Flirting by text
 

How do you decide to make an initial flirty remark via text message? What's your favourite opening line?

I have an astonishing lack of game when it comes to dating, so unfortunately I don't have a favourite flirt to share, but I'm happy to hear yours!

if flirting is your thing, timing just finds its way. if not, make timing LOL.

my fave is, "i sure would like to find the slope of your curve" lol

I like flirting with texts!!! Even though i'm in a relationship, we still send flirty/dirty text sometimes...it's all the more fun.

But, a longgggggg time ago, when i was single and stuff and was getting to know someone, it was sometimes difficult to pick up on the "is he/she flirting or just being friendly" text and not sure how to take it. Without seeing the face, sorta like online, it's not as obvious.

However, it was fun to text with something that could be read as either way, that way you are safe if they aren't really flirting and in good shape if they were.

Like say....."Good Morning...is it a hard morning or an easy one for you". Or...."Did you dream of anything special last night?" And just let them take the lead, giving an opening sorta.

Well, that's how i rolled anyway...like, here's the bait...are you gonna bite or just sit by the creek and have a "friendly" day.

I found it very enlightening!!!!

Flirting via text is awesome! I feel more inclined to say things I wouldn't say on the phone because I would be shy, lol. It's fun to get a flirty text in the middle of the day, too :-D

Just be yourself!

Smiles,
Starry

I'm a fan of flirting so flirting by text happens too! *wink wink
It just comes natural I would think and depends if it is reciprocated if one is interested.

I always liked to say "by the way, I am flirting with you now."

Direct and to the point. Love it. :D

I have no idea what I do but it's probably cheesy. I know when I first met my husband I used to send him messages asking about his workouts and 'you must have amazing muscles', lol.

If it's a cold text (with no prior texting) I usually just send something quite friendly and chatty. I gauge my future texts on their response.

Life is short and being coy is just way too time consuming.

I flirt a lot, by accident.

Me too!!! Most times, what I see as being "just me," others see as flirting.

:sparklyheart:

I love to flirt via text. And it is nice to flirt text back and forth while working. Makes the day alot more interesting.

And as a lot of the responses has said just be yourself and just say what pops in your head...go with the flow of the conversation.

I once practiced my flirts in the mirror, and I immediately fell hard for my smooth charming ways... me've been happy together ever since ;)

A butch once told me that the femme should know instinctively when the flirt turns serious. I said, "How in the world would she know that if you didn't tell her?"

So how do we know, hmmm?

Princessbelle, that's exactly what I meant. That statement came from someone I've known for a while. So I guess knowing it means more just has to come with time I guess.

Oneofakind, yes text flirting can be a game of wits and very clever.

The approach depends on the individual I guess... I'll volunteer two texts I've used with positive results in the past...

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Subtle: Sitting alone at the bar of my favorite restaurant I snapped a pic of a tall glass of chardonnay and texted it to her. No words.

Direct: "Dinner. I'm buying. You're drinking :))"

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ummm UFO Man, so why is the "best flirting" not planned? Because you say so? See that's what happens when you throw your "shoulds" out there like they "should" be everyone else's "shoulds." Well they are not my "shoulds." As a femme who has spent a lifetime "flirting" with boys and bois, I can tell you that the best "flirts" are well-planned, researched, rehearsed, with a few well chosen, memorized "lines" as Ms PrincessBelle quoted. To have the most effect, they "should" be devious, designing, coquettish, planned, creative, ingenious and with the most "tried and true" lines available. (There are some great ones on google). Being a good flirt is hard work and does not come natural. (Femme handbook, page 351)

Let's pit your flirty texts against Ms. Belle's flirty texts and see who wins. :cheesy:

disclaimer: This talent can get one in big trouble

UofMean really hates it when people type her name wrong.

I like that someone described it as a game of wits and clever. I recently shared this experience with someone, and it was a beautiful thing. I have 3300 saved text messages from this exchange (it went on for months), and I am too sentimental to delete them. It is a rather modern log of an ongoing conversation that never got tired or boring for me.

I'm a writer by trade, and I sometimes find text messages a little claustrophobic, and opt for the "larger canvas" of an email. However, texting is handy, convenient and can be done almost anywhere. And I appreciate the instant outbreak of wordplay that texting can accommodate.

Jake

Perhaps "U" should not have created a name where it was so easy to transpose. :cheesy:

disclaimer: I have very naughty typing fingers

If it makes you blush, or you feel all tingly and giddy...

*I read my meter and thought I'd share ;)

All this about flirting is very intresting cause somehow I missed the ablity to flirt very well,my son said mamy years ago that I need to stop working so much and learn to smell the roses,unfourntunatly bill had to be paid.Now hat I have the time I still for some reason havent managed to learn to flirt with out hopeing I didnt stick my foot in my mouth or sound off the wall.

This.

(I'm not a fan of the contrived)

I hope this isn't your flirting.

Nope. Not from me. I didn't start it. Leave me out of this. I'm just an innocent bystander.

Unless of course money is involved.

:|

Besides the fact that my name is not UFO, and I find that to be a little dismissive, I have three things that stick out from your post.

1. Boys and bois, perhaps there lies the difference.

2. If I ever have to Google a flirt I would officially ask Bete to shoot me first.

3. I am too much of a gentleman to engage in childless competitions. Ms. Belle is a dear friend of mine and I would not disrespect our friendship by saying anything more than that.

These are all personal preferences and opinions and we are all entitled to express them respectfully.

I will respect yours and kindly ask you to respect mine.

I agree, let it happen..if someone digs your chemistry..they feel it..you don't have to be super clever or out there to get someone to notice

Off the top of my head flirting:
 

I think my best flirt went like this...


*I know you took my keys, I don't know what kind of game you are playing, but I need my keys back... I can't afford to replace the keys to my apt and the building... I'm NOT even kidding!!!!*

followed up with...


*I found my keys... I'm the psycho not you... you want to go out again?*

Worked like a charm..

*Cheesey Grin*

Stop flirting with me, UofMean!