"There's a seat for every ass.
~My late grandmother

“And one has to understand that braveness is not the absence of fear but rather the strength to keep on going forward despite the fear.”
― Paulo Coelho

“I'd run my whole life long to reach you; paddle my way across Atlantic and Pacific; traverse Jungle and Desert to find you; climb cliffs and drop from the sky to rescue you. Anything to be close to you. Any way to say I love you.”
― Heather Kris Thomas

“There are always answers. We just have to be smart enough.”
― John Green

“I'm not saying that I think one man is better than the other. I'm not saying that either is kinder or wiser or more ambitious, more thoughtful, confident, or able. But the fact is that when I'm with the one, comfort settles into my bones. I feel calm around him, as if the sun is smiling down on me and the world has suddenly become a sweet, safe place to be. I feel good about life―about myself. And it's hard not to want to be near someone who, just by their very nature, makes you feel that way.”
― Richelle E. Goodrich


“I don't know how people can fake whole relationships... I can't even fake a hello to somebody I don't like”
― Ziad K. Abdelnour



“Two broken people don't make a whole, and together they make a very unhealthy relationship. Finding love in a hopeless place only means you are probably boarding a runaway train, and we all know what happens to runaway trains. ”
― Evinda Lepins

"One does not find forgiveness by way of prostration and self-recrimination or guilt. Forgiveness is a journey of the self. The pathway to forgiveness is accomplished in these steps:

1 - acknowledge each harmful behavior;
2 - explore in a calm and earnest manner, from the root, the personal actions that have caused harm;
3 - put into action the things you have learned; and
4 - remove from yourself the label of "bad", taking the label of "human" instead.

Forgiveness is the state of being found at the end of this journey.

What about forgiveness from others, Master? How do we get others to forgive us the injuries we have dealt them?

Forgiveness from others does not exist. This is a nonsense idea. There is no state of grace that can be bestowed by someone who has declared themselves an injured party. The injured party is not an enlightened being simply because he or she has been injured, just as the offending party is not somehow wreathed in a cloud of disgrace because he or she has done harm. Generally speaking, there are no enlightened people, only enlightened activities.

Doesn't the person who has been harmed deserve something from the one who has injured them? Do they receive nothing for their pain?

If the person dealing the injury has sincerely undertaken a journey of forgiveness, the person who has been harmed has been given all they are owed and more. There is no more they need be given unless the laws of the land have been violated. That is a matter best deliberated by others.

Listen to me. You have been taught that forgiveness is power; power to bestow relief upon someone you believe has done harm. This is not so. This is wrong thinking. When harm has been done, all concerned occupy the same moment. No one is removed from the circumstances that led to that moment. To be truly free of that moment one must choose the journey toward forgiveness. Those who have been harmed must also take this journey of four steps. They must acknowledge the injurious behavior that caused the harm in question and carefully explore, from the earliest moment, each personal action that contributed to that state of injury. They must adopt the changes in behavior that will stop the harmful act from occurring again and remove all labels but "human" from themselves. In this way they will also find a state of forgiveness. There is no granting to be done. There is only learning and being, exploring and doing. That is all.

But those things all sound the same Master! What the injured party does sounds no different from what must be done by the one who dealt the the injury in the first place.

Yes! Yes! Very good! You understand exactly!"




from "Conversations with Shunryu Suzuki"

"Pain is mandatory, suffering is optional." ~ His Holiness, The 14th Dalai Lama

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It is tact that is golden, not silence.
-Samuel Butler

"Ah, gravity - thou art a heartless bitch."

-- Sheldon Cooper (character on Big Bang Theory)

Anything looked at closely becomes wonderful.--A. R. Ammons

“You can speak to me like you haven’t spoken even to yourself.”
― Simona Panova

“ You would be alot happier if you would stop reading between lines that aren't there.”
― Unknown

“The most important things in a romantic relationship are compromise, honesty, openness, humility and trust. If you don't have these with someone, you don't have anything.”
― C. JoyBell C.

All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.--Ralph Waldo Emerson

" The biggest lie we tell ourselves: When I get what I want, I will be happy.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Those who say that money can’t buy you love make it sound as if love can buy you money.” - Unknown


“Love: The heart wants what it wants. It doesn't seek other people’s opinions; sometimes not even your own.”
― Steve Maraboli

Dream as if you'll live forever. Live as if you'll die today.--James Dean

“Never hesitate to let the one you love know how you feel. Align your minds, synchronise your hearts and above be fearless when dancing with their souls.”
― Truth Devour

“Create intoxicating moments that make your heart pulsate to a new rhythm.”
― Truth Devour

“The right one for you will move mountains to be with you - he won't hide behind them.”
― Mandy Hale