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Apocalipstic 11-21-2010 02:07 PM

What is/are your biggest fears?
 
There are small things that creep us out...like giving a speech, worms, spiders, clowns. snakes, bugs....but what is your biggest fear?

I do not fear death.

What I fear most is family.

The Holiday season begins this week and I am sick at my stomach. Yes I go to therapy, yes, I meditate, yes yes yes, I do all the things I am supposed to and am on medication to make me not care.,

Yet.

I am almost frozen with fear.

diamondrose 11-21-2010 02:24 PM

I fear leaving familiar places and going to a unfamiliar place. I always have to tell myself to stop being ridiculous.

girl_dee 11-21-2010 02:33 PM

lots of people in buildings.. I know they are not going to smother me and suck all of the air out of the place but that is exactly what is going to happen.

diamondrose 11-21-2010 02:35 PM

i get terrified when i am in an elevator full of people. I will get off asap and wait for the next one to get to the floor i am headed to


I am terrified of the word "root canal"

Julie 11-21-2010 02:39 PM

Doctors..
I go (well am supposed to) for full body scans every six months.
I am terrified of enclosed spaces.
Needles.
I get biopsies fairly regularly and they involve LOTS of Needles.
Body Scans require Needles.
I used to have someone go with me for my biopsies and scans...
She is moving far away.
Now I have to go alone...and not have anyone hold my hand or feet.

Ohhhh - I am not afraid of dying or death
But I am afraid of donating my organs (even though I am)
And afraid of being cremated (even though I am).

I am a MESS!

Andrew, Jr. 11-21-2010 02:40 PM


My 2 fears:
1. Family
2. Being burned alive


The_Lady_Snow 11-21-2010 02:43 PM

Spiders, clowns, ice cream trucks & over friendly in your face people

:|

Jet 11-21-2010 02:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by InfiniteFemme (Post 232505)
Doctors..
I go (well am supposed to) for full body scans every six months.
I am terrified of enclosed spaces.
Needles.
I get biopsies fairly regularly and they involve LOTS of Needles.
Body Scans require Needles.
I used to have someone go with me for my biopsies and scans...
She is moving far away.
Now I have to go alone...and not have anyone hold my hand or feet.

Ohhhh - I am not afraid of dying or death
But I am afraid of donating my organs (even though I am)
And afraid of being cremated (even though I am).

I am a MESS!


Ah, my cake friend...I just had an MRI in an enclosed space...moved during the imaging and he has to do the whole thing over. I fear not getting thru it again. My greatest fear of all is not overcoming PTSD. Bad, bad implications.
You're not a mess, you need to bake my Watergate Cake and feel better.

atomiczombie 11-21-2010 02:53 PM

I fear lots of things. In no particular order:

Germs.

Going to strange places alone.

Going to not so strange places alone, such as the grocery store or the gym.

FIRE.

Enclosed places, theaters.

Job interviews.

Going to the doctor, especially my psychiatrist.

Being alone.

Living by myself.

Finding myself in a situation where someone is being not nice to me, and having no way out (except my ex-wife. I can handle her, oddly.)

Not being able to help my daughter when she is in trouble!

Dying before my work here in this world is finished.

That's all I can think of for now. There may be more that I will add later.

Julie 11-21-2010 02:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jet (Post 232518)
Ah, my cake friend...I just had an MRI in an enclosed space...moved during the imaging and he has to do the whole thing over. I fear not getting thru it again. My greatest fear of all is not overcoming PTSD. Bad, bad implications.
You're not a mess, you need to bake my Watergate Cake and feel better.

I will bake your cake... I did bake brownies last night :-)

I will hope you can get through your MRI. I know how hard it can be.

bigbutchmistie 11-21-2010 03:54 PM

I almost panic to be around a bunch of people. Even my job as I know everyone there it still frieks me out to have to get up in front of everyone and talk.

I fear dying alone. This is very real for me. I live alone and most days, the phone doesnt ring. Not cause my friends dont care but they are all coupled with families and are busy. When I was in the hopsital diagnosed with meningitis and a couple of other times I was in there alone, it hits me. And its the loneliest feeling in the world.

Being burned to death

Fire does scare me

Buildings full of people. I wont go in alone.

girl_dee 11-21-2010 04:39 PM

being trapped in line.. like at Tim Hortons drive thru where there is walls on both sides :|

lipstixgal 11-21-2010 05:51 PM

I fear dying alone I live alone so that's why.
I also fear going into the city all alone at times even though I did it for years before.
Pretty much that's it..

Glenn 11-21-2010 05:57 PM

My furkids becoming orphans:(

katsarecool 11-21-2010 06:02 PM

Not getting to see my grandchildren grow up.
I wasn't afraid of big needles but now I am!
I am not afraid of dying; just not in the for seeable future.
Spiders, no matter what size creep me out.
Family reunions; the family is so dysfunctional they all feel the need to get rip roaring drunk then dump on each other. Normally they shove shit under the rug. I hate that! Not my kids and their family. I am talking about siblings and my step-father that was negilgent, abusive and mean-spirited to us all. Besides this I am fearless!

Apocalipstic 11-21-2010 06:53 PM

Family reunions are almost more than I can bear to think of. shudder.

asphaltcowboi 11-21-2010 07:02 PM

my biggest fear is gaurdrails at 80 mph.

JustJo 11-21-2010 07:04 PM

I work myself into a fit just knowing that I'll have to face a needle.
Drowning.
Spiders, but only if they're big or hairy...tarantulas totally freak me out.

I don't have fears about my family, but know that my mother is bad for me so I keep my exposure limited....and I've cut my sister out completely purely for self-preservation.

I can handle crowds, enclosed spaces, public speaking...but like many here I wonder sometimes if I'll see my son grow up (having health issues and having had him at 35....I know I likely will, but it's on my mind)....and groups of men laughing can put me on high alert, even when I know it's irrational.

I'm squeamish...so the sight of blood, or even discussion of things bloody or medical that gets too detailed can make me feel light-headed and I get that "seeing in black and white, ears ringing, I'm going to pass out" feeling. It's not a fear exactly, but still something I avoid like crazy.

Venus007 11-22-2010 01:01 AM

Biggest fears
 
Loosing the ability to be self determining in my life

Becoming a prisoner in my body

Forgetting all I have fought for and learned and relapsing/regressing to my broken past

Being homeless (it has been nearly 20 years since I was homeless and I still keep an eye out for safe places to sleep and shower)

Diva 11-22-2010 02:22 AM

When I was little ~ about 5, I guess ~ my Mom put me in swimming lessons. At one point, we were supposed to open our eyes under water and be able to tell the instructor how many fingers he held under the water. I just kept guessing....wrong, of course. And finally, he pushed my head underwater until I would open my eyes.

I jumped out of that pool and never went back.

From that point on, I was scared of the water. When I was in college, I had to pass a swimming test in order to graduate. :| I failed the test repeatedly, so I had to take a semester of swimming. I learned the basics, but I still couldn't open my eyes underwater.

In 1991, I went to New Braunfels with a bunch of women. We were gonna inner-tube down the Guadalupe. I thought I could do this. Yes, I was scared.

Well....as luck would have it, I didn't paddle to the banks when I was supposed to and my partner and I got swept into the rapids and sucked under.

Long story short (right), I almost drowned. I was pulled to safety by a couple of paramedics who just happened to be close-by.

I'm terrified of drowning. And I'm a Pisces.....sign of The Fish. Go figure.




Words 11-22-2010 02:41 AM

Crossing bridges by foot, especially those with traffic underneath (for some reason, the rapid movement of the traffic freaks me out).

I'm always afraid that I'll succumb to a sudden temptation to jump and inevitably have to wait for someone to hold my hand and walk me across with my eyes closed.

Words

Turtle 11-22-2010 02:43 AM

eeeeuooooow - spiders, good thing my honey's not scared of em.

big crowds - NO!!

most of the other things are getting better with each try :-)

and a fear that's too big to say, cuz I don't want to jinx them :praying:

Random 11-22-2010 02:48 AM

I have three..

1 Heights without a rail or some sort of barrerer... I can do it but I break out in the sweats and the shakes... Why, yes I do love driving through the mountains....

2 Something horrible would happen to my son.. It used to be my biggest fear, but now that he is out on his own, it's lessened... Lol.. I can't know where he is and what he is doing every day...

3 Not knowing where a loved one is... If someone was supposed to be home at x time and they are not and I haven't gotten a phone call, txt, email... I start to panic... They are dead on the side of the road... I used to say... It's not that I care where you go or how long you stay... I just need to know when to start worring, when to start calling the hospitals and driving the streets.. (I once left a voice mail on a friends phone at 12am telling him that he didn't call me when he was supposed to and now I'm imagining that he has ripped out his stitches and laying in a pool of blood and if he didn't call me back within a half hour, I was calling the ambulance to go make sure he was alive...)

girl_dee 11-22-2010 07:41 AM

not breathing to the point that i actually smother to death

Sam 11-22-2010 07:48 AM

any type of snake, dead, slithering, rattles. ANY

princessbelle 11-22-2010 08:00 AM

heights as in falling from or looking from or being in or thinking about :|

bugs of any kind, any color, any shape size or ID

A flat tire (I must get triple A, i keep forgetting)

Drowning (learning to swim is also on my to do list)

Something happening to someone I love (i'm a worrier)

the world running out of coffee :tea:

Blade 11-22-2010 08:13 AM

Heights, weird cuz I never was afraid of heights until the last few years. I get vertigo without warning so if I go up, I tether to something.

I fear losing more hours at work and then losing my house and truck, but I'm looking for a job so maybe something will come up at least maybe a part time job

I don't fear crowds but I'm not crazy about being around a a stadium full of people.

I do have a fire fear, but am told that comes from a previous life.

AtLast 11-22-2010 09:23 AM

So many of the things that I have feared in the past just don't bother me as much anymore. Don't know if this is a good or bad thing... After going through the deaths of 4 family members and a lover in a short time period, I was very fearful of cancer. Now, I have calmed and know that it is up to me to take care of myself and go in for preventive tests, etc. Not that I am perfect about this at all- those damn personal flaws!! FDR's "there is nothing to fear, but fear itself," rings true for me in terms of doing whatever I need to in terms of combating my own anxieties.

I do fear the rising of the far right to the point of gaining a majority in the US government, however.

Daddy Raven 11-22-2010 09:30 AM

What is/are your biggest fears?
 
I'm disabled and deal with chronic pain and mobility limits, so most of my fears revolve around that. I fear not being able to take care of myself when I'm older and losing my independence. I also fear being unwanted and a burden to others.

Tcountry 11-25-2010 10:27 AM

...Not being there...to protect or help a loved one...

Billy 11-25-2010 10:48 AM

Elavators :| Don't like them , I avoid them especially if there are a lot of people in there ..Years ago I was in one , it started to get full , and before I could get off on any floor , it stopped real fast and this drunk guy flew into Me and My first reaction was to turn and bodyslam him to the back of the elavator :| He hit that back and slid down , oppssss :blink:


The one at the hotel for the reunion was a lil freaky for Me , but it was never full and it was fast ...lol :)

Nat 11-25-2010 10:50 AM

I think i have to get out of bed and drive to it right now. :(

ravfem 11-25-2010 11:08 AM

i fear escalators. Nothing traumatic has ever happened on them, i remember riding them as a child and doing fine. But i fear them now to the point that just walking by one makes my palms sweat and my heart race.

i fear giving all of me, and having the recipient eventually say, "no, i changed my mind, i don't want you anymore".

i fear breaking my right arm.

i fear, right at this moment, that i'm going to have to go upstairs and have a come-to-jesus meeting with my new neighbors. OK, maybe "fear" is the wrong word.....or maybe it's right, but not for that reason. Maybe i really fear the beat down imma hafta leave her with. :|

FlowerFem 11-25-2010 04:16 PM

fear
 
Dying alone in a nursing home.

lipstixgal 11-25-2010 04:48 PM

Dying alone and not meeting anyone soon.


Bugs any kind especially cockroaches had when I lived in NYC it was awful!!

Certain Heights it could be an elevated area to.Animals in the garbage like oppossum, one was in the trash a couple of weeks ago I think dead..yucky

JAGG 12-01-2010 08:03 PM

swimming
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Diva (Post 232875)
When I was little ~ about 5, I guess ~ my Mom put me in swimming lessons. At one point, we were supposed to open our eyes under water and be able to tell the instructor how many fingers he held under the water. I just kept guessing....wrong, of course. And finally, he pushed my head underwater until I would open my eyes.

I jumped out of that pool and never went back.

From that point on, I was scared of the water. When I was in college, I had to pass a swimming test in order to graduate. :| I failed the test repeatedly, so I had to take a semester of swimming. I learned the basics, but I still couldn't open my eyes underwater.

In 1991, I went to New Braunfels with a bunch of women. We were gonna inner-tube down the Guadalupe. I thought I could do this. Yes, I was scared.

Well....as luck would have it, I didn't paddle to the banks when I was supposed to and my partner and I got swept into the rapids and sucked under.

Long story short (right), I almost drowned. I was pulled to safety by a couple of paramedics who just happened to be close-by.

I'm terrified of drowning. And I'm a Pisces.....sign of The Fish. Go figure.




I've taught hunderds of people to swim, actually do more than swim, to survive in the water. I can teach you too . If you ever want to learn, I can do it in 1 afternoon. Can't teach you to swim in 1 afternoon that takes a few days, but teach you to not fear water anymore and love it, instead of fear it. You can keep your eyes closed the whole time if you like.

miss entycing 12-01-2010 08:23 PM

a smaller fear of a bigger truth.
 
finding out I was right about everything... and then some.
:confused:

bigbutchmistie 12-01-2010 08:26 PM

Im scared of :

Heights... No roller coasters etc for me :)

Dying Alone

Julien 12-01-2010 08:47 PM

Isolation and being alone;
Not achieving my potential;
I have a reoccurring nightmare that I am working in retail sales again, don't want that to happen


1PlayfulFemme 12-01-2010 08:57 PM

My greatest (real) fears:

Being trapped, anywhere...

Being home alone in the dark (even at night sometimes) - we had a break in a few years ago, and I was home alone...and I thank God every day that our pups scared the intruder away...but, I've never been the same.

Failing. Miserably.

Falling apart at the seams..and having no tape, thread, or glue.


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