Just saying hey
 

Have not been on the sight for a while. Hope everyone is doing well. Did caught up on all the posts that I missed. TGIF just let me make it through this night than 2 days off. I am looking so forward to them....Hey Gina everythinf went well with my son he has some blockage so they started him on new meds, now if he would just listen to the doctor...Love and miss you I have got to get back to kansas for a visit.Everyone have a great weekend:bow:

[QUOTE=janii;433436]Have not been on the sight for a while. Hope everyone is doing well. Did caught up on all the posts that I missed. TGIF just let me make it through this night than 2 days off. I am looking so forward to them....Hey Gina everythinf went well with my son he has some blockage so they started him on new meds, now if he would just listen to the doctor...Love and miss you I have got to get back to kansas for a visit.Everyone have a great weekend:bow:[/QUOT


Hey Lady - it was great talking to you! Okay - so next bash we are so there!!!
:phonegab:

So Happy to see this thread pop up again. How are all you eldrs doing?

Sunday was my 64th birthday. Yikes! Whoever thought I would live this long?


Give me your answer, fill in a form, mine forever more
Will you still need me, will you still feed me when I'm sixty-four?

Smooches,
Keri

Happy Birthday ahead of time to Keri
 

Keri, Congratulations on your upcoming 64th B-day. Next year I will celebrate my 64th. I think you should start celebrating right now and just keep on celebrating as long as you wish---maybe until its time to start celebrating your next one.
Jeano:bunchflowers:

MJO
I had a huge celebration on my birthday. They put on a fantastic parade in my honor in Orlando. See film below.




I got lots of beads, candy, a tote bag and other good stuff. I had so much fun!

When is your birthday - maybe we could make a "bridge" of celebration from my b'day to yours, LOL (and invote in all the other birthday celebrators along the way. Thanks for the best wishes.
Smooches

[quote=Gina;465693]We are so there!!!!!!!!:bow::bow:

I just saw this thread and figured I belonged here.

Ahemmmmm..... I was 62 in Sept. I, too, am in awe that I've lived to be this age. I'm vital, active, and have a sharp mind (that does fog once in awhile). I feel 35 most days, until I realize that may body just can't do that little fancy step as gracefully as it once did.

Ironically, I'm finding that at this age, I truly am younger in body, mind, and spirit than I was two or three years ago. I hike, I dance, I work out. I change my own light bulbs (even though I'm only 5' 1"---a 4 foot ladder is a must-have). I'm learning to do maintenance on my own car. I even put together five pieces of furniture-in-a-box and only had to unscrew and turn a piece a couple of times! (I'm spatially challenged--even with a diagram). I'm also beginning to paint again and lead a women's spiritual group. I travel alone, and I enjoy meeting people wherever I go. And I still am working.

In a nutshell, I like being me. So, hello to all of you elders.

Hello SweetJane.
Love your post. Thanks so much for joining us. I've been a little stuck myself. Hopefully your inspiring post will give me the little kick I've been needing to get going again..
Smooches,
Keri

Keri,
Glad to encourage you, hun. We are awesome elders!

Infidelity at 60
 

Hi, I don't know if this is the place for me to vent. I did try going on the posts re: infidelity; however, everyone seemed so young and thier outlook for the future subconsciously, could have been based on that..I feel, my age has much to do with my decisions...Anyway, my wife and I are together for 16 yrs, married for 10. Long story short, a year ago, I discovered emails written by her and another woman that were love "longing"..I was up in bed recovering from a broken ankle, couldn't walk, and my partner would go downstairs and have telephone conversation with this woman..This went on for 6 weeks before I discovered the emails. They were even planning to meet sometime in the future, as this woman lives in a state far away. They met on line 17 years ago; she was quite young at the time and they had an online/telephone relationship then, but never met. My partner and I had been having family problems that put a wedge between us; however, I never considered she or I would cheat...We love one another emensely. She decided in the fall to live in our beach house and that we should live seperately for a time she could not determine. She said all contact had been cut with this woman. Not true. I found a book the woman sent her containing love and longing quotes and once she called at 1:30 am and my partner got out of bed to go talk with her..downstairs. I didn't know who it was but overheard her calling her "babe"...I have tried leaving her, that very same night, I was so upset; and a few times after that. She would come after me, begging me to come home, and saying she loved me and didn't know why she answered the phone., She said she panicked. My confusion is the "babe" thing. This woman is conserably younger. My wife and I have dinner every night together, go out to dinner, I sleep with her on weekends at our beach house but still she doesn't want to live together. She contends she has reached the end of her rope and needs to spend time alone, (is having a lot of problems with her adult daughter)...but my fear is...is this woman still trying to contact her...She is ruthless...My wife refuses to talk to me about it; says it makes her nervous but that she wants to stay with me, doesn't want to start with a new relationship at this age, it will have kinks of its own to work out...Me? I feel so pathetic...but I know she loves me, and she is the love of my life...How do I trust and believe her, how do I remain strong and accept what she needs...So afraid I will loose...I have nothing...and no one. I feel so alone and lonely, especially at night. We were so close, almost co-dependent. Actually she used to say she liked it that way but has made a complete turn around. Now where before I did nothing alone, I do everything alone and feel so so lost. I could use any opinions and help anyone has..Thanks for listening to this long post. Hope its ok I wrote this...

Sounds familiar in a few ways
 

I reached a point in my 10 year marriage where the adult daughter of my ex-wife's dysfunction, the noise of the grandbaby & dog, & the stress of a tumultuous time with parents dying etc. I needed a break. I moved out around the corner from my wife & we continued that way for about 6-7 months. I was fine with it. I was NOT looking, seeing, talking with or having ANY contact with ANY other people ...nor was she. I had been laid off & decided to move "home" to VA. It didn't mean I stopped loving my wife at all. I actually had hoped & wished she would move here when she retired. That will never happen so we tried the LD relationship & well, that wasn't enough for her. She sounds like you in that she wants a live-in by her side always partner who loves Alabama, children, football etc. That's not me & never has been or will be. I want to be "with" someone, yes but only if it's comfortable for BOTH of us. But, I digress.....LOL.....& I apologize.

Bottom line as I see it is this.......If it never got any better than it is RIGHT now.....is it good enough? if not, then perhaps "waiting" for it to become what you want is a waste of your time. Right NOW is all we have. There ARE people out here that WILL be ble to give you the things you need. If you "feel" betrayed or cheated upon.....then why stay? Can you really rebuild a trust? If you can....then maybe staying is ok......but, you cannot control your partner. If she is interested in another than let her be. That is her path & to wait for something, or expect to "change" the other person to be what YOU want & need....well, that's swimming upstream & most likely to no avail.

Just my thoughts on it.......do what you need to do & want to do for YOU. YOU are the most important person in YOUR life.....we ALL are in our lives too.

Best of luck with whatever your decision is. May you find peace.

Jonathan

Hi you beautiful elders. I hope you are all having a wonderful day. The heat here in Florida is incredible. I usually spend most of my summers in Michigan, but I sold my house there last summer and have less reason to go, so I am staying here. I hope to do a Michigan trip in the fall, when funds will be more available.

I joined a (gay) church a year ago that has turned out to be such a positive thing for me. I am pretty non-religious, but there are very few other ways to meet people in Polk County. I have made many acquaintances with whom I am very comfortable, and who bring fun into my life. Even made a couple of very close friends who are now firmly imbedded in my family and I in theirs.

I have been single for a few months following a short living together relationship. I don't exactly feel on solid ground yet, but that is mostly due to the shifts in my family. My daughter and grandson moved out a few months ago and my son (finally!) graduated from High School. He still "resides" here, but is gone or asleep 90% of the time. So I have a lot of time on my hands.

Discovered a pub quite close to my house that is Lesbian owned. Fridays they have music (no cover, no drink minimum - can't beat it.) A lesbian group called Karmic Tattoo played a week ago. I went with a friend and had a great time. The place was crawling with Dykes of all ages. The atmosphere was more like a club than a bar. People were mingling and introducing themselves, which is great because I am not good at initiating things myself. If a friend is not available, I still do things alone rather than stay home. A relationship still interests me, (HINT HINT!!! LOL) but "nothins cookin" right now.

Love to hear from you silver folk.
Smooches,
Keri

Talk to me, Peeps.
Smooches,
Keri

Hi Keri,glad you are back.Yeah life catches you with a fue curve balls now and then but we are strong and get thrue them with the life experences we have had.You are lucky to have places to go and folks to meet,sounds like fun to me.

I want to join this amazing group as I will turn 60 yrs young in October!
Its been quite a journey and as I get to know you all a little better I will pipe right in. I am newly single,just out of an 8 yr marriage and still living in Barcelona,Spain(its legal here)....but I am coming back to the States close to Christmas. If all goes well and as planned I will be moving to the Houston,TX. area. If any of you dwell in this area or close by...would love to cultivate some friendships. Looking forward to a good future!

I see that you wrote this a bit ago but I don't generally drop in here so just read this.

I wasted 19-years with a cheater. She had repeated affairs, I found out, she lied, I called her on it (I always knew when she lied. I think we always know in our guts when someone is lying-we may chose to ignore it but we know) she would then apologize profusely and I would always want to believe that it was true, that she really loved me and of course, would never do it again.

On and on it went. I was in my 20's when we got together, with two small children and an ex-husband that paid zero child support. I was emotionally dependent on her. I was educated. I always worked but for some reason just could not break away.

Until. She did it one more time too many.

I had enough. Took me 19-years. I was always so embarrassed to admit that but it was the truth. I just grew a backbone finally and kicked her out.

I spent the next 10-years alone. Did not date. Had minimal social life, only with work friends and did not have sex with anyone else.

Last October I finally began to date. I fell in love with a butch on the Planet. She is 10-years younger than I am. I love her heart, her mind, her brains and love looking into her beautiful eyes. I feel as though I can get lost in them forever. We have the same values in loyalty, fidelity and our outlook on life. I laugh every day now, deep laughter from my heart and soul. We have electric sexual chemistry. I had forgotten what that felt like!

Your life will not be over, even if it feels that way, to just say: enough is enough.

You do not deserve to live with such stress and anxiety. You are far stronger than you give yourself credit for and there is true joy just around the corner if you only open your life to it.

Best of luck to you.

Good for you Anya, I had a similar relationship years ago, though, thank the universe, I 'only' put up with it for xeven years. The lies and infidelity are rough on one's self esteem. Glad you have found love and happiness for yourself. Blessings to you.

rockybcn. So sorry to hear about your marriage ending. I hope you have support there in Spain. while you recover from this loss. You will probably have huge culture shock upon your return to the US. but it is natural for you to want to return "home." Are you from Texas? Keep talking to us when you need friends to lean on.

Rockin: Hi sweetie, nice to hear from you. You are always ready with a supportive word or little joke. Its good to know you.

Smooches, y'all
Keri

Thanks Keri...

I am feeling and healing. I took marriage as such a commitment that it had ripped away part of my spirit when it ended. I will always have a place in my heart for her...but I am letting go and letting God show me my authentic self and making all the changes needed for feeling whole again. I will never be perfect but I will strive to live life perfectly in the moment.
I have lived in a number of places....born and raised in Indiana,lived 35 years in Michigan,5 years in NC,5 years in Portland ,OR...then married and living in Spain for 4 years. I will move back to the States close to Christmas and begin working in Houston,TX. I really am excited to start over. Life is so full of promise and adventure. Wishing all you other spring chickens lots of tommorrows full of all lifes best!:wine:

I am 19...