women of all ages (though aimed at those above 30), races, classes, sexual orientation come together and have a blast. Sorry this is causing such a issue, though I don't understand why. |
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i don't think the policy is malicious in intent. i think the wording, the asking people to essentially deny who they are is misguided. it's difficult to see how language can affect others if you aren't in the affected group. |
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But the policy does hurt a lot of our peeps. I think it's good to air feelings, opposing viewpoints and our unique experiences; we run the risk of starting to think everyone agrees if we never come up against a difference. Narrows the mind and makes conversations dull after a while. My own issue is calling up the deep hurt feelings of the "get out of our place, you don't belong" I experienced when trying to go to "lesbian-only" clubs as a young(ish) pup searching for belonging. Plus, I get very squeamish about forcing our trans guys to say "yep, I'm not really a guy," and it hurts my feelings FOR them and us. It's a fun plan for an event that bumps smack into the cold reality that makes up so much of our world, where you have to fit into an accepted gender or appearance or orientation to be welcomed. |
[QUOTE=canmarielan;327575][COLOR="Red"]I suppose I didn't think about it either way. Yeah I spoke to the site manager and she said that the person just has to identify themselves as trans at the door. As I am not trans, I didn't know that identifying as trans was a negative thing? Anyway, I understand those of you who don't want to come b/c of that.
Pup...I honestly don't think it's about excluding trans people or being a "female-identified lesbian" ONLY party. It's a party geared toward having women of all ages (though aimed at those above 30), races, classes, sexual orientation come together and have a blast. Sorry this is causing such a issue, though I don't understand why. [/ It's a lesbian dance, lesbian space. I respect that. It is offensive(however well intended) to ask a trans person to "identify" themselves. Requiring that anyone announce such personal information is offensive. Especially when only a certain group must make the disclosure. Are they checking to see if everyone is gay? There is a HUGE difference between SELF disclosure and required disclosure to attend a dance. You remove a person's agency when you make it mandatory that they announce it. Honey, I love you and I respect you very much. Please understand that I'm trying to get you to think about this in a different way. It is certainly not a personal attack. |
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oh, looky, is that a falling star? pause N-E-hooo..... It seems teh Arwen needs a pool and a BBQ, Gemme and Ebon need a party. D (arrgh sorry about the name usage earlier damn you hooker for leading me down the path) needs something fun to do since he's visiting. So... Hey! How about swimming and bbq at Glynneice's on Saturday? Swim time starting at 2 (shade starts creeping over the pool about 3, it'll be in the shade by about 5) Barbecue and stuff probably about 5? If you want to keep hanging out we can play games (fact) and stuff into the wee hours (crap...probably just one wee hour) Bring yer drinks. We'll negotiate the other stuff with teh Arwen and see what we come up with. For god's sake, don't bring any candy. I may make you all take some home with you. Oh, right -- we'll have healthier alternatives for snacking too. |
erg, sorry for stepping on your post, Blush - don't want to make it sound like I'm trivializing the good stuff you have to say. Although of course you already know you love me. Oh, I mean I love you.
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I'm not trying to belabor the point Candace (really, I'm not) but I just wanted to try and provide a bit of a different perspective.
It's got very little to do with actually being trans and more to do with being required to disclose it to someone. I am transgendered. I do not run around in my daily life and tell folks I meet that I am trans. Some people see me as male, some don't; sometimes I correct pronoun usage, sometimes I don't. Now say I were to go to this dance party and the door person sees me as male. Do I have to disclose that I am anything otherwise? Or if they look at my ID and see my birth name, do I then get a "pass"? Do you see how disheartening this could be? I've got nothing against the Hot Flash Dances and I get the need for lesbian-only or women-only spaces. But I'm neither a woman nor a lesbian, so we won't be going. |
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:gimmehug: I'm thinking of being brave. I'm thinking of coming and with only Gelli to guide me (cuz even though you SHOULD be closer to us, you're really not). I'm thinking of getting absolutely, fantastically, wholly burnt like fluffy marshmallow :blink: |
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It appears that it is just a girls night out. If you don't want to go then don't go.
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in other news....
austin continues to offer up opportunity for me.
i wrote a guy who had an ad up on CL to cast a comedy short. i figure what the hell, can't get the electric chair for asking, right? if i'm going to get any experience and opportunity to do production/still photos, i have to put myself out there. the guy responded favorably to my inquiry and says he may even have some other projects i can shoot for him. thank you universe for flipping the switch in my brain that said quit this suck ass job and move to austin. all praise the infinite wisdom of wil's universe. i will, of course, link y'all up with any work i get. i so needed this today. |
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And, how are they going to prove it? Drop their pants? :) (thinking of volunteering now...) But yeah, I think women-only space and man-only space is awesome. I just think the way they say it is kinda icky. :( BUT! We can have it all! We can party for BBQ at Glyneice's. Then those that want to go party to some awesome music with some fabulous women can. :) And those that don't can stay and play games. SO there! We can have it all in Austin. And DrSassyPants and Maryoosa too! |
good times at the midnight blues ranch
because he probably won't say anything, i will.
ash just had one of his pics picked up by an educational newspaper in the big bend area. the photo world is rockin' in this place tonight! yay ash!!! |
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Glynise, thanks for hosting another party! I will most likely hang out that day for a while :)
Love ya, Candace |
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