Where are all the lesbian femmes that love us lesbian butches ???
 

This thread is started for all of us that ID as lesbian butch to be able to see who the lesbian femmes are that love us, date us, partner with us, and support us as the butches we are. Where are you??? Come out come out where ever you are!!!!

I would also like to entertain a question in this thread as well. If you ID as lesbian butch or femme, do you enjoy having lesbian sex with your partner? What do you consider lesbian sex to mean to you by your own definitions.?


ps. I didn't see a thread for this on the site.

I know you will get a little education for using the phrase "lesbian sex"; be prepared!

I am sure that it will be done kindly because we all know that you are new

I might as well start out.

Lesbian sex includes any manner or in any way that two self-identified lesbians choose to have sex!

Some lesbians are stone (we have many threads on the planet about what that means to a person or lesbian that identifies as stone), many lesbians are not stone (like me).

There are endless ways and manners of having sex or making love-just like anyone else that may not ID as lesbian.

My partner identifies as a lesbian butch. She embraces her butchness (made-up word), that she is female and that she is a woman. I love that about her.

Neither of us is stone.

I love that too.

Stonefemme lesbian here. That means I'm strictly a receiver/bottom when it comes to sex. That's lesbian sex to me because I'm a lesbian and that's the way I have sex. Sadly for me, but seemingly fortunately for you Tru, I'm a member of a very tiny minority- both here on bfp and everywhere else.

I LOVE, collectively as well as individually when given a chance, butch women who are lesbians!

COOL Thread!! Lez Femme here...
I can deliver the mail and lick the stamp.

:loveletter:

Well, I consider more kinds of sex than that "lesbian sex," like sex between stone butches and femmes if they ID as lesbian.

I get what you are saying. I have heard the phrase "lesbian sex" said in a disparaging way, usually meant to mean "do me, do you" oral and digital sex.

But that's not fair. Lesbian sex is, in my opinion, whatever lesbians do when having sex.

So I guess I would educate you a bit because the way you are using the terms does exclude.

I think that butches who like to receive do get excluded themselves, so I get it when they are a little defensive. But you can't appropriate the term "lesbian sex" to exclude stone sex, whatever you may have heard from others.

I am not a stone femme, but I have had a lot of sex with stone butch partners. It never once occurred to me that I wasn't having lesbian sex.

So let me see if I understand what you are saying. If I, a self identified lesbian, have sex in any other way than you just mentioned I am not having lesbian sex? I don't care for that very much. Sounds like a very exclusionary club to me.

I know there are those who talk about lesbians as only having the "you do me then I do you" kind of sex. These people who define lesbian sex as this like to talk about how they find that very boring, too vanilla. Some people like to use this as a way to disparage lesbians. People love to do that. Love to diss lesbians and feminists; and lesbian feminists...well that's just a diss jackpot.

I get that this is the way you like sex and that you are comfortable calling it lesbian sex. I am simply asking you to consider the implications and the history behind this.

What she said.

I was writing my almost duplicate post, ideologically speaking anyway, when Martina posted this. I wouldn't have bothered if I had seen it first. She pretty much covered it.

What I meant by this Tru Texan is that I don't want you to feel ganged up on. You seem like a nice person and I get that you are just feeling your way around. I don't want it to feel like you are being jumped on because I'm just posting stuff that was already said. Sometimes in cases like this less is more.

Tru, I am a lesbian and a stone butch. When I am having sex it is lesbian sex. :)

I don't think there is any such thing as lesbian sex or heterosexual sex or anything other name that will describe everyone in a group, since we all have our own preferences, boundaries, etc.

You will find plenty of like-minded people here and people who may id or think differently than you that you can still be friends with.

It is always great to have lesbian topics discussed too. Welcome again to the site.

So descriptive! Love!

I am a versatile Femme Lesbian. Lol.

<3
 

hello tru. i hope the thread fills up with femmes! ^5

honest to goodness, i've never referred to sex as lesbian sex. i just think of it as making love. slow, fast, canasssta, etc etc. it's all making love. i'm a private person, so what happens in private, ... i like for it to stay there. i'll say this. i like to do under others as i would have them do under me. i am silly silly silly, btw.

one last thing. like you, there's so much i had never heard of before this group. i've found likes and dislikes. i've learned here that there's always room to be a little more open to things i have no clue about. but, some things go in one ear and out the other.

i hope the info you are looking for comes your way.

I consider myself a lesbian femme with a few basic qualifiers:

I think I'm probably about a 4.5 - 5 on the Kinsey Scale.

I consider myself somewhat gender-queer, though I'm comfy with the "femme" identity.

Most of the people I'm the most attracted to fall in the butch range, though claimed identities vary. And there are quite a few femmes I wouldn't kick out of bed.

Oh, and speaking of bed: I'm not a big believer in quid-pro-quo in the bedroom. I'm selfish and I want my lovers to be selfish too. I don't want any altruistic or obligatory bedroom deeds done on my account. I want to relish and relish being relished and so far in my life that has looked so many different ways depending on the dynamic I have going with a person.

Oh hell. No details?

No shit??
 

OH fuck that bullshit.
Fine I'll start:::

As a femme lez.... I looooove unbuttoning a butchy shirt. GAWD FUCKING DAMN... standing up, laying down, sitting up... let me at that gawd damn thing.

Slowly, keeping eye contact, then leaning my cheek to their chest and just breathing the most perfect moment that no else gets to have -- because it's that special of a spot to be right there.

Call me a big ole romantic lezzie.. I don't give a shit.
But thats HOT.
What's next is knee shaking... and if a "safe word" is involved::

Mine is Tomato.

:canoworms:

Words have power, and words have slightly different emotional attachments to each one of us. I am loving this thread, Tru. Thank you for starting it.
And I also am thankful for the education as to how some people feel about some words. Thank you for a continuing education

Embroidering a few details ...
 

So you really just want to know how others have sex? Is it first me, then you, then me? Or all me, me, me? Or all you, you, you? Technically, even if you're the one laying there *hand up* or hell, on your knees *other hand up* it still takes two to have sex.

I am a femme partnered with a butch and we have sex an assortments of ways, if ya really want to know!

When I was a baby lesbian [*le sigh*] it seemed it was you, me, you, me, you, me. I mean, hey, it worked! I am the first to admit I like routines and schedules and stuff, but hey.. I have come [*giggle*] to accept that some people just want to give, give, give and you bet your ass you just better lie/kneel there and take it.

With that being said, I am so totally okay with dishing out what was given!

Oi, I think I need a shower now..

It's just sex...
 

I'm a femme who prefers to partner with butch to sportier women...and the bottom line is that if I'm naked and she's naked, we're having sex. Not lesbian sex. Not butch/femme sex. Just sex.

The reason I feel that way is because "branding it" somehow makes the sex we're enjoying different or that it needs qualifying in some way. Like when I dated an Italian butch - I didn't think of our lovemaking as "Italian/American Butch on German/Sicilian/American Femme Lesbian Sex" (with olive oil and garlic...haha). It was just really great, fun sex.

We may all identify differently - femme, butch, stone butch, etc - but when we're humping and bumping...it's sex that we're having.

What an interesting discussion! Thanks Tru for bringing this up...

Ah butches. Swwooooon.

I used to "date" femmes similar to myself and although many femmes are so deliciously beautiful and sexy, I couldn't get my head around the similar perfume smells, the sharing of makeup/clothes, etc. I get weak in the knees around women that are masculine centered.

A nice pair of jeans
A button down shirt
The smell of axe (preferably mixed with cigarette smoke)
A strong, tough personality

Ugh, my girlfriend is all of these things and so much more. I cannot get enough of her. I tell her all the time that eventually I will not have a bottom lip because even after two years together, one glance from her can make me bite it.

Agree to both of your posts.

I Love Stone Butch
 

Where are all the Stone Butch for us Stone Femmes

I consider myself to be quite versatile.... but the description provided Is def my preference.

Jhenay, welcome to BFP.

Tru, it was nice for you to bump a stone butch thread. Also, some stone femmes and stone butches are also lesbians. I am a stone butch and a lesbian. :)

Heyas. I'm a lezzo.
I prefer the term "dyke" though.

I like my dyke girlfriends to do me with me via their clits, clit-cocks, cocks, mouths, hands, fists, toes, elbows, arses and pretty much all of it.

I will do them how they best prefer. I'm not fond of strapping on but some rare people have made it hot for me to do that.

I prefer to be their fuckdolly, their sex toy, and us (usually) being both dykes (the occasional one has ID'd as queer), it's dyke sex. I like them to be dominant (the boss in bed and the one in control of what happens and the one to make decisions about what happens around what *they* want to do or to have done to them).

but I can switch that - I can be very dominant. but I'm sub:dom 80:20 kind of ratio.

so I'm mostly a service orientated pillow queen, really. With a side salad of tie you up and make you say real nasty things.

I don't do things to people they don't like (unless, they like being made to do things they don't like so they can like it with no responsibility.... ha)

And that is my version of dyke sex.

The End

poke poke poke..............