How do you "come down" from a bad day?
 

I'm a substitute teacher, while completing my classes for my masters', and needless to say, it's very stressful. I have had near-fights break out in my classroom, trouble with classroom management (I wouldn't frighten a flea), and feeling like I'm not doing any one thing well, professionally and personally.

What I am asking is, how do you transition from work with all its stresses to home life, without breaking out the fudge ripple or snapping at your partner? I feel like I bring too much of work home with me, and then I'm in for a stressful evening with little time for myself. Then it's go to bed in dread of the next day. I need a change.

How do you let work stay at work, and then get calmed down for bed? I don't have anyone, so that avenue is out ;).

On the plus side, I do enjoy yoga and meditation to "warm up" in the morning. It's worth getting up earlier for that.

Being a substitute is hard work; I commend you for trying. I know you don't get paid to do this, but try it if you're willing...

Get there about 45 minutes early so you have the day's plan down pat; that should keep you from feeling like you're winging it. And then stay as long as you need to get the report written up and everything organized. Don't rush out of there if you don't have to.

Again, I know you don't get paid for that extra time; but I really believe it's important to take time in the morning to *know* the day's plan and then take time at the end of the day to put it all in order........and let it go. That's important; once you walk out of that room leave what happened in there *in there*. Maybe physically shut the door to symbolize shutting out the tension of the day???

Not sure how you feel about exercise, but I bet a 10-minute jog or 20-minute vigorous walk would do wonders for releasing a lot of that stress.

I spent a lot of years in the classroom, and a lot of those years taking classes as well. I *know* how hard your days are. You definitely need to come up with some strategies to manage the stress and, most importantly, take care of *you*.

Best wishes...

What Thinker said about planning ahead is great advice

I also like to work out with a heavy bag and smack the crap out of it, it really helps release tension.

I also do small things to pamper myself on my lunch like listen to great music, look at beautiful things on my computer or phone, have a short meditation

I also use my time in the car as cool down and reset time, sometimes I scream in my car if it is really bad. By the time I get home usually the initial cranky ass part is diffused.

Good luck

Alcohol........LoL

the gym and the jacuzzi

I am a software engineer. I love my job - it is fun to me. Sometimes people who sit around me get too noisey. This stresses me because it shreds my concentration. I went CUJO (rabid dog) on a friend of mine the Thursday before Christmas. I hated it but his loud mouth worked that last strand of a nerve I had left that morning. Then after Christmas, I called him out to the warehouse in an effort to smooth it over and damn, we almost locked up again. I am always ready to apologize and admit fault when I am able to see it but will not grovel before anyone. I had dropped several hints to this fellow about his noise over the course of a couple of months earlier. It was not like he was clue-free. Thank goodness I said a prayer to the Good Spirit beforehand to help me stay civilized. I am not religious at all but when I ask for help from this entity ("The Good Spirit" that I made up) then it is my responsibility to do my part. This works for me and that is what matters.

At this particular job, it is mainly a male oriented environment. I will not have guys run over me - I am an equal. This does not sit well with some of the guys who have stated computer science is not for women. I just blow it off. Ignorant comments like this do not affect me.

I'll bet there were conversations about "the dyke" who went psycho just before Christmas. *chuckling to self* I was one pissed off stone butch that day. What others think of me is really not a concern of mine. I do not "make nice" in order to be liked or get approval.

To de-stress, I come home, fix a cup of General Foods International coffee that I keep for special times. I call it my after work toddie. LOL! Then I sit on the floor, hug and play with my dogs. Normally in about 30 minutes to an hour, after much affection from Kelly and Kevin, my head is clear, calm ... I am okay.

Swell idea for a topic. :)

adding on to previous post ...
 

The apology to the guy at work went like this ...

I told him I was sorry about the way I handled myself that day and that I wished I had behaved differently when I let him know I had had enough. The apology was not about being sorry for getting ruffled at his loudness.

Usually having a glass of wine while preparing an involving meal helps me relax a lot. If it's been a day from hell, going to the gym works wonders.

Love this topic...

I work from home, so being able to switch gears is critical for my sanity. Some of my colleagues are firing off emails at 2 a.m. and working 7 days a week. They're also the ones we get the email about... "so and so is pursuing opportunities outside of *company*. Please join us in wishing them well."

I multi-task all day long...bouncing between work, online play (like now), household and kid responsibilities...until it's time for work to end. I do that by the clock...and it's 5 p.m. unless I have a critical conference call. Then I will work until the end of that call, period. I will quickly jot down any tasks I'm responsible for or notes I need for the next morning, then I'm done.

I never, ever, ever spend more time at work than a normal day...or I'll end up being one of those burned out colleagues. For me, longevity is the most important thing...and work is a marathon, not a sprint.

So....when it's time to quit for the day...I flag any emails that haven't been resolved from the day, I add new tasks to my "to do" list, and then I shut down my computer and close the lid. I do not go back to that desk until the next morning.

The "dividing" activity for me is always the same...dinner preparation. Whether I'm cooking or running to KFC, the act of getting dinner is the dividing line. Work stays on the other side, in it's own little mental compartment. I don't think about it, or generally talk about it, at all once dinner is underway. Once dinner is being prepared, it's all about home and kids and partner...whether that's helping with homework, watching TV, reading a book, whatever.

I'm the same on vacations and weekends. If you talked to me while I'm on a weekend or a vacation...you wouldn't even think I had a job. :)

I leave work at the door as I exit the building. Always.

After I get into the car, I crank up the music as loud as I can, sing at the top of my lungs, and decompress on the 1/2 hour trip to pick up my daughter from school. I may look like a loon driving down the road, but when I get home there is only happy on my mind.

:eatinghersheybar: Oh, and chocolate helps too!

Your post reminded me of my adventures in substitute teaching in New York. My first day involved an attempted stabbing by a third grader with safety scissors. :|
I have since moved on to different adventures.

Now my stress comes from the men in my life. That is, being the only female working amongst 30 or so men. And, having to constantly convince men that yes, this little girl does know what she's talking about, and can drive a stick better than you!


Long hot baths with a glass of wine and some reading material help with the cool down.
But, I've found that doing my laundry helps me come down too!

I hope you find something that sooths you!

N