While all the below are imperative, these two are the most important to any kind of human relationship with me:

(1)Trust. If you're a liar, or behave in a dishonourable way, or are given to meanness or sneak attacks, stay far away from me.

(2)Respect. If you are disrespectful towards me, or if you're in the habit of doing things that would lead me to lose respect for you, stay far away from me.



The other imperatives for a dating relationship, not in any order of importance are:

(3)A safe playing, dominant, sadistic butch leather top with a high sex drive.

(4)A butch who is either stone, or who will respect and be satisfied within my stonefemme boundaries.

(5)Someone who has her own income and is living within her means.

(6)Either a biker or motorcycle friendly.

(7)Smart and funny.

(8)Non-monogamous.

(9)Not politically conservative.

(10)Someone who is relatively local. She would have to live within a day's ride from NYC.

Only 3??? Oh boy...this is going to be hard!
 

1) Communication; talk to me, discuss, debate, let me know what you think and why. Make some of the choices and don't wait for me to do everything.

2) Something to get up for in the morning; whether that's a job, a vocation, education, anything. Just something that gives you a life away from 'us'.

3) Honesty; don't lie, i'll know. Without honesty there can be no trust.

and a cheeky fourth

4) Cuddles and 'Us' time is essential; Sex is a two way street but let me take charge ;)

Back again:

1. Passion-not just of the obvious kind, but passion as a way of life, a passion for life. Includes having passions outside of the relationship.

2. The ability to be present in the moment with me, whatever is going on. You won't always "get" me, but really trying is important. I will reciprocate with you.

3. The ability to face your challenges and problems and see them as opportunities for real change. Even if they beat you down at first, the ability to come back stronger.

Non-negotiable
 

Always the same three for me;

!. No cheating

2. No lying

3. No stealing

Actually, I have more than three but maybe that is on another thread.

Lead by example.

1. Someone who knows and is true to who they are.

2. Someone of strong character and integrity.

3. Someone with a passion for every area of their life.

Must haves:

Integrity

Kindness

Wisdom

Followed close by a healthy sense of adventure

must have
 

emotional honesty
Likes to have a clean home
Communicates

1. A (nearly) similar view on spirituality, philosophy and ethics.
Indispensable attribute. Prevents major conflicts.

2. Healthy self-discipline.
There are no Problems, just challenges. Fear? Conquer it. Bored? Open your eyes for the miracles around you.

(If it's going to be a sexual relationship)
3. Attractiveness.
Female masculinity and a dominant aura is a good start. Or s/he is an anthropomorphic alien. *cough* :D

Hmmmm....

Honesty

Affectionate

Must love dogs

I don't share nicely, so NO open policy

I am not looking for pain = love, if you are keep walking away

I am the Domestic Goddess you always dreamed of having by your side ...
Not your slave, step up or get lost.

Okie dokie, there, some honest to gawd honesty.

It's Sunday morning, and yes, I'm putting it out there. Scorpio rising today. Feels fabulous.

SCORPIO QUEEN OF CUPS Diving into emotional situations is best. Get in deep for best results. Work out emotional knots by addressing them head on.

See, Arwen said so. Feels good to say things outloud sometimes. I'm going to do this more often. :tarot:

1. no smoking
2. no cats
3. no coming home drunk and obnoxious

and few others that are regarded as "normal"

GASP!!! I didn't realize there were things that were better than boobs...(and I am a chocolate fiend.)

good communicator
loves to kiss
loyalty means something

I think I'm still figuring these out, but almost everything I've thought of falls under this category:

Treats self and others with respect

principled
passionate
ready

Funny
non smoking (please, please, please )
Thinks I'm funny ... cuz I am.