Seeking advice from the Butches...Please...
 

LOVE this site...I am having fun reading and dreaming.......This Femme is yearning for her STUD......ButchDaddy....SweetBoi........ There is a large community here where I live, but havent any idea how to find my butch!! Its almost like they are all in hiding!! ...asking a word of advice from the butches out there......

I cut hair in the local Mall.....How do I make a first move if I see a sweet Butch strolling the mall or in my chair...is that uncouth..? Should I just zip it and let her find me...?? Give her direct eye contact...??? HELP!!

Happy Sunday everyone!!!

First, welcome to the site.

As to your question, eye contact and a great smile usually seems to work.

hey
 

Well if you have a large community where you live it shouldn't be a problem. You stated you work at a mall, lots of foot traffic. If I were you , when I didn't have a customer, I'd stand outside the salon and when a butch walked by,I'd say " hey do you need a hair cut?" If they turn you down, say "I'm pretty amazing wanna see? " That will make them laugh, but also make them think. So you plant some seeds and wait.
I have other tried and true methods, but I can't reveal them out in the open like this, I'd lose my membership to the HBSUC.

JAGG..LOVE it!! I will DEF try that one......

when I have gone to the local club,(Once).. the place is packed and OMG the butches were INCREDIBLE.....but I cant seem to come across them out in the GP....weird.......what is that!.......

COME OUT COME OUT WHERE EVER YOU ARE........

Heh...tell you what, if a Lady approached me with this, I'd be instantly hooked. How could any Butch/FTM/boi/guy resist being approached like this?? ;)

Theo :bouquet:

Great advice! I'd be hooked with this type of flirting too. From my experience it is hard to spot the femme woman, so a look or a smile helps.

That is my mission for the week.....LOL....when I see what I like.....direct eye contact.....sweet sassy smile.....and offer to run my hands through her hair......WINNER!!!!

:cheer:

Darlin' maybe the butch you are looking for doesn't live in FL :flowers: perhaps they live in another state.......say like Pennsylvania lol :tease: just sayin'

LMAO!!! you have a most excellent point Stone!!!! And......are we really hard to spot for some reason...?? SHIT !! I practically drool when I see what I like.... I thought I was obvious.......OBVIOUSLY NOT!! Come back to FLA darling......lemme run my fingers through your hair......LOL

LOL well up here the ladies are hard to spot. I'd love for you to run your fingers through my hair

yes ma'am for sure do something to grab their attention...good butches are easy to spot in the GP but a good femme is hard Not to mistake for a straight lady...lay it on thick & you'll turn the right head... ;)

Is work the right place?

Isn't there some other social network?

ditto....I'd be flattered.

Dear CausticPrincess,
I'm sure your beautiful smile and great personality would attract any butch rather its a FTM or someone who identifies as a TopButch, just keep your options open on all levels

i agree with stone. femmes are hard to spot. unless i'm hanging upside down from a tree and pounding my chest to see which ones run over to me i don't approach femmes in a public/straight forum. tried it once and got hit with a purse. which hurt like hell. which leads me to ask wtf do you femmes keep in those things? >_<

GAH that just made me wonder more. i think you should have a weapons permit to carry a purse.

I seriously doubt a femme would hit one of us with her purse, we need to know what femmes keep in them cuz we would suspect straight women keep the same things in them. So umm like we know what we are up against when it hits our head.

yea what he said

I have a question to ask.

Do you really hang upside down from trees and pound your chest?

I'm a femme, with some age and I have to say I have never

EVER experienced this when dating or trying to get a date from a butch.

Is this how you see femme's?

I won't even go into the whole purse thing.

I have to all this oogey stuff being said about how femme's are or are being perceived to be is

rude and oogey.

I've been really struggling with how this thread seems to be all about perpetuating tired, and not so true, stereotypes.

I'm really sort of all about evolution.

I was joking. and what i was telling caustic is that sometimes femmes and straight ladies are hard to separate. so it would be easier for her to approach a butch so they know where she stands. and yes i mistook a straight lady for a femme once and got hit with a purse

*s*

straight women and femme's are two different animals.

and thank you for explaining.

I will be honest the stereotypes being thrown are offensive to me as a *femme*

I thank you for the dialogue.:rrose:

In my purse I carry whatever I happen to be reading at the moment, my new Nintendo DSi (woo!), a black magic marker, and my cigarettes.

I do not carry a lighter. Instead I just stand around holding my cigarette to my lips and looking helpless until some drooling masculine type rushes up to light it for me.

:blueheels:

I would say eye contact and a smile is good. At work it may not necessarily register to the Butch, some of us are oblivious. I agree that since we are more obvious, then it is easier for the Femme to approach. However if the Butch has some spirit then asking is an option. As a Boi I have asked a woman if she was seeing someone, pretty safe question. Or the, "I would like to take you to coffee." That is usually a safe neutral.

Hey *darlin'* let me get that for you.

Oh swoony swoon swoon!

I forgot to mention that I also have no money in my purse and I expect you to pay for stuff. 'kay? 'Kay!

melikes when Snow uses the word oogey. <g>

Your name is caustic princess? hmmm, that might explain the lack of attention right there. caustic and princess, wow. I am not putting anyone down for the name they find to use online but the word caustic doesn't exactly make one think, hmmm, easy going femme, I want to meet her. Or of course this could just be me.

C'mon now butches we all know that 75% of us are guilty of needing to be hit over the head with a two by four (not a purse, that would be too subtle) to give us the message a femme is interested or even looking at us. Nice smile be damned---come at me with at least a "hello" and a smile or I do just assume you're not smiling at me, you're possibly a straight woman, ETC.

Rope--

No. It's just sometimes I come across things that need to be edited.

obviously what i said was misinterpreted. i certainly didn't mean to offend anyone, especially the lovely ladies. while i am old school and believe in opening doors and pulling out chairs i don't perceive femmes in a certain light because each person (be it femme or butch) is a unique individual.