What is your Flirtation Style?
 

I am not very coy when it comes to approaching someone. If I'm interested I will approach. If they are not receptive or a 2 X 4, I quickly lose interest. I don't chase after anyone. I am more the type of woman you have to get my attention and then keep it. Therefore I am more drawn to straightforward and cerebral approach. I really dislike sexual innuendo in the beginning. I’m very open-minded but reserve that level of flirting for a lover. I want someone that steps up and initiates but isn’t overbearing about it. Some women go for that aloof and mysterious type. It just does nothing for me. I’m more the type that wants you to show you are interested and work at my affection. Only then might you unleash the seductress in me and watch out.

Everyone is different when it comes to the flirting game. I don’t know you very well but from my observation I would guess that friendship is very important to you in a lover- as it should be. You are more likely to befriend someone and see where that goes. I’m the same way but I think my disadvantage, which could be yours too, is that we have these walls and almost “too” careful to allow anything to bloom in that friendship. I admire people who can instantly respond to chemistry and just go with it. I’m far too methodical. Perhaps more so as I get older.

But I love flirting and playfulness. Even if nothing happens. I have a few friends that I can do this with and it never goes beyond that which is fine. I have had some heated and passionate romance in my time with heavy doses of flirting. I would LOVE to do another round of that!

Just be yourself but know that the women that might interest you, again an observation will probably want some hints, a dash of the chivalry you hide so well and an expression of passion. I think at our age, not that we are old but highly experienced our radar is looking for something deeper than a casual interlude might present.

Perfect answer. I totally agree.

i just get on my pretty boi swag say hello and be my normal sweet charming self

When first meeting someone.....I enjoy a quick witted banter. Humor goes a long way with me. A woman who will laugh with me has already captured my attention. You can also tell by her smile and her eyes that she is enjoying herself as well. Sexual innuendos spoken both verbally and or physically, they are not flattering for me. A woman who can entertain me right away with her mind....she is the one I want to know.

amen bro well said :)

excellent

someone once said to me "if you don't kiss and have sex right away how do you know you'll enjoy each other sexually? Sex is important."

Believe it or not lots of people think this way and talk about sex almost right away to establish compatibility. This is an instant turn off for me. I'm like you, make me laugh, spark the playfulness inside of me and intrigue me. Then let me see your substance and that you are capable of a good foundation with me. If all these things measure up I have no doubt I will sexually rock your world. Sex is the easy part IMO.

Exacto mundo Sachita!!! Maybe its an age thing(I´m old!!!)....but everything comes in stages...its how one wishes to take it to the next level of the flirtation(If there is one). I always enjoyed the courting stage. It gave me time to watch for consistancy in a person. When dating,she could tell me just everything she wanted me to know about herself ...but I observed for myself and time always revealed many truths. Have fun...enjoy the art of great conversation,lots of laughter, the comfort level in each others silence, the sweetness of holding hands. Because when you get old and she is still by your side....you will have made fond memories.

Flirting is the naughty looks from across the room, devious smiles, misbehaving, and generally not feeling bad for anything you say. Blame it on the moment.

It's not about what you say, it's what you demonstrate and project. The power of confidence is massive. It must lie in the fact that it is HONEST. Genuine to the turbo-max. All of successful flirting is based on HONESTY X 1000. Don't just be yourself,...BE yourself... BE yourself to the HILT. This will make you an Apocalyptic Flirter that demonstrates a Shock and Awe style.
Example: You see someone you'd like to get with. You rock up to them and say in a confident, level, voice: "Hey, how's it going?"
They will say;
"Fine."
You then say:
"Cool. What are you doing later?"
She will say:
"I'm not sure.
You then say:
"Do you want to come home with me?":blink:

Directness... focused attention... banter... eye contact. Flirtation, for me, is all about intelligence, humor, and a forthright style of communication.

I envy you sweetie. kiss

Thats why I have the three month rule. I dont care if my pussy is dripping and I want to jump your bones... I wait. I know that without a foundation it won't last. Now there has been times when I broke that rule, not very often, BUT it was a needed moment. It did not last. In fact I know this cute little FTM and for some reason we have this amazing chemistry. Its been like that for years. A year can go by and we see each other and BAM. Its amazing. But when its done its done. I love him like family but have zero interest in a relationship. I wouldnt do him if I was in a committed relationship.

Now if that happened again and more often I might need to change that rule. lol but then I would look at it all as a spiritual evolution of spirit. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever connect with one completely or if that lies in my future. Life is ever changing.

I never realized I use the gift of laughter as the main part of my flirting style. Well, maybe I dont. I think I am just a happy joyous person and if I am attracted to someone, laughter just naturally comes of it. I am told I have a great laugh. I know I feel really at home in it so it springs from me.

to flirt with me, all someone has to say is the word "horse" in a sentance. LOL....

intelligence is important to me. And thats doesnt mean just IQ. Social intelligence, creative intelligence, and empathetic intelligence are equally if not more important to me.

Example: You see someone you'd like to get with. You rock up to them and say in a confident, level, voice: "Hey, how's it going?"
They will say;
"Fine."
You then say:
"Cool. What are you doing later?"
She will say:
"I'm not sure.
You then say:
"Do you want to come home with me?":blink:[/QUOTE]

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May it's just my age, but I'd be concerned that you were BOTH infected.

*taking notes*

-peeks at ravfem's notes-

*quickly covering notepad*

hey!! i need all the help i can get!!

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Maybe it's just my age, but I'd be concerned that you were BOTH infected.[/QUOTE]

Infected with awesome.

Very well said -- I couldn't agree more!!!!

I'm just hoping you put that naughty air away when you're flirting with the little old ladies... <G>

Once I thought had a pretty good style of meeting ppl,lots of southern charm,southern accent,some good old fashion conversation ect...Till I went to the bf Dallas bash...all those hot lookeing sexy femmes in one place.Well you gessed it,all I could do was to try to get out of the duhhhhhh phase of saying anything..I havent been that toung tied since I was a kid,there was this really beautiful femme at the bar that I wanted to atleast say hello to but all I did was turn red,sweat and freez up..at my age to boot.So I gess I may need a whack with a 2x4 to get going or she may well have to say hello first.

now look, butches and transfolks...stop the worrying about approaching us ladies. We are honored when you hike up your belt and saunter on over and cough and say hello. We love that little bit of sweat and fear that goes along with your confidence and courage. Its all there in you and thats what we love so much. Your "mix". We dont need lines or model handsomeness or suave conversation or flashy fashions to impress us. We want to see that look in your eye that says to us silently, that you are in awe of us. For just being us.

take it down a notch...dont be so in awe that it paralyzes you. We NEED you...so take a swallow and mosey on over....

Takes too much energy so I don't do it. If I want something I say so.

Is it bad that i kinda like cockiness, as well as confidence?

Should i do some self-examining?

:hippie:

I like to laugh with my flirtation target or mess with them. Tease them a bit in a playful way.

Nah!

All in the eye of the beholder!

My darling HDD you would be the one starting this thread :).

I feel as though I was born with the flirty gene. However, if I truly like someone they know it. I'm very comfortable letting a person know how I feel about them. I might even like them enough to have my own nickname for them. ;)

Duchess

ROTFL!!! Ah, Geez! But yes... whatever works!

I just realized that the space in which I am most comfortable with flirting is through dance. Partner dancing. When I lead a good follow and we are in sync, I see her pride and twinkle (the lead's job is at all times, to make the follow look good!)! It is a dance of a kind of flirtation for me. Hummm... a mode of confidence! LOL... does get conversation flowing!

Oh, good, I have a style of flirtation!

ohhhhhhh!! What you call "cocky" i call a "charmer"!!

Yeah, no i don't care much for that type.

BS gets you zero stars!