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Some background
I am in a platonic relationship and it is poly. I hate going to dating sites as I get inundated with creepy guys wanting threesomes or people thinking I am looking to leave my current relationship, which I am not. I am a 45 year old bald(for medical reasons) BBW on the femme side but really I am rather fluid with my two sides. I am so not comfortable in social situations.. can I just say dating is a bitch for hetero women so adding in a fat bald middle age queer femme. I end up feeling like I am trying to compete in an Iron Man Triathlon! So this is an attempt to reach out. to see if anyone is like me in this way and or suggestions.

Hi PW,

We may be in a similar kind of relationship. I live in the same house with my ex (2 apartments) and we think of each other as family. I think of myself as sexually monogamous and single but since our relationships seem similar I just thought I'd reach out. Also, I'm 56 and looking (turning 57 tomorrow!) which is not easy either.

OMG!!! This is real?! I'm not trying to be rude I promise. I just I need information...sort of... (I also don't have enough posts to make my own thread yet)

so here's the tea:
I met this amazing woman...and we started dating things are good. She has sworn to me that she is monogamous to me as I am her. Yet her bestie is Poly. Which is cool. My GF told me that she has a symbiotic relationship with bestie. Which I'm cool with. I found out that her bestie lives at her house 4 days a week. Ok. So one morning I woke early and I was talking to my GF's bestie. And she said 'you know I come along with her right?' I said yes...I don't want to ruin their friendship that is the last thing I want. Then she explained that a poly relationship is really four relationships me and my girl her and my girl and then me and her(bestie) and then ALL OF US and that we are a triad. Ok. I'm cool with this. Although I look up Polyamory as I don't know much about it. And I see the definition for Triad. Which in that def. it was one person dating two people separately. I don't how to make this work...I don't know where I fit. So I asked my GF a couple of times when we were alone. She said you are my girlfriend and the only one she is dating. Ok. After I asked my GF the second time wording between them changed to 'best friend'. Then my GF has nights she spends specifically with her bestie which is cool. I get it. Night with a friend. Yet my GF is also always texting her bestie...I mean they have a home life together... I'm just a little unsure yet I do believe my girlfriend truly. I'm just new to all of this

So I guess all in all I was wonder if If Platonic Poly really existed. And I guess get some more understanding ?

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Originally Posted by Trinket_the_mouse2020 (Post 1279369)

tbh, this sounds very complicated..i was poly a long while ago and it's just my inner witchy sense but personally, i don't think i would be satisfied with her answers..the present arrangement would appeal to me ONLY if it is a very casual relationship and not exclusive...it's too one sided (for my tastes) ..like her, enjoy the ride, but don't fall for her..have a great holiday!

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Originally Posted by kittygrrl (Post 1279370)

Thank you :) I'm trying truly. There are other dimensions to it I'm also not sure of but...it will all unfold in time I suppose. Thing is I'm sure my girlfriend is honest but I'm taking it all with a grain of salt if you know what I mean.

I am back....So what would a platonic poly relationship look like?