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Please, please don't be the type of person who equates leather, cross dressing, same sex love, furries, etc with being only about sex. It may be only about sex for some, and may be only about sex for you, but it is not only about sex for all. |
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Sometimes I worry about making someone else uncomfortable because I'm trans-identified. My friends tell me it's not my job to make other people ok or comfortable with how I look as long as I treat them with respect and dignity. I'm sure people assume I'm a sexual deviant. They have a right to their opinion. |
I have a friend who is into the furry scene, and it was explained to me as such:
Furries dress up as an animal they want to be (he wants to be a fox, for example.) Some people dress sexually, and for some it is a sexual fetish. However, for the most part, it is about dressing up and socializing with others that are furry as well. The ones that make it sexual - that is of their own choosing - it was not intended to be sexual. Furry does not equal sexual fetish. As for the furry porn.. I myself am a fan of Sailor Moon - and have come across porn while searching for images. It's not originally intended as porn, but people will make what they will. So, not all furry illustrations are porn. I can say I went through a phase in school wearing collars - and it wouldn't surprise me to see someone with a tail on - that doesn't mean slavery or furry. It wasn't a lifestyle - it was a way of dress, and in no way sexual. My point is this: The manner of how the slave dresses is an embarrassment, yes, but it seems just that. It's not abusive. People may point, but people may point at a lot of things. I'm not sure about what goes on in the house - I saw something about waiting hand and foot, referring to him as 'Master' - I view that separately from the manner of how the slave dresses. I have no comment on that, and without knowing it all, I still could have no comment - it's not my life. I just wanted to try and clarify that furry does not mean sexual fetish for everyone else in the furry scene, so saying the collar&tail is purely sexual and therefore forcing a sexual nature on the child is not the case. As far as the other stuff - I have no comment. I hope that made sense and I didn't reiterate an awful lot. My .02 cents is in and I now bow out. |
holy shit!
that being said...as the parent to a teenager and an almost 10 year old I can't imagine putting a lifestyle choice before their needs for any reason...especially during such a tender and delicate time in their developmental lives. but that's just me. and i truly believe that each family is completely unique and some are simply better equipped to handle such diversity. my girls and i talk about everything and i do mean e v e r y t h i n g, and i hope nothing comes between that universally open dialogue we have worked so hard for - but if it did, i sure as hell hope someone would call me on it. raising kids is hard as hell and i can say from experience that it truly does take a tribe. i would sit down with this dad and have at it from a place of love and genuine concern and then let the chips fall where they may. |
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I hate to be THAT person, but.... Fetish may refer to: Fetishism, the attribution of religious or mystical qualities to inanimate objects Sexual fetishism, sexual attraction to objects, body parts, or situations not conventionally viewed as being sexual in nature. Fetish (album) (1999), by Joan Jett and the Blackhearts Commodity fetishism, a Marxist concept of valuation in capitalist markets Growth Fetish, the pursuit of economic growth in politics and economic theory as a universal cure for all society's problems Fetish fashion, clothing and clothing fetishes Zuni fetishes, small carvings from various stones, made by the Zuni Indians Venturi Fétish, a car produced by Venturi Automobiles. Fetish, a fictional superheroine in the Bomb Queen series. Quote:
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Okay, if the kid got equally upset and embarrassed because the adult accompanying him carried and wore Zuni fetishes, sexualized or not, I would still handle the situation by starting with the kid and his feelings about it. I would not just make him "deal with it." He's a child. That's why children have parents--to help them deal with things. In case anyone wonders, I would approach it this same way if the issue were with lesbians. For example, if my kid didn't want both mommies going to the parent-teacher conference. Just that kind of parent, I guess. And I understand that there are other kinds.
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When my kind was about 7, and I had recently come out, he asked me not to talk about my girlfriend in front of his friends. I respected his wishes and was more careful. My coming out did not mean forcing my kid out too. He got to have his own process in his own time. We talked about things of course, but I did not violate his personal and public space. About a year later, he came came home from school and told me about a diversity assembly where a male teacher talked about marrying his same-sex partner. I asked M. if his friends knew he had a lesbian mom. His reply: "Of course! I'm the kid that always stands up for you people!"
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Transgendered Furry Slave
I have never heard of a Transgendered Furry Slave (I have heard of furries before). Wow, you learn new things every day. I think its different and I do not want to be a Transgendered Furry Slave myself (the whole slightly bestiality thing kinda creeps me out and the whole slave thing I am not into:bolt:). I think that is all I can say, I am to confused by the whole concept. :seeingstars:It is probably more embarrassing for the kid than harming him. But I am not an expert and I have no kids (so who knows).
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Wow, good thing I looked at the date line for this thread.
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When my son was ingrade school the kids called me macho momma,I had gone to the same school at that age so a lot of the parents were the kids I went to school with and he also had some of the same teachers I did.THere were fure parents who got in the school yard with the kids dureing feild day or after school events.Often dureing the summer there was a day camp the school had and or over night camp outs.They thought it wa cool I could set up a tent the start a fire with out matches for the wennie roast.My sexuality wasnt even an issue nor did I bring it up or in any way be anything but myself.I had been married then divorced,my son knew I had lady friends tho I didnt sit him down and have the talk.Fast forward this many years in the future whe he was a grown man that we had the discusion about things.His reply was that he knew about it a long time ago so not to worry cause no one ever brought it up.
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