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Daktari 06-07-2011 10:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Ms. Meander (Post 354017)
This last week would have been challenging for me even if I was not quitting smoking. It has been touch and go, and I would not consider myself successful except that progress is evident. I am not back to my regular habit nor do I give up. Just trying to get a grip so Quitting does not = Nervous Breakdown. :praying:

Very well done for not diving head-long back into smoking. Some progress is better than none though. I hope the challenges you're facing subside and give you a break to concentrate on quitting.

I discovered that as long as I maintained the very positive self-talk I created for myself before starting the process it was easier to say no to the 'stress ciggies'. Not to mention I was scared stiff.

I am pleased to report that Non-Mrs.I has smoked what is hopefully her last real ciggie and is currently using an e-cig. She has circulatory problems in her legs which are hugely exacerbated by smoking. We recently found out that an acquaintance who has similar circulatory problems has now lost a leg upto mid-thigh. He's only in his 30s. The fear has finally hit her.


Keep the faith and don't give up giving up.

Daktari 06-07-2011 11:50 AM

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Originally Posted by gaea (Post 353986)
Doc,
you have no idea how incredibly happy i am today :) I wish you could see the smile on my face...


Wooohoooo for excesses of happiness. I'm so pleased you're having a great day... a great smoke free day no less. I wish I could see that smile too!
:cheerleader::cheerleader::cheerleader:

Ms. Meander 06-08-2011 02:40 AM

Haha!
 

Daktari 06-08-2011 04:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Ms. Meander (Post 354695)

Just chew some gum and say F*ck You.....I love it! :cheesy:

Julie 06-08-2011 07:15 AM

I fell!
A couple days ago - I had a meltdown. A genuine meltdown directed at my three son's. I became hysterical (lol omg so dramatic) and stole one of Isa's (middle son's) cigs and smoked it, as if I had never quit. And then another. And then the next morning, snuck into his room and stole one out of his pack, and then another. Then yesterday same routine - except Isa left for the week and then some of Ben's friends came over who smoked and when they were not looking, I stole theirs!

How Pathetic!

I just charged my e-cig and at some point this morning will go get some mild filters. I am not sure why I cannot manage my emotions, except ---- I did just get my period, a week early and I am emotional for a variety of reasons -- But why the cigs? Why do we always reach for the cigs?

That is all - I am not ashamed, just a bit disappointed in myself. I am glad the kids left for a few days - I need to regroup and find some *me* time and get back on track. AND - I told Isa, you cannot come back home with cigarettes. I am not strong enough yet.

Julie

gaea 06-08-2011 08:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Incubus (Post 353951)
don't hestitate to ask for support...don't struggle in silence, come talk about it, there's loads of us who know the highs and lows of this journey.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Julie (Post 354775)
I fell!
A couple days ago - I had a meltdown. A genuine meltdown directed at my three son's. I became hysterical (lol omg so dramatic) and stole one of Isa's (middle son's) cigs and smoked it, as if I had never quit. And then another. And then the next morning, snuck into his room and stole one out of his pack, and then another. Then yesterday same routine - except Isa left for the week and then some of Ben's friends came over who smoked and when they were not looking, I stole theirs!

How Pathetic!

I just charged my e-cig and at some point this morning will go get some mild filters. I am not sure why I cannot manage my emotions, except ---- I did just get my period, a week early and I am emotional for a variety of reasons -- But why the cigs? Why do we always reach for the cigs?

That is all - I am not ashamed, just a bit disappointed in myself. I am glad the kids left for a few days - I need to regroup and find some *me* time and get back on track. AND - I told Isa, you cannot come back home with cigarettes. I am not strong enough yet.

Julie

You are human love. just keep pushing through because you want this...

For me the meltdowns make me want to smoke as well...they are emotionally charged..for me those bad days i want more than anything to smoke and i do not...for me it was always about , are you ready for this....i smoked to "AVOID" emotion.....nice huh... now im 41 with the emotions of a teenager wtf is that about....

so now i dont smoke and i have these things called "emotions" creeping up on me all the time...learning to deal with them one at a time...

there was this old thought
"If i smoke i don't have to deal with the bad stuff"

Here is a new thought
"the bad stuff is gonna happen anyway, no need to smoke"

Daktari 06-08-2011 10:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Julie (Post 354775)
I fell!
A couple days ago - I had a meltdown. A genuine meltdown directed at my three son's. I became hysterical (lol omg so dramatic) and stole one of Isa's (middle son's) cigs and smoked it, as if I had never quit. And then another. And then the next morning, snuck into his room and stole one out of his pack, and then another. Then yesterday same routine - except Isa left for the week and then some of Ben's friends came over who smoked and when they were not looking, I stole theirs!

How Pathetic!

I just charged my e-cig and at some point this morning will go get some mild filters. I am not sure why I cannot manage my emotions, except ---- I did just get my period, a week early and I am emotional for a variety of reasons -- But why the cigs? Why do we always reach for the cigs?

That is all - I am not ashamed, just a bit disappointed in myself. I am glad the kids left for a few days - I need to regroup and find some *me* time and get back on track. AND - I told Isa, you cannot come back home with cigarettes. I am not strong enough yet.

Julie


There, you hit it on the head Julie, there's no need for shame just a bit of disappointment in yourself...none of us will be ashamed or disappointed in you. We're here to support not knock folks down. You've charged your e-cig...well done!!

I think you have every right to expect some support in this from your sons if they live with you.

The line I will continue to use is...

Keep the faith and don't give up giving up :thumbsup:

gaea 06-09-2011 11:21 AM

For Everyone...
 


Keep on Keepin On....

Daktari 06-09-2011 11:24 AM

couldn't resist


princessbelle 06-09-2011 01:46 PM

I reluctantly have to say i fell of the wagon.

The e-ciggs however do work for me and i can quit on them.

They don't however last very long (the charge). I am going to buy another one or another type with hopefully a longer battery charge on Friday.

Keep up the good work all. So proud of you!!!!!

Daktari 06-09-2011 03:08 PM

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Originally Posted by princessbelle (Post 355632)
I reluctantly have to say i fell of the wagon.

The e-ciggs however do work for me and i can quit on them.

They don't however last very long (the charge). I am going to buy another one or another type with hopefully a longer battery charge on Friday.

Keep up the good work all. So proud of you!!!!!

It's ok princessbelle, you can jump back on anytime...the smoking wagon passes by frequently.

Something that worked for me was having a plastic inhalator thingy
http://i132.photobucket.com/albums/q...3/images-3.jpg
because it didn't look remotely like a cig. I wanted to break the visual thang. I used the nicotine cartridges for a few weeks but by then I'd broken the hand-to-mouth habit and didn't need the inhalator. I was taking Champix/tix though so the inhalator was just about breaking the hand-to-mouth action.


lillith 06-10-2011 07:12 PM

Ok, so I am working on 15 weeks, and I live with a smoker. Every time she smokes, I get heartburn? What is that?

I kinda want to address something else that is part of this process, and that is the hand to mouth issue, or in other words, gaining weight.

When I quit, I was probably 230lbs, and then I gained 10lbs. I feel like I am having to retrain every aspect of my life. The quitting part seems like it is the easiest part. Changing my eating and exercise habits is really kicking my ass. So, today, I played a dance workout game for about an hour with my son. Hopefully, I will get up and do it again tomorrow. I think I am looking for something else to do with my hands beside smoke or eat. :s

Thanks for listening.

Glenn 06-10-2011 07:57 PM

Well Lilith; The best thing that helps me is when I am riding my bike, I don't crave something bad to do with my hands like eat more or smoke. I've also noticed that some folks who use to smoke and quit, also developed some serious health issues. My business partner developed a severe allergic reaction to smoke that she said closes her throat. I do not know if this is true.

gaea 06-10-2011 08:00 PM

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Originally Posted by lillith (Post 356289)
Ok, so I am working on 15 weeks, and I live with a smoker. Every time she smokes, I get heartburn? What is that?

I kinda want to address something else that is part of this process, and that is the hand to mouth issue, or in other words, gaining weight.

When I quit, I was probably 230lbs, and then I gained 10lbs. I feel like I am having to retrain every aspect of my life. The quitting part seems like it is the easiest part. Changing my eating and exercise habits is really kicking my ass. So, today, I played a dance workout game for about an hour with my son. Hopefully, I will get up and do it again tomorrow. I think I am looking for something else to do with my hands beside smoke or eat. :s

Thanks for listening.

The ten pounds is kicking my ass too however be prepared for additional weight when you start working out its muscle that's in essence where my ten pounds have come from...although my body is taking a different shape lol im still irritated with the weight gain...

don't starve yourself if you need to eat however aren't hungry eat fruit..or snack on sunflower seeds or what have you make sure you stay healthy is all.

I work out every morning....it helps a lot.

The heartburn thing ive noticed that as well i think it is because nicotine is entering your body through second hand smoke...even though you quit your still getting it. Get some rolaids...

i hope the above helps

I had a nightmare last night dreamt i smoked and that i had a pack of cigarettes in my hand, when i realized in my dream what i was doing and what i was holding i sat down plum where i was at and screamed at myself these words...

"dammit heather, now you have to start all over what were you thinking, it was hard enough to get here to 2 months" <~~~~My subconscious perhaps?

It was really weird even weirder is i didn't remember it until i was working out this morning....and then i realized im ok...i don't have to be afraid of success...i think i have been afraid of succeeding.....

So while at work today this fella i occasionally talk with i mentioned to him i quit smoking and he asked me some questions and one of my responses was its a choice that i make every day to not smoke...I think for now for me this is a choice i have to make every day and that the dream was just a fool trick and that as long as i make this choice for me, im good...

The only thing to fear is fear itself...

diggen my :blueheels: in today and every day

DapperButch 06-10-2011 08:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Incubus (Post 355678)
It's ok princessbelle, you can jump back on anytime...the smoking wagon passes by frequently.

Something that worked for me was having a plastic inhalator thingy
http://i132.photobucket.com/albums/q...3/images-3.jpg
because it didn't look remotely like a cig. I wanted to break the visual thang. I used the nicotine cartridges for a few weeks but by then I'd broken the hand-to-mouth habit and didn't need the inhalator. I was taking Champix/tix though so the inhalator was just about breaking the hand-to-mouth action.


An ex of mine quit on these about 12 years ago.

lillith 06-10-2011 08:27 PM

http://i132.photobucket.com/albums/q...3/images-3.jpg

This picture kinda irks me because cartridges look like hollowpoint bullets :fastdraq: :s

Daktari 06-10-2011 08:42 PM

It's so late here and it's my hometown Pride in a few hours, so I will come back to you all in a day or so. Keep the faith and don't give up giving up.


The weight. Oh my Lord that's my bugbear. I've put on a quarter of my original bodyweight and it irks me soooooo bad. I purposely didn't substitute cigs for food.


gaea 06-10-2011 08:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Incubus (Post 356383)
It's so late here and it's my hometown Pride in a few hours, so I will come back to you all in a day or so. Keep the faith and don't give up giving up.


The weight. Oh my Lord that's my bugbear. I've put on a quarter of my original bodyweight and it irks me soooooo bad. I purposely didn't substitute cigs for food.


Happy Pride you.......

Daktari 06-10-2011 09:07 PM

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Originally Posted by gaea (Post 356403)
Happy Pride you.......

WoooHooo it's Blackpool Pride.

Ta ever so gaea

The Fag Father will become Alice Allarse (Drag queen extraordinaire) and we will be the oddest couple at our small town** Pride. It's gonna be a fun day! :cheesy:




**we are a smallish town with a long-standing, thriving gay scene

Daktari 06-10-2011 09:13 PM

I should tell y'all...before I try and switch off.

I have a chest infection right now. I feel pretty bad. This time last year I would have been totally incapacitated, unable to move more than a couple of steps without gasping for breath. Not to put too finer point on it...I'm coughing up but I shall ride my bike to Pride tomorrow.

Result!

gaea 06-10-2011 09:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Incubus (Post 356414)
I should tell y'all...before I try and switch off.

I have a chest infection right now. I feel pretty bad. This time last year I would have been totally incapacitated, unable to move more than a couple of steps without gasping for breath. Not to put too finer point on it...I'm coughing up but I shall ride my bike to Pride tomorrow.

Result!

Please keep that infection in mind while riding in pride ok...have you seen a doctor for it? and no being admitted to the Hospital ok ...on the positive note...im glad your not incapacitated...you rule...get to feeling better..

Daktari 06-10-2011 09:30 PM

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Originally Posted by gaea (Post 356421)
Please keep that infection in mind while riding in pride ok...have you seen a doctor for it? and no being admitted to the Hospital ok ...on the positive note...im glad your not incapacitated...you rule...get to feeling better..

There's another week or so until I can get to working on feeling better. No matter, this could be 500% (yes I really mean that much) worse.

Pride...WoooHoooo!

and with that, I'm gone to find the sleep faeries

OS Butch 06-11-2011 06:11 AM

Good morning and Happy Smoke-Free days to all!

I have been very busy and happy to report today is 12 days smoke free. I called my kid and asked her to remove all smoke paraphernalia from the back porch so when I arrive home it won't be staring at me.

Incubus, sorry to hear of that chest infection! Please take care as much and possible. Have a happy Pride!

Good morning gaea, lilith, Dapper Butch, popcorninthesofa and all those trying to kick the habit!

Have a great smoke free weekend.

OSB

gaea 06-11-2011 07:47 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by OS Butch (Post 356532)
Good morning and Happy Smoke-Free days to all!

I have been very busy and happy to report today is 12 days smoke free. I called my kid and asked her to remove all smoke paraphernalia from the back porch so when I arrive home it won't be staring at me.

Incubus, sorry to hear of that chest infection! Please take care as much and possible. Have a happy Pride!

Good morning gaea, lilith, Dapper Butch, popcorninthesofa and all those trying to kick the habit!

Have a great smoke free weekend.

OSB

Good for you.....aren't you just amazed about this? nearly 2 weeks for you.

Keep on going OS

Tommi 06-11-2011 12:51 PM

Butt I am an artist.
 
I was standing outside my Chiro's office waiting for them to open, and folks were smoking. So, I added my touch to the butt's. No, I do not own a sopabox, just funnin' when I can about a really hard subject.

http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/l...31090840-1.jpg

Way to go to those of you haning in , hangin out, and just concerned.

DapperButch 06-11-2011 04:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by OS Butch (Post 356532)
Good morning and Happy Smoke-Free days to all!

I have been very busy and happy to report today is 12 days smoke free. I called my kid and asked her to remove all smoke paraphernalia from the back porch so when I arrive home it won't be staring at me.

Incubus, sorry to hear of that chest infection! Please take care as much and possible. Have a happy Pride!

Good morning gaea, lilith, Dapper Butch, popcorninthesofa and all those trying to kick the habit!

Have a great smoke free weekend.

OSB

Congrats on the 12 days! And good idea to get rid of the paraphernalia!

P.S. I have been smoke free for quite a while. My purpose on this thread is just to give support to the quitters. Earlier in the thread I asked if us quitters were welcome.

Daktari 06-11-2011 04:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by OS Butch (Post 356532)
Good morning and Happy Smoke-Free days to all!

I have been very busy and happy to report today is 12 days smoke free. I called my kid and asked her to remove all smoke paraphernalia from the back porch so when I arrive home it won't be staring at me.

Incubus, sorry to hear of that chest infection! Please take care as much and possible. Have a happy Pride!

Good morning gaea, lilith, Dapper Butch, popcorninthesofa and all those trying to kick the habit!

Have a great smoke free weekend.

OSB

12 days woooohooooo! Go you OSButch :thumbsup: That's really good news.

You're all doing brilliantly...Keep the faith!!




...in other news. It's been a great Pride day and champagne has helped me forget about feeling poorly. :cheesy:

OS Butch 06-11-2011 06:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DapperButch (Post 356847)
Congrats on the 12 days! And good idea to get rid of the paraphernalia!

P.S. I have been smoke free for quite a while. My purpose on this thread is just to give support to the quitters. Earlier in the thread I asked if us quitters were welcome.

Dude, I welcome support from all. I really appreciate it no matter how long someone has given up smoking. I hope one day to be one of the supports that can say that same thing. Thanks again!

OS Butch 06-11-2011 06:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Incubus (Post 356863)
12 days woooohooooo! Go you OSButch :thumbsup: That's really good news.

You're all doing brilliantly...Keep the faith!!




...in other news. It's been a great Pride day and champagne has helped me forget about feeling poorly. :cheesy:

Thanks dude.

Gotta love champagne to help out any day! Glad you had a great Pride day!

gaea 06-12-2011 12:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DapperButch (Post 356847)
Congrats on the 12 days! And good idea to get rid of the paraphernalia!

P.S. I have been smoke free for quite a while. My purpose on this thread is just to give support to the quitters. Earlier in the thread I asked if us quitters were welcome.


I believe all support is welcomed here.

OS Butch 06-12-2011 07:28 PM

Good evening and Happy Smoke Free Sunday.

I have arrived home on the eve of my 2 weeks being a quitter! I was a bit shocked at how immediate the urge to have a smoke was when I walked through my front door. Well, my kid made sure everything was gone, I am very grateful for that! She also put a bag of sour gumballs on my pillow:) I love my kid!

gaea 06-13-2011 07:07 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by OS Butch (Post 357733)
Good evening and Happy Smoke Free Sunday.

I have arrived home on the eve of my 2 weeks being a quitter! I was a bit shocked at how immediate the urge to have a smoke was when I walked through my front door. Well, my kid made sure everything was gone, I am very grateful for that! She also put a bag of sour gumballs on my pillow:) I love my kid!


The gumballs were her way of saying "please don't smoke"......

Keep it up ...

Tommi 06-13-2011 07:15 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by OS Butch (Post 357733)
Good evening and Happy Smoke Free Sunday.

I have arrived home on the eve of my 2 weeks being a quitter! I was a bit shocked at how immediate the urge to have a smoke was when I walked through my front door. Well, my kid made sure everything was gone, I am very grateful for that! She also put a bag of sour gumballs on my pillow:) I love my kid!

Quote:

Originally Posted by gaea (Post 357979)
The gumballs were her way of saying "please don't smoke"......

Keep it up ...


Your right gaea. That is true love..:stillheart:

Wat to go OSB

http://s7d2.scene7.com/is/image/sams..._size_200x200$

OS Butch 06-13-2011 01:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gaea (Post 357979)
The gumballs were her way of saying "please don't smoke"......

Keep it up ...

Yes, it is exactly that. I have just had one of those sour gumball....I like tart but ohmygoodness this is cheek puckering sour! The are called Cry Baby Extra Sour Bubble Gum from Dubble Bubble....Caution reads You'll only cry for 40 seconds.

Today is 2 weeks smoke free!

OS Butch 06-13-2011 01:40 PM

Those are the ones she left me Tommi! Thanks dude.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tommi (Post 357981)
Your right gaea. That is true love..:stillheart:

Wat to go OSB

http://s7d2.scene7.com/is/image/sams..._size_200x200$


Daktari 06-13-2011 02:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by OS Butch (Post 358165)
Yes, it is exactly that. I have just had one of those sour gumball....I like tart but ohmygoodness this is cheek puckering sour! The are called Cry Baby Extra Sour Bubble Gum from Dubble Bubble....Caution reads You'll only cry for 40 seconds.

Today is 2 weeks smoke free!

WoooHoooo OS Butch...weeks rather than days is grand! Go you!!

:happyjump::thumbsup:

OS Butch 06-13-2011 02:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Incubus (Post 358191)
WoooHoooo OS Butch...weeks rather than days is grand! Go you!!

:happyjump::thumbsup:

Incubus! You are right, weeks sounds so much better! Thanks.:)

Daktari 06-14-2011 05:02 PM

Ooooh I so wanted to smoke yesterday and today. Essay writing triggers cravings. Does it every time. I'm sure by the time Thursday evening comes round and I've handed in the cravings will stop.

I won't cave in, I just thought I'd share that even a year or so away from my last ciggie there is still the occasional craving. They're pretty easy to deal with nowadays though. Jeepers! Never thought that phrase would ever come outta my mouth. :cheesy:

OS Butch 06-14-2011 08:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Incubus (Post 359037)
Ooooh I so wanted to smoke yesterday and today. Essay writing triggers cravings. Does it every time. I'm sure by the time Thursday evening comes round and I've handed in the cravings will stop.

I won't cave in, I just thought I'd share that even a year or so away from my last ciggie there is still the occasional craving. They're pretty easy to deal with nowadays though. Jeepers! Never thought that phrase would ever come outta my mouth. :cheesy:

You go dude! I hope I can say that in 50 more weeks!

gaea 06-15-2011 06:48 AM

A phrase ive been using a aloty lately
 
Keep on keepin on....

not only have i used it a lot lately however i have also seen in written context in just about every book i have picked up ...

temptation all around all the time...its a choice i'm making every day,yesterday ,today etc...through the tears the heartaches and what not's...

I went to the driving range with a smoker friend yesterday...hm no i did not cave...no i did not smoke....i did however roll one around between my fingers to see how it felt...and well it was odd the feeling in all honesty...tried to get a hold of what i used to feel...and i couldn't...i could have taken the next step and lit it however i didn't want to and i didnt want to throw away my 9 weeks 2 days lol

i like what you say doc...

I dont conform easily to societal rules and such on how to live same went for the patch...i used a 21 mg the whole time....when i want to cut down i cut the 21 mg in half then quarters then in 8ths....im officially off the patch...no wonder im a wreck...


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