Interesting....

1995 -- first bf... Met at oldest brothers house
1996 -- met him at church
2001 -- met her at college
2002 -- a random pm sent to me from gay.com
2003 -- gay.com
2007 -- roommate of ex from 2002 and had been friends ever since
2007 -- above and I in LDR, him not wanting to rush it and scare me off... So I kept dating a girl from work. We remained friends after I ended it
2009 -- dash site
2012 -- it began with a pm and a revelation and a realization

I had already posted in this thread about my longest term relationship and my current GF, so will go back into the memory vault for the boys before the girls...

1st BF age 12. Made out in my backyard until my dad busted us.

Last I saw of him in the capacity as my BF, was running down the street with his two broken arms, in casts, running like a cartoon character. (Fell backwards, pre-me, lifting his older bro's, too-heavy weights, falling backwards and fracturing his forearms).

Aged 13 & 14: Donnie. Last name escapes me. Made out constantly. Skipped school a couple of times. Think he felt my right breast once.

Aged 15-17: Mike M. Remember his last name but withold it to protect the innocent guilty.

I had described in a prior post, that I had gotten poison ivy all over my back and ass after we had sex in the woods (the soft greenery, clearly, was not just leaves:|).

Aged 17-22. Tom, BF became my ticket out of my parents house. Had my two babies with him so will always be grateful to him for my girls.

Aged 22-25, after we split: Joe C. Still remember his last name too. We were engaged but two weeks before the big wedding, invitations had been sent out and all, he broke up with me. Decided he did not want the responsibility of raising my ex-husband's kids or so he said.

Aged 25-26 dated girls and guys. Decided girls rang my chimes way more and have strictly been a lesbian since that time.

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This is one of my favorite threads to read. I am always fascinated and love hearing how people have met. I’ve only had one what I would call a serious relationship. We met at work, and we ending up being together for 14 years.

To put it simply: If the internet didn't exist after I finished school, my love life would have been basically non-existent as well.

Nah...we would just all still be in the bars...

Have met a couple folks from online but those were situations where I was lucky to walk away with my sanity and life.

Had made up my mind to just swear off anything remotely romantic. Was better that way.....

Then, I met her.

Wasn't even attempting to get to know her or anything, she just has a really funny tag line on her profile (she was a member, like myself, of the dash site) that gave me a much needed laugh that day I saw her name so I sent her a message to thank her for the laugh. She messaged back and well, the rest is history. That was seven or so years ago.

Haven't looked back since and sincerely grateful every day for sending that pm and for her answering it.


I Suck With Remembering Exact Dates,
Brute.

are you sure it was the right one?

Just a reminder... "when" isn't really the point; it's more about "where" or "how" you've met the people you've been involved with.

Do you tend to meet people online? Through work? Through a hobby or an interest, like bike riding or school or ... ?

It's really interesting to read how people meet their partners.

there have been way too many for me to put in a list. that would become rather embarrassing.

when I was a teen it was through school or at the Dance Hall or at a Gig.

when I was 18-27 it was through mutual friends, gigs, house parties, events, cafes and clubs/bars

from 27 - 33 it was all on line b/f stuff with the rare pick up in a bar

34 - 38 it was online London social site events (meet n greets, event nights) and the genderqueer-dyke bar/club and mutual friends and exes (house parties), as I made them.

when my wife left it has all since been from dating sites, save the rare set up from an ex. That's about to change as I get back into things and my very few local dyke mates (most of my friends at home are straight) plug me back into the local social life.

I'd like to take the focus off on-line as I don't really trust the dating sites... social sites perhaps a bit easier. dating sites are difficult. lots of people out there on cupid and pof, but I find it very difficult to get a feel for someone before meeting. Someone's sense of grace is really the main point of attraction for me. that doesn't come through till I meet them, though occasionally it can be seen in a photograph.

I met her thru a blind date that my brother set up for me, just after I got out of the military for the first time.
We met thru mutual friends, and were together for about three years.
Met her at a bus stop in downtown Detroit. I was going to work, she was just coming home from church.

The majority of women I have been involved with, were introduced through friends. Work, school and online were also places I met women. My favorite was a coffee shop.

That one feels so romantic to me. I guess that "meeting on a train/ship/etc." thing is a classic way to find love ... It's like the start of a movie.

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I don't know about that, but I was certainly surprised by the relationship. lol

What I liked about online dating sites is how quickly you can sift through people. Since I only ever dated locally, there was no need for anything to be drawn out. Two-three emails, maybe a phone call and then a quick meet. Next.

I don't really have the time though. With social sites I can dip in and out here and there, talk a bit, and there's a platform for conversation. I don't want a prolonged email blah blah, but I'd like some kind of common template to start with... I guess it's because I'm just no longer fond of dating. I much prefer freindship and attraction -> shagging and friendship -> seeing someone

the dating thing I'm just finding kind of hard. chatting because of mutual friends, and have some point of mutual link makes it much easier.

I think I'm just a bit tired. I think oh ugh, starting from point zero. why can't I just go hang out with some friends I find sexy and take it from there.

I guess I'm hanging with all my old mates, I've had sex with most of my friends before, there's no "trouble" they feel a bit like family and the thought of coming home and starting up with people with no feeling of familiarity... just makes my chest sink. I think that's why I prefer meeting people through people. It's just not awkward or stiff. But then, maybe I haven't met someone with the right click. Or maybe, it's just easier to relax and allow that click when it's at a house party/dinner party/mutual friends.

I think I just discovered I hate dating... I used to love it...

I met her on a well-known, legitimate dating site.

I was only dating people that were local and ones I could first meet for coffee.

With her, I skipped my coffee first "rule" and met for dinner. (First dates, I would always meet them rather than have them pick me up in their car).

It just was serendipitous that we clicked on our first date.

1. We met at a well known guitar shop in Rochester, NY. He was a bass player in a rock band.

2. He was one of my best friends for eleven years and we worked together. He was a big factor in my decision to leave my then husband.

3. A queer website. She also lived in my hometown.

4. The Apple store here in Tucson.

I personally am a virgin.

I met a dyke bartender at a gay bar and spent seven years trying to make that work.

I was dating a girl, and she introduced me to her friend, who it turned out would be a girl I would spend the next seven years with.

I met a girl through an online writers group at yahoo. She was so adorable and scatterbrained that I asked her to come to Nebraska and live with me. My first LDR and seven years of a very strong love. I don't have any regrets.

I met a girl through an online text-based RPG game and after two years of killing each other and being allies, we met in RL, and I knew right then she was someone I could live forever with. Seven and a half years and still going.

I've met women over the internet, in bars, through friends and by chance. I can't say one way has worked out better than another.

My First: It all began when I was 18. We met when she auditioned for our rock and roll band. She had wicked long hot red hair/legs/eyes, hissed like a snake, cooked good eggs, soups and salads, and was a real good drummer too. We played around together for about seven years. ;)

My In-Between: We met at a bus-stop, and regularly dated for about a year or more. She was sweet sixteen, and I was 25. Wth was I thinking? ;)

My Last: We were innocently introduced at our local Lesbian Community Center (LCC). Together 35 years.;)

I met my wife at an AA meeting. We were married 21 years.

I met the woman I'm interested in at the moment at Pride in Northampton last May. It took 4 or 5 weeks before she agreed to go out with me. Since then, we've been on some casual dates and gone on a group camping trip, and spent a lot of non-date time together. Now if she'd just fall in love with me! LOL

The majority of the people I have been involved with found me either online or at a show I used to perform in. I didn't realize until now that I have almost always been pursued, and not the one who has done the pursuing!

My ex fiance (the first of only two women I have ever loved) I saw at a drag show. I remember saying to a friend that I didn't care who she was, I wanted her. It was two years after I first saw her that I ever spoke to her. (I obviosuly will wait if the woman is worth it.) She wrote on a card that I wanted to take her out on a date. We were supposed to be a one night stand and ended up spending 5 mostly wonderful years together. We are very close friends now and she still means a lot to me in a non-romantic way.

The woman I currently love I met by accident online about 9 months ago when I was involved in an LDR. She had commented in an online forum about how cute my (at the time) girlfriend and I were, or something like that, and that's when she hit my radar. It may seem dumb, but something about her stuck in the back of my mind. I noticed her on and off for several months after that but only met her offline several months ago. Something about her clicked with me the first time I saw her and I knew I loved her shortly after that. It honestly has freaked me out and I am too scared to pursue my feelings since my track record this past year has not been good. LOL

We lived on the same street, my first gf [not serious, but was my best friend] had broken up with me out of the blue and I told her this.. turned out she was bi.. We were together for almost 4 years. I really thought we had everything planned out [who doesn't when you're 16?] and still to this day harbor resentment for her sleeping with her friend to see if she 'really loved me'. She has actually tried to come back around back I laid into her and now we don't ever talk

Met him in college, moved in with him. He is the straightest man I know with the gayiest tendencies. If you met him, you'd get it. First guy I ever slept with [my other BFF guy friend makes the second - was trying to figure out if I really was gay. It was a one time thing, and I came out after.] We are total BFF's though, and he is the one who told me I "need a Daddy" to keep me in line *snort* We used to talk a lot more than we do now, but occasionally we call each other about every month or so. Nothing is off limits, can talk about anything and everything.

Stalker ex, met on MySpace. Met face-to-face at the local club, jumped in bed the next night, U-haul moved a few months later.. She had and has some serious control issues, left once, went back. We still talk, but she really likes to get under my skin and press every.single.button

Met her at work - my first butch. Showed me it was o.k. to be me. Left my gf in no time for her. Got really hung up in her for a long time. I couldn't deal with the drug use though and was trying to get the guts to give her an ultimatum, because she was as hung up on me as I was her. She up and left one day. Five years and I still don't know what's happened or where she is. Lack of closure still eats at me. Though I more worry about her dead in a ditch somewhere, though her take flight is apparently a normal thing. Still waiting for the "Hey sugah" text to know that she is somewhere.

Met him on the dash site. Dated for a year before I flew across the states to meet him. Found out some unfortunate information but wanted to try to make it work anyways. Had issues with job transfer, got a funny feeling..Called it off.

Met her on the dash site, worked through a lot of baggage, moved in after a year and a half, engaged for a year and a half then we got married and simultaneously bought a house and here I am today!

1.School
2.1980's brick and mortar video dating establishment
3.TGI Fridays after work having a drink with the girls.. Stranger comes over from the bar and buys drinks. Figured he was after one of the other luscious girls but noo..twas me.
4. Online in a chat room..O.D.G. - was lucky to get out with sanity. But the sex was hot.:police:
5. Online chat room (you would think I'd have learned my lesson..but nahhh). Lasted mere months and the sex ..Well, can u say butch pillow princess???
6. Met her in my neighborhood walking my dog in sweats and NO makeup! :blush: lasted 6 yrs.


These are only my significant relationships. The rest we won't talk about.

ok I will give it a go...
met her in the army she floored me with her accent together broke up when she cheated on me the broke my nose back together a couple months later then 2 weeks after she was killed in a car wreck..
met her at a bar together 6 months till I came home and found her in bed with a friend of mine TWICE!
met her at a bar together 2 years grew apart
met her at the mall 4 years till she cheated
met her at the gay bar in Philly I was a bouncer at 12 years and one child.. she wanted to change me soften me it became emotionally abuseve
met her on the dash site LDR met in person twice till she found someone much richer and I found out she was a phony
met HER ( my soulmate) on the dash site talked on and off finally I asked her out
dated for 3 years then I wised up and married her the smartest thing I ever did
she is my equal my partner and I can't even think not having her by my side

OPPS I forgot My Ex Husband lol met him while walking to donate blood became freinds with my and the first GF married him one month to the day that the GF was killed in a accident soo did not work married 3 years most of that time seperated or he was stationed in Panama

I did forget about a sorta poly/open LDR relationship :| I was young, so obv we just considered it an open relationship.

Met in The Graveyard Yahoo chatroom. He was an English major at a Catholic college in PA, long black hair and trenchcoat. After 3 years or so, he broke all connection with me. Came back a year later and told me he was a lesbian. I said whatttt? MtF. She is still pre-op (living at home, with Catholic parents). We still haven't met in person though we have been talking on-line/phone/texts for 14 years now. I hope that one day we can at least meet - we are hella good friends! Did lose contact when dating stalker MySpace gf because I wasn't *allowed* to have friends (no lie!) and we just got back in touch about a year ago after five years of nothing.

Guy next door, 3 years
Mother introduced us, 16 years
Online, met real time, over same day, just took me to my limit to end.
yahoo group, almost fainted, oh ya, ended when I moved.
Introduced by friend, not so good for me, great for her

Single.

Question: What is this dash site everyone keeps mentioning?

Usually I met through my work or friends but now I meet more and more through the virtual world of the internet.

Bump

Someone asked me how i met my wife, so I thought I'd give this thread a bump:jester:

I met my last serious ex at a bus stop in downtown Detroit, believe it or not.

Online or at events that are advertised online.

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I met my last ex at the coffee shop they work at.