Agreed.
People lie about the funniest things like eating candy. Then you find 4 candy wrappers in the car. Makes me scratch my head.

When I was 18 years old I found my GF's mother in my garage trying to break into my Camero at 6:00 am to steal my gas card from the console. It is funny now but it was a good lesson about trust.

for me it is things more sensitive like 420. I am an advocate for it. I do not partake. I believe it helps some people but every time people have NOT been honest with me on that... it turns out.. it is because they are an addict. SO, people get major major kudos, points, and RESPECT for being up front and honest on that one! if i am going to have that in my life on a daily basis... i think it is something i should know.

know thyself

I get that.

I was young and very social in the 70's and 80's. I knew a lot of folks addicted to drugs and booze. I held more than one human all night that eventually died from drugs. I have been shot at more times then I care to remember and seen the faces of crying parents. It is that lifestyle I hate it is very dangerous to all.
That is also why I hate the smell of patchouli a lot of druggies use that smell to hide the smell of drugs. Been there done that and survived it.

Yeah,I dont get people who lie,like you're gunna get caught out eventually and I hate liers.
Also a red flag is people who go from one I'm in love to the next I'm in love in 6 weeks,how is that possible?
Ive only loved 2 women,so If I hear that,I'm out of there.
I just left a FB singles group,pretty scary lol

PSYCHOS not the good kinda crazy women but the actual PSYCHOS who will try to kill you or take the transmission out of your truck.

Narcissicts

Yikes JD you need a different source or venue for meeting women......:|

Been there done that. Watch your back buddy. I have spent too many nights worried that a femme would stab me in my sleep.

People who feel the need to tell/show/explain to me how clever they are. Instant turn-off!

Yikes, thankfully I've never experienced this concern....

I am glad too, no one should experience the yuckiness that I have lived.

homoe and Chad, explain this to me, I don't get it. 2 people who became fulfilled enough with their tryst that they have fallen asleep, one (presumably the femme) awakens psychotic, stabs you and steals items from you.

Let's break this down: You meet chic, presumably at a club, have a few alcoholic or non-alcoholic beverages.

You choose to leave said drinking establishment with her going to a place where a bed exists. You become horizontal (dressed or not-unclear). Do an activity causing you both to take a deep dive into sublimation.

Suddenly, unbenounced to the butch of the species, the femme suddenly arises wielding a knife, threatening the previous sex partner, actually injuring the sex partner. I have not heard of this practice. In how many cases of casual tryst does it occur?

This type of behavior seems more prevalent in certain types of spiders, chimpanzees, or grasshoppers. Is anyone familiar with this occurring in any others out there? I'd be particularly interested in higher primates, with special interest in these types of aggression in Bonobo and the Orangutan.
Would like to do this first study before going to Fet Life's BDSM Theory. I ask, please that no one else act on this topic. Thank You.

trysts
 

Ditto... idk what to say, the entire subject is foreign to me, never knew anyone like that. Even talking with other womyn, no-one they knew had behaved like that. Having said that, of course, there are womyn who hook up with others in a kind of arrangement instead of a relationship, where they expect something in return for sex - that is, a financial incentive, whence the expression "gold-digger", in other words, a "partner" who likes/loves you not for who you are, but for what you can provide them with. For richer or poorer, in sickness or in health would mean nothing to such a person. Whether butch or femme, straight or gay, etc., they always have an agenda, and it is very difficult to know what such a person really thinks. Of course, our society still promotes this "arrangement".

um.... from the expression, caveat emptor... might be better to say caveat "tryst" !

cathexis, it has NEVER happened to me. You'll have to depend on Chad for an explanation.

when it's important to think/plan ahead and you don't:tea:

This sounds like that movie Fatal Attraction. If you experienced that situation then I am sorry about that. I have nothing to add here.

Sheesh, this was an attempt at jocularity. Life ain't that serious. Homoe got it...I think. Or maybe my sense of humour is Really that twisted. Anyway, Happy Chanukah!

But you are the one that said this .... *points down*

I don't have the same sense of humor as cathexis but I believe this post is the catalyst for cathexis' post that confused you.

Perhaps you are correct.

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A cheapskate, penny-pincher, tightwad, miser, skinflint....well you get the picture......

People who don't vote.

Instant turnoffs
 

I will not venture to say after the last fiasco I went through for speaking my mind but there are 3 major things I do not like and would not date a woman who is or does any one of them. Not picky, just lots of experience.

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Stone the best part of being confident in ourselves is we KNOW what we want ~ settling is for house foundations, not for life lol lol ~ freedom of speech don't forget ! when you speak your mind ~ you just taught someone else your truth , capish ?

Instant turnoffs
 

ocean I know what you are saying, however I KNOW I will be chastised in a serious manner and probably put on time out once again so I can't. I can just say I do have them and so I can only speak for my personal self the fact I have instant turnoffs.

Instant Turn-Offs
 

Weak, cowardly and deceitful people/person.

Smoking cigarettes or smoking anything. Smoking can and will kill you.

Such a huge turn off.

Im glad i have been smoke free since June 6th. Ive had many stressful events happen since i quit but i never once wanted to light up and smoke. That was a very bad, unhealthy habit i have had for years and im so glad i finally saw the light.

Those who drink yet lie about it. Just own your stuff man…

Instant Turn Offs
 

When going on a first date to a party let your date know if you are a "drug user socially". Works both ways. No surprises.

Disrespect and rudeness in any form.. shown to Me.. or to anyone else.

Arrogance and conversely, being timid or shy.

People that think that others are beneath them - that the world revolves around them - and in general they think you are "out of their league". In a word: narcissist.

tobacco smokers, 420 is fine but only medical
poor hygiene
no home training, ie how to wash dishes by hand, keep the house clean, et al...
dirty smells of any kind, dog, cat, human, you get the idea

Instant Turn-offs.
 

When you are being yourself and she says "It's ok I can open my own door" LOL. Spoiled my whole dinner before we ate. Our first and last date.

When you are on a date, and you catch that person making side glances (or even straight out looks) that are suggestive to another.

Also, when your date monopolizes the conversation- or even worse just talks about herself the whole date.

You're out on a date with someone whom you know lives with others. There are 3 separate full-bathrooms in this large four or five-bedroom home where several people of different sexes, genders, and orientations live.

The date and I get hot, heavy, gooey, and messy. Toward the end of the date, I head for the nearest bath to clean up a bit before getting dressed.

Right before sitting down, I notice something sitting on the lid top. I decided to look closer at the item. There, in plain sight, sitting on an otherwise clean toilet tank lid is a used and leaking condom. The nasty guy could have put a knot in it, put it in the trash, or flushed it. No, he's gotta be gross setting it on the lid where many of us would have shells, dop. kit, kleenex, tp, or pick any other suitable item. I had to stop my clean-up and move to one of the other washrooms. It was years (maybe 40 plus) ago, but it's nothing I'll probably ever forget. :brainsucker::deepthoughts::deepthoughts:

Instant Turnoff …
 

People who have an incessant need for personal attention … in all ways, shape or form. A huge big red flag, if you ask me. :firetruck:

Instant Turn-Offs
 

Going to dinner and the person you invited can't get her face away from her cell phone. Happened once. I got tired of it and just picked up my cutlery and my plate of food and walked to an empty table. First and last.