I know that it sounds trite, but forgiveness is so you can move on with peace. Forgetting on the other hand is not required...it gives us the little voice in our head that looks out for the safety of our heart.

Blessings:bunchflowers:

Thanks to both of you for your support. I know it's probably in my best interest to just forgive her and try to work on re-building our friendship. She is really trying hard to make things right, we have been friends a long time, and neither of us is getting any younger....... A lot of people my spouse and I know have either died recently or become disabled, and I'm telling myself that life is too short and something could happen and I may not have another chance to forgive and move on. I guess if things are meant to work out, then they will? At least we are able to sit down and talk now, that's a start.

My goofball, klutzy, "if anything can happen, it will happen to me" best friend. Who spent a big part of the day in Urgi-care.

My girlfriend mainly along with a jumble of 100 million other things.

There are a lot of things on my mind...

... ONE... it's moving day... and this is the most anxiety inducing move I have have ever had... I am moving OUT of my house... and my parents are moving IN... my son will be staying here... My parents are going to keep him for the next two years while I finish school... because full time work, full time school, and full time autism mom... leads to mental breakdowns...

... TWO... I just ended another relationship... and its left me wondering... how I attract so many of the same type of person... I am questioning a lot because of this...

... THREE... I need to spend more time with my daughter. Shes such an amazing young woman, and before I know it shes going to be grown and gone... so much of my time goes to my son... I am missing out on her!

A very special, unique Femme....day and night, night and day...

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:rrose:((((((( Jenn ))))))))))) your just a mother not GOD ~ you can only do so much ~ god bless your parents ~ you needed this help for a long time :) I wish you the best my friend and I respect how much you have taken on, where most would have run away .

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY , JENN

Nothing right now. I am trying to live in the moment.

Wondering if I will be able to work next week...I'm doubting it, but you know I will try.

here it is. 6 years ago I left a job (took a buy out) because for the prior three years I had a supervisor that was unethical and I didn't keep my mouth shut about it. Well, you can guess who management protected: the EAP counselor (unrepresented) or the Manager of the Dept. when the buyout came I took it and luckily enough got the job I have now and love.

Time moves on...about 3 weeks ago I noticed that he viewed me on Linkedin. Today I get this scathing email (he had to go to my school's site to find my school email because the only contact info on there is an aol account, and then went into rate my professor. He left a horrible email that was filled with rage and some glee because of course students who post on Rate My Professor are usually anger at the professor and it is like a negative yelp

I am not breaking confidentiality or even what the agency was but this is the email:

Enjoyed reading the critiques of your performance by your students!They seem wise to you. As an working for me, I nailed you for constantly for using your cell phone during staff and clinical meetings and conducting personal business. I saw you as rude and self important. You could come up with clinical labels for a client but offer nothing of substance or usefulness in terms of interventions or case management techniques. Your case management was shoddy . And you never "implemented" anything. I heard you got the job because you were somebody's friend. it was reflected in your work standands and efforts. Really, you should be embarassed! But, of course now you teach,role model and use it as an opportunity to torture your students who are stuck with you as were your clients. Made4 sense why you enjoyed Robert's comraderie. Birds of a feather...

This is not true but I wonder what more this guy is going to do. It has been 6 years since I left there and never made contact with him again and hardly with anyone in the agency. He went to a lot of trouble to do this.

I wonder if I should be concerned. Will he go to my job? He obviously now knows where I work and what my contact info is. Trying not to catastrophize this but it is weighing on me a little. Any suggestions?

Thanks, I am trying to wind up the semester and it has been a stressful one so I don't need this.

PP

Do I have everything ready for work on Monday amongst a jumble of other stuff as usual.

So I have been doing a lot of writing lately... I find it quite therapeutic to write when I can't sleep...
This is a little tidbit of what I wrote during a moment of insomnia recently. It's all about being unique, which to me is so important.

When people remember you in the future, they won't remember you for how well you blended in; they are going to think about your quirks. So be brave in your quirkiness and stick out like a sore thumb. The people who try to hammer those quirks out of you are the ones who feel inadequate because they've spent their lives trying to blend in. They might convince you that you need to change those idiosyncrasies. But when God made you, that splash of red or flourish of pink or stubbly texture on the canvas looked good to Him. The works of art that the world remembers now are the ones that endured scorn in their time because they were extraordinarily different.

My stepson coming over this morning to see his mom for Mother's Day and telling us that his wife has asked for a divorce.

Plan for the worst, as they say. I'm sure you've documented everything from before you were offered the buyout, if you haven't go back and collect and document as much as you can. If you have, gather everything together so it's convenient. Your job shouldn't need it, should he go to them, but you have it just in case. It'll make you feel better to know you have a plan. Anything he does publicly, rebutt immediately, but stay impersonal. Just the facts, ma'am. Ignore anything personal, like that email, unless it becomes harassment.

Generally speaking, people that bitter and hateful after that long a time are too cowardly to do anything other than send hateful emails or give an ugly review of you. If he does more, then you just need to let everyone know what really happened in a clear, dispassionate way. Most people aren't going to listen to that kind of ranting anyway. I doubt you ever need to do anything, especially after this long. You've been there five or six years now. They know you and your work ethic by now. They're not going to do anything based on heresay from someone who knew you six years ago and obviously has a hate on for you.

Don't worry at all. I doubt he does anything public. If he does something and people see you're not worried about it, they won't worry about it either.

thanks all for the support.

Got my second message to my work/school account. He can't do anything to me, I have tenure and am well respected at the college, ironically enough, I disguarded my files two months ago. I am going to use the Freedom of Information Act to get my employee file from the agency that I worked for. His last message today indicated that he wanted to confront my performance, unhandiness and total lack of integrity but I left before he go do it. As he said "mission accomplished" and then ended it with "now, a nice sunny afternoon to enjoy a walk in the park...."

I spoke to my boss at my current job and she stated that since he is harassing me at my work place I need to inform the College which I plan to do tomorrow.

I am going to look on thumb drives to see if I have the info.