Phone and Text Etiquette - Your Opinion?
 

I am really curious what folks think about texting and phone call etiquette.

Feel free to talk about whatever you want but I'm super curious about the following things:

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering?

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?

How do you feel about group texting?

Again, please tell me all about your views on phone etiquette! I'd love to hear from you folks!

Great thread & thought provoking subject!! R-E-S-P-E-C-T!!! :)
 

Most of my phone etiquette is just a manner of politeness, speaking in soft, soothing tones, being mindful of others time & other parameters, & of their individual needs.

I practice common sense regarding what/where/when/how I make/receive calls & texts, & expect same in return.

Care to chat?....:)

Ohhh... this should be an interesting topic.

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?
A big no from me. I haven't face-timed but I know I would not want to be surprised by a call. Perhaps if I was comfortable with the program, I wouldn't mind certain people contacting me that way unannounced...my honey, sister, bestie.

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours? Sure, call or text but don't think I will be able to answer or respond quickly.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?
Not a big fan of long conversations anyway so no.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering? If someone calls me over and over within a short period, it best be a life and death emergency. If someone calls every day and I don't answer or respond, I am not going to take the call so quit trying.

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event? On vacation is fine. If I don't want to talk, I won't answer or respond. If at an important event, my phone is off or at least on silent so call or test if you need to.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?
I never call or text before 8am or after 9pm and I expect the same courtesy.

How do you feel about group texting?Group texting has its place but I don't like getting what I believe to be a personal text and responding, only to begin receiving responses from others.

I am really curious what folks think about texting and phone call etiquette.

Feel free to talk about whatever you want but I'm super curious about the following things:

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it? I don't answer

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours? I don't answer unless wife or child

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not? No. Text is easily misunderstood.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? I keep my phone in my purse, so I don't always hear it ring. How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering? if I dislike someone that much, I have already blocked their calls.

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event? I turn off my phone...no one says I have to answer the phone, I pay for the damn thing!

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone? Family anytime, others after 9 am and before 11 pm

How do you feel about group texting? Too irritating to get all those replys

Again, please tell me all about your views on phone etiquette! I'd love to hear from you folks!

Leave your phone in the other room at meals

When you go out with family/friends, put the phone away

When you go to a party full of people you care about, put the phone away.

If you are in line to pay anywhere, put the phone away...your call is annoying me and no one cares what Mary said to Gail.

If you are in the car with me, put the phone away...the person you are with is the person you chose to be with at that moment; If you want to be with them that bad, go the fuck home.

Turn off the phone at the movies

Turn off the phone at church

Do NOT under any circumstances bring your phone into my bed.

Jeez, I could go on all day! Lolololololol:jester:

Since you asked....
 

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?

I look at this in exactly the same way as the "pop-in." I'm not really a big fan of surprise visits and many years ago (in my much less assertive days) I found myself to be often inconvenienced by it until a longtime friend of mine taught me his way of handling it. (lol, by making a point to sit in plain view of the door - generally with cocktail and cigarette in hand - and simply not answer while the people (who could clearly see him sitting right there) pounded away. He was a jerk in many ways but in his defense, this was reserved for those who were habitual boundary-crossers.)

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?

Not a fan of that; prefer discreet and brief email conversations (when necessary; otherwise I prefer focus on work when at work).

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?

No. I do not. And I've finally come to the realization that it isn't the just medium itself that annoys me, but rather the accompanying expectation that I provide an instantaneous response to it. (I won't.)

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering?

I would say something to that person (politely, of course) and if it continued to be disruptive, I would put the number on block. (If I need to talk to that person, I can always call them.)

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?

I wouldn't answer. Again, the expectations that come along with cell phones are the biggest problem for me. I have no problem turning the phone off or to silent or simply ignoring a call.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?

It depends on the individual because schedules are different from person to person and how close that person is to me. However, as a general rule, I wouldn't call someone past ten (at the very latest) - but I typically don't use the phone much at all.

How do you feel about group texting?

Hate it. I find it obnoxious and intrusive; but that's just me.

Interesting topic. I have no interest in being shackled to a cell phone all day, every day. Sometimes it feels like an ankle monitoring bracelet. I miss the days when the phones stayed at home.

But the absolute worst is public use of the speakerphone feature. To me, it shows a complete lack of consideration for others as well as the person to whom you are speaking. However, it would appear that I am in a teeny, tiny minority on that based upon the incredulous responses I get whenever I have this discussion with people.

Thank you for reading.
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I don't do long texting or face time, I might on very rare occasions that haven't presented themselves yet and for reasons I don't know of, but for now...NO.

As far as answering a persistent caller or taking a call when I am otherwise engaged, that will never happen.

The phone is supposed to be a convenience not an obligation I have to other people. The only person I am obligated to is my wife and for her I will walk through fire to answer her calls.

But as far as everybody else is concerned, my life is my own and I share it when I choose.

And just like I did with a land line, I will answer when I feel like it, return calls when I feel like it and turn the phone off whenever I want. Unless it's an emergency or a friend or family member needs me for some kind of support, I talk on my time.

I control how I spend my free time. Hopefully the time I choose to spend socializing will match with others, but I am not going to give up my time or inconvenience others at functions, movies, whatever, to take phone calls. It's just rude. It's rude to the people I am with and rude to the people forced through no fault of their own to share space with me.

I wish other people would stop talking everywhere out in public all the time. It's incredibly annoying to not even be able to take a piss in silence. I have to hear someone in the bathroom stall next to me having some ridiculous conversation.

I mean it's a sad state of affairs if people are so busy they can't go grocery shopping or out to eat or take a piss in a public restroom without talking on their cell phone. It's really weird and more than a little obsessive. I long for the days when only people suffering with a mental illness talked out loud everywhere in public. And for them I had great compassion. For people so obsessed with social media and staying connected they have lost all sense of public decorum, not so much.

I gonna start by saying; I don't like phones and I never have (unless I'm talking to someone I'm partnered with—then I like to talk.). But I miss the days when I could use a human answering service and have limited use of a phone. I do see the value in Smart Phontes, but I'm not really a fan. I often treat my phone like a land line. Sometimes I leave it at home or just turn it off .... I resent that we've come to rely on it as much as we do.

I don't use FaceTime. I have it turned off, but that may change.

I don't like it and usually I don't answer those calls and texts.

Not really, I like the intimacy of voice conversations. I get a better sense of what you're saying and meaning in voice conversations. The voice conveys so much more than text. It's not as easy for me to capture emotions (warmth, happiness, sarcasm) in text. Text is cool for short thoughts, but I'd rather have a voice conversation for anything substantial.

I couldn't have that. I'd tell them to stop calling or I'd block them.

Doesn't bother me. I'll answer when I can or when I want to. I work with people who are very respectful of personal time off (PTO). Seldom do we contact each other when we're on vacation. I'd answer a call from one of them, but I'd do it at my convenience. And I'd answer a call from family or a loved one without hesitation.

I don't think people should call others after 8pm unless they have an understanding. But it really depends on the situation—8pm could be a terrible time for someone who works the midnight shift. I'd take it on a case-by-case basis.

I hate it but I think that's because I don't know how to use it and maybe my settings aren't right. I used to answer them, but then strangers would start asking who am I (!) and I'm thinkin' you texted me. Yeah, I don't even answer them anymore.

I never put people on hold for longer than 30-45 seconds, if that. Either I call them back or I give them my attention.

I think all calls—personal and work related—should be returned within 24 to 36 hours.

I would love it if people would state why they're calling in the beginning of the call (i.e., Hey girl, just calling to chat, or do you have time to discuss _________, just thought I'd call to check up on _________).

Phone etiquette
 

When I was a kid at my parent's house phone etiquette was a big deal. I think they impressed that on us kids pretty hard.

I have a lot of rules in general but also with the phone. Anyone that knows me in person knows not to call me at work unless it is an emergency, not after 8:30 pm on a work night, and not too early on the weekend (my phone is on silent at night on the weekend anyway).

I don't face time or Skype just because I don't know how. Friends can send me a medium sized text but if they have a lot to say I would prefer that they just call me.

Sometimes on the weekend I like a lenthy chat with friends or family to catch up. I don't have time during the work week for long chats.

To me texts are like email. Send the message and I will return a text when I have time. Don't send me repeted texts unless it is an emergency.

This is my phone etiquette.

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Great topic Medusa! OK, here goes more truths:

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment?

I don't like it and don't generally respond unless I am dressed and my hair is looking good!

Does it depend on who's doing it?
I tend to answer if it is one of my daughters but I have been known to not respond.

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?
I leave my phone off at work. I don't have the kind of job that I can answer the phone in the middle of a group or individual session with a client. If I am alone and doing paperwork or notes and if I hear the vibration, I will answer it but it is rare.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not? I actually like texting but I can't do long texts. I have had carpal tunnel and my hand and fingers get fatigued if I text too much. It is easier on my iPad but with my iPhone, it is really difficult for me.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering? I actually have never had anyone do this to me. I don't know anyone that would do this. I would be totally irritated if it did happen.

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?
The call would simply go to voice mail. The text, would sit there until the event was finished. Vacation? I have been known to answer it if it was family or a good friend.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?
if it is an emergency-any time. Just to chat, not before 9:00AM or after 9:00PM.

How do you feel about group texting?
If it is about a get together or social event or family crisis-it makes perfect sense. As a regular thing, I don't like it.

Overall, I really don't like talking on the phone for long. After a couple of minutes, I am ready to get off. It used to bug the hell out of my recent ex before we moved in together. She could talk and talk on the phone and just never understood why I really didn't like it. Honestly, it was because she talked and I listened. That gets old really fast for me.

Basically phone etiquette is similar. Don't call someone if you think it might not be appropriate and if you really don't have any times that you would consider inappropriate to call or text then you're 'that' person in the group and that's why some of your calls go to voicemail and some texts are just not answered. Use common sense, be respectful and limit any potentially disruptive psychosis.


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Interesting thread!

I have really enjoyed reading all the responses!! Super cool to see so many folks are still "old school" about phone etiquette.

I'll confess: I have a young gay boy who I love dearly who doesn't think twice about trying to FaceTime me without an appointment at 10am on a Tuesday when that fool knows I'm at work. I told him I was going to strangle him when I saw him again :D

I think phone use and texting behavior can be super generational too (especially from the looks of how we "finely aged" people like to do it!

I am really curious what folks think about texting and phone call etiquette.

I like this conversation very much! So glad you asked. First, I'm very anti-phone and always have been. I have to make myself talk on it which is why I probably get nowhere with dating. LoL And then there's this that kind of sums it up for me...“Don't use the phone. People are never ready to answer it. Use poetry.” ― Jack Kerouac

Feel free to talk about whatever you want but I'm super curious about the following things:

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?

I'm very uncomfortable with someone wanting to face-time without 'appointment' / pre-planned time ahead. I won't answer the phone.

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?

This I'm okay with. I have a lot of freedom at work unless I'm in meetings so I'm fine with texting me at work. It's usually a lovely distraction for me.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?

Like most conversations in life, it depends on who I'm having it with. But technically speaking, I don't enjoy it on my phone but am fine with it on my iPad. It's the tiny keyboard that I'm not crazy about. I'm still pretty old school though and use my laptop more than either my phone or iPad.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering?

I think it's very rude. Call, leave a message and if I don't get back to you, assume there's a reason. It may not even be a personal reason having to do with the caller, there may be something going on in my world.

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?

Texting is fine, phone calling I will always let it go to voice mail. Well, actually I let every call all the time, with only one exception being my son, go to voice mail. I don't answer the phone.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?

And, again it depends on the person or the day of the week. Some people I'm fine with middle of the night texts. Calling is business hours only.

How do you feel about group texting?

I'm not crazy about it unless it's necessary for planning something. There's too much that can go wrong with the whole concept I think.

On to more of phone/text etiquette...
In my opinion, unless you are twelve, it's not appropriate to 'text type'. Example: UR, 2b While I'm a stickler for spelling and grammar usually, the real reason I don't like text type is because it takes me too long to figure out what is being said. I'm ok with the occasional LoL but that's about all I think is ok for educated adults to use. I think too, texts should be answered in a reasonable amount of time. It takes two seconds to acknowledge a text message even if it's just to say, I'll have to get back to you later. Texting is so routine these days that it's not frowned upon in most settings anymore and so answering quickly is usually going to be ok. I work in the corporate office of a major retailer and we text in meetings all day. It's very acceptable in the workforce now. I think phones should always be on silent at work, on dates, etc. And, I'm always put off when someone takes a call (unless it's an emergency obviously) or carries on a long text conversation when we're socializing. And lastly, people who carry on personal conversations in public areas such as shopping, theaters, restaurants loud enough for everyone else to hear, I think is rude also. You can always excuse yourself and have a private conversation somewhere. It's uncomfortable to listen to others private conversations in public places. Wow, I didn't know I had all these phone/text issues. No wonder I never talk on the phone! I'm not on good terms with it clearly.

How to state this?

We share 1 cellphone between the 2 of us. Neither of us enjoys texting.. Rare short texts with family.

We keep the phone at home and generally off except when calling someone or one of us is not home. I don't accept accept unplanned calls, let alone the horrific idea of face time. In fact, we choose not to have a phone with that capablity.

No one calls us unless have planned it well in advance.

We are less accessible now than when just having a landline. Less irritating.

I'll play!
 

[Medusa;1127445]I am really curious what folks think about texting and phone call etiquette.

Feel free to talk about whatever you want but I'm super curious about the following things:

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?

DO NOT LIKE - This has to be arranged first.

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?

if its not necessary don't do it.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?

Yes. I have speech to text and I don't always hear so well- HOWEVER some convos require a voice.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering?

RUDE

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?
Depends on the someone.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?

7am to 9pm

How do you feel about group texting?


NOOOOOO just no
Again, please tell me all about your views on phone etiquette! I'd love to hear from you folks! QUOTE

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?

No, please don't. I won't be answering. Only time I facetime is pre-planned like.. I'm at a party and one of our friends can't go and we say... we'll facetime you!

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?

If I know that it's because they have a moment and don't actually expect me to get right back to them, it's fine. But if they are then like... hey, why aren't you getting back to me? I'm annoyed.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?

No. It's annoying and typos and misunderstandings and... just pick up the phone at a time it works for us both.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering?

I feel like both are totally uncalled for. Take a hint.

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?

Better be an emergency if I'm at an an important event and they know it. I don't mind on vacation - so long as I have the option to respond or not or in my own sweet time.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?

Earliest- 7am. Latest 11pm.

How do you feel about group texting?

My friends and I do. I like it for when we're planning out something. I don't like when someone group texts like.. a news article or something. Don't want my phone blowing up for that.

Again, please tell me all about your views on phone etiquette! I'd love to hear from you folks!

I like no pressure no expectation phone relationships. I usually have to answer my phone due to being on call for work 24/7 and call id doesn't always tell me who is calling but I have no problem not answering my phone if I know who it is and don't have time/don't feel like talking. I'll call back when my mood/time is right and if they answer, great. If not I leave a message and trust we'll connect when the time is right.

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it? If I get a video call without warning I reject it or block the camera and then answer. You should always ask before a video chat is any kind. I don't mind seeing other people, but I like to make sure I don't have a booger hanging out of my nose or something before answering a call.

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours? I don't mind texts but unplanned calls are extremely disruptive for me, especially since I work in an open office environment. It's even more frustrating when people don't get the hint when I say I am at work and insist on continuing to chat.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not? Since I often have social anxiety, I am able to express myself better over text, so I don't really mind long conversations via text.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering? Dude, if I don't answer my phone, leave a message. If I don't return the message then I clearly do not want to talk to you. My mother does this, calls multiple times until I answer, drives me batty.

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event? This doesn't bother me as long as it is not taking up more than just a few minutes of your time. If you start ignoring me for your phone, well then we are going to have words later on.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone? Anytime is fine, with the technology to silence phones or set DND and only allow certain people and things through I see nothing wrong with this.

How do you feel about group texting? I would prefer to not get dragged into one unless I am aware if it ahead of time.

You know something else I think is incredibly rude. Talking on your phone while someone is ringing you up at any kind of store. It's incredibly rude to the person working and it slows down the line for the rest of us!

Phone and Text Etiquette - Your Opinion?
I am really curious what folks think about texting and phone call etiquette.

Feel free to talk about whatever you want but I'm super curious about the following things:

How do you feel about people face-timing you without warning or appointment? Does it depend on who's doing it?

Uhhg I know it was supper cool on The Jetsons, but even Jane had a mask for the purpose. I have some friends and family that are just taken with apps like snap chat and slide. This is bothersome and irritating to me just as much.

How do you feel when people call or text you during work or school hours?

When I was in an office or a clinic it was irritating, and I made sure they knew it was not okay. It was necessary on occasion for example when my step son has an allergic reaction because someone gave him a peanut butter cookie. he was fine after he got a dose, that poor girl though felt horrible.

Do you enjoy having long conversations by text? Why or why not?

This for me is my preference, I loved to talk all night as a girl, but as an adult I don't do so well with small talk. I get weird and don't know how to continue once I notice that their is not actual direction of conversation. This may also be why I lake the skill to flirt or drop hints.
I will also admit that I also like to take my time to think about my responses, The first inclination is to say what I am sure the other wants to hear, this way I say what I mean and as a Gemini sometimes that takes some sorting.

How do you feel about someone calling you over and over within a short period if you don't answer? How about if the person calls you every day even though you aren't answering?

Why would anyone submit them selves to this? Self respect?

How do you feel if someone calls or texts you while you are on vacation or at an important event?

If they are friend or family they are calling or texting when they have something to say or just want to reach out, which is fine I have the choice to respond or not. Again not a leash.
If it is work, WTF. No unless it was prearranged, I respect that we have a trade agreement and I honor that my time and effort is rented to them but this does not mean they own me.

How early or late do you think is appropriate to call or text someone?
Know your audience.

How do you feel about group texting?

Group texting is fine if it is a need to know, it was beneficial last November and December for my cousins and I to coordinate care for an aunt that lived hours away from any of us and her husband was just so lost. We were all able to cover the last two months of her life between sick and vacation. Or if you are collaboration a big family dinner or a night out as a group

Again, please tell me all about your views on phone etiquette! I'd love to hear from you folks!

My Rant
For me to start with I have had people in the past that have tried to use my phone as a leash, I was early twenties when cell phones started to become the norm, I have always been an adult with one and will not be expected to check in like a teen. If I am not reaching out it is by design.
I have little regard for people who are so rude as to have what should be a private conversation in any public place, I don't mean the hi how are you type of calls i mean the personal conversation that you should be embarrassed by any Joe or Jane over hearing this is not cute and you are not all that with or with out that bag of chips.
If you can not end your phone call before you get to the cashier you should not be in line for them yet, walk another lap get off the phone, don't be rude and don't make other people wait on you like that, their time is just as valuable as yours.