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I had my shoulder looked at this past week. He thinks its a tear in the rotator cuff and has ordered an MRI. We're waiting to see if my insurance covers this particular image service. I talked to him about several things and the nicest part is that I now have primary care at Atlanta's gay/gay friendly practice. I'm really comfortable discussing personal health issues with them and being on T. There are concerns he has with that but I will work it out over time. For now, I'm delaying taking any more T.

Jet, I hope it is something minor and easy to fix.

- morning all!
im off to work in a bit, 12-7pm shift today..
and celebrating a resident's birthday today so some gifts to bring!

otherwise just been relaxing and taking in this beautiful cool fall morning.. it's gorgeous out there, the sun is shining and have gotten lots done this morning which feels great..

hope you all have a fabulous kind of day today!

Hi everyone, i hope you are all enjoying the day....only 1 more day till Friday!!

I haven't been in here for awhile. Hope you're all okay.

I have noticed single, older people on a few threads talking about the kind of relationships they prefer at this stage of life and why they are seeking a particular type of thing i.e. long distance vs local, live-in vs not, hot/steamy vs companionship, commitment vs dating etc. I'm wondering what single folks in this thread are thinking/looking/hoping for in their next relationship and why, if they care to share that.

Good questions Kobi. At this stage in my life I am looking for a friend/companion first. Possible romantic feelings yes. This person should share some similar interests, be intelligent, care about our world and all the animals in it, have the ability to communicate and is a good listener. I have done the long distance relationships and they can be very painful and disappointing so I say no to that forever. If someone comes on very strong right off the bat; red flags go up and I want to run away as fast as I can. I no longer fall for false flattery. Thanks for asking us! What about yourself?

For me, it would be friends first then if romantic feelings start then terrific. The Butch would need to love animals, be thoughtful, care about themself and others, be a good listener, good communication, have some similiar interests. I've been in long distance relationships and some have been painful but a few were good

I haven't been in a long term relationship in so long, its hard to say what I would want. She has to intrigue me that's for sure. And at this age I think its okay to expect that her life is her own and her kids (if there are any) are adult enough to be on their own. At this age I believe we have paid our way—we're entitled to our own happiness and some freedoms.

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Originally Posted by Jet (Post 211888)

sing it!! and amen!

And? I definitely don't want to be used for my money. I mean, I've worked really really hard for 30+ years to be where I am, not high up, but satisfied with my earnings and I want to play just as hard as I work. Please don't hit me up for cash, I have adult kids to do that! LOL
*I DO SHARE* just sayin.........
Soon to be, fabulously 50! :bunchflowers:

Can't be with anyone who enables their kids or anyone else. I had a short experience with a woman who wiped her kid's butt and cleaned up her messes.
I guess I demand attention, but I damn well give it, too.

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Originally Posted by Jet (Post 211899)

It gives me a great deal of pleasure to give my kids cash when they least expect it, and they don't expect it. I've raised a couple of really hard working, well adjusted adults who stand on their own. and? I'm a giver, not a micro-manager, but a giver, that's what makes me happy :)

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Originally Posted by LipstickLola (Post 211900)

I dont see you enabling a child in their dysfunction, there's a big difference.

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Originally Posted by Jet (Post 211901)

I dont see you enabling a child in their dysfunction, there's a big difference.

Well? *confession warning* honestly? I find that there is a fine line, and sadly, I no doubt have enabled a few times when I should have stepped away, but it's like anything else in life, you live and learn and burn! :)

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Originally Posted by Kobi (Post 211792)

you know.. i don't know what i really want anymore.. i do know someday i want commitment, and i do know from now on, it will be friendship first.. i need to someone as much as i want them to know me, to see if there is compatibility .. i'm old school, i'm stone, i'm submissive, i'm many things that tie up into one unique girl - and it's difficult to find someone who respects & appreciates those things about me - so no more seeking.. at this point it's just about continuing on my journey of self & meeting new friends and getting myself back out there.. and then, what happens, happens..

as for long distance vs local.. i've done LDR and it's difficult.. but not impossible, if there is a chance of 'together physically' at some point in time..and the feelings and connection were there, i'd be open to LDR again.. but with some meetings and real time.. i couldn't do LDR permanently, i need interaction..

hot/steamy vs companionship.. i want companionship.. with a big order of hot & steamy all tied into one.. *s* i yearn for someone who'll not only be my love, my protector & partner but.. someone who'll also be my best friend.. i love to laugh, i love to know i've someone i can always count on.. i love passion, i love randomness, i love the unexpected ..

lastly - i'm a very laid back kind of girl - and its' not that i don't care.. i'm just not one to pry, i build a trust with friendship and once that trust is there, i am always 'there' but willing to give needed space ..

for a gal who said i didnt know what i want, i guess i do know some.. funny how that happens, lol.. ♥ anyway, great question!

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Originally Posted by sylvie (Post 212182)

i'm old school, i'm stone, i'm submissive,

You just totally described me. I think being Stone makes finding that special Butch even harder...i've been giving this alot of thought

Good morning everyone. Happy Friday!!! *sets out coffee, tea and pasteries*

Some good news today. I am going to have an MRI done on my shoulder. I found a doc in my network and co-pay is do-able. It's going on 4 weeks and I can't engage my shoulder so its pretty much halted my activities. This is a load off my mind.