never cheat
if they lie within the first week keep walking
if they make promises that you know can't happen don't wait for them to
if you do leave never look back, don't go back there was a reason you left
don't go to bed angry it isn't worth the sleepless night
think before you react
money isn't everything and it doesn't buy happiness

Don't go back
 

absolutely true....walking away is VERY hard to do but, in the end self-preservation of mind, soul, & spirit is what you HAVE to do.....you're the ONLY one responsible for your happiness & sanity. Hurt like hell or not......walk away & move forward !

Don't forget your dreams trying to help them reach theirs.
Ultimately, it is your life, whether or not you share it with another, so do what you need in order to be happy.

I've learned, before you get too involved, to choose wisely when you learn what their visions and goals are for their future, because you will become a part of that.

I've also learned if you leave them alone too long, they will be gone.

Beware of walls and deception
 

I've learned to steer clear of brickmasons, someone who builds brick walls. If I have to climb a brick wall take a few strides and climb another hurdle get almost to the top and falter. I've taken two steps back and have to begin climbing again. For some it's a never ending process. You might have a long term relationship but a person who builds walls, and you accept that in them, will always build walls. Relationships should have boundaries not walls.

Deception, well that speaks for itself. I'm a trusting soul until I'm not. I'll even give someone several chances to right themselves. Once I put all the pieces together and figure out the game, I'm done. This works equally in romance, friendship, coworkers.

"Oh what a tangled web we weave, When first we practice to deceive"

I learned that lies of omission are still lies.
I've learned to cut my losses, no matter how difficult.
I've learned to think/see thru the facade.
I've learned that if I'm expected to make sacrifices to be with him, he should be willing to make some too.
I've learned to value myself by the same standard (or better than) he had for himself.
I've learned to let go.
I've learned that not everyone is who they portray themselves to be, online and in real time.
I've learned to take responsibility for my part in things and be honest about it.
I've learned not everyone thinks like me regarding all the above.

At least half the disfunction was MY issues....

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what i learned
 

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"it is better to light a single candle than to sit and curse the darkness"
Confucius

Have sex. And often. Very. If you can predict when and how and how long, there is something wrong.

there is no such thing as too many of his kisses

what I have learned
 

If something seems like it's not right, it probably isn't.

I am still freshly single- what I've learned so far is
-I Loved with all my heart-but my heart cannot get through closed doors
-I learned just because it didn't work out doesn't mean I did anything wrong
-I am learning some days are better than other and she still sneaks into me by surprise and that may take along time to heal
-I learned that I am capable a loving immensely
-I learned what sacrifices can be endured out of Love
-I am learning no matter what I think - I cant think my pain away
- I am learning how not to go run amuck to try to fix and shut out the pain, I can feel it and it will go away.
-I am learning-I HURT just as deeply as I loved and it's very draining
-I learned I dont have to stop loving others EVER.

Communication is paramount.
If that first kiss doesn't spark something for both of you, chances are there will be nothing.
I am sure there is much more....just what I learned from the last short lived one.
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The most important thing that I have ever learnt from my last breakup which was three years ago is to love myself more than to love anyone else. I have learnt that I should have some self-respect and do not be so gullible when it comes to love because people can change fast, so does the heart. I have also learnt that what doesn't kill me makes me strong and I should be thankful for the breakup as it has made a stronger and better person. I have learnt to let go if they refuse to stay, because you can never hold on to something that does not belong to you anymore. I have learnt that you can't make someone loves you if they don't feel the same way.. and I have learnt that I should prioritise my own needs and goals to gain happiness and attain success...

I have learnt that a breakup doesn't mean it's the end of the world..

What have I learned?

Most recently, I learned that I deserve to be more than just an option...I deserve to be the only one. Before that, I learned that I will not be held captive by guilt, chemical dependency, and no one will put their hands on me in anger and not pay a price. Along my journey, I have learned many valuable lessons, many of which I cannot directly identify individually because they have become such an integral part of who I am today. What I can say is that I am a better person now because of the lessons learned along the way. I hope that in some way, I have left each person I have had a relationship with a little better, too.

MamaBear