For anyone who has ever had a LDR
 

“Well hello lover, how was your day?”
She asked as she laid her jacket over the chair.
“Mine was ok, I missed you more than words can say”.
She said as she took down and brushed out her hair.
“ I love you too, she purred so softly in her lover’s ear”.
As she stripped off her clothes and slipped into her negligee.
“It’s turning so cold now, great snuggling weather there’s a chill in the air”.
She sighed as she turned back the covers to climb into a cold bed alone.
“ You are my everything, I love you so deeply. Sweet dreams my love.”
As a tear ran down her face she slowly hung up the phone.

there is such a bittersweetness to LDRs. I have had a few and in the courting phase, I loved them! The people were romantic, sensual, creative, and very attentive. I loved the travel, both theirs to me and me to them. I loved the never ending verbal foreplay. And the delightful ways we both found to keep us connected and to make more dimension to our romance. I loved the little gifts sent via mail, that they found for me in their real life and wanted me to have so i would know they were thinking of me and could show how well they knew me. I loved the intensity, as well as the simplicity of LDRs.

the only thing I dont like about LDRs is the inevitable..someone has to move if it is to go the next level. I have been burnt a few times badly and I cant imagine what it would take to get me to even consider, let alone actually do, moving. And the longer I am alone and the more self sufficient and safe I feel in my own PAID FOR COMPLETELY house, the less open I am to consider letting someone move in with me if they were the one to move to me.

Knowing someone in a perpetual honeymoon type relationship is not the same as dating someone who kicks off their old shoes and walks across your aging linoleum so the two of you can kick back and watch SUV reruns. You dont get to see how they suck on a straw the whole time and make aggravating noises with it. Or how they dont clean up after their cat. Or that they are organizational freaks and you are content piling all the silverware in a wicker basket and digging thru it when you need something. (this is me!)

and LDRs dont let you have body heat. Or protective arms. Or hands that handle you like you are so loved.

But they can lead to that.

Frankly I loved LDRs. Its the moving that ruined them for me...

Thank you so much for sharing with me. I appreciate your thoughts and opinions.

I have had a few ldr, and my recent one sucked only for the fact I was being lied to from the start. But most of them have been wonder and I would do it again.

Sadly some don't work out, we have to go into it knowing when you meet it may not work.. It would be unfair to have the expectation of mate for life at first sight!

It's hard and takes A LOT of work, the rewards I have found AMAZING!!

and that is why i have learned that not everyone is bad and that I will love again

ive had some fantastic LDRs and ive had some not so great. the not so great ones i had very high expetations of them and them of me. the fantastic ones were the ones where we kept it on a honest "lets do it for the good times" and see what happens type. neither of us making any big promises. although the traveling was a pain in the but and expensive it was usually well worth it.

I was very young and naive when I had my first LDR and I thought it was going to last forever. Low and behold....it didn't. It was very hard because I just wanted the person near me. But no one ever met my unreasonable expectations. I expected them to be exactly what I pictured in my head and when they were not I was no longer interested. I was too immature, I didn't have enough life experience and didn't need to be in any relationship let alone an LDR. They can be awesome for some people and some people meet mates for life.

Oy vey right???

If we had the knowledge and tools we have now.... LOL

Indeed. This is flawless.

Everyone on here that knows me knows I have screamed for years that I wouldnt.. I dont wanna etc etc....

I cant say that anymore. I am open. I am willing to say after speaking with friends what my boundaries are. I wont move. Communicate, communicate, communicate with me and so many other things... But, I would open my heart for the right one. Near or far. Sure it will and would be frustrating but my baby would be so worth the wait... :)

Im not sure I will get in another one right now only because people have to high of expectations for me, I work and i am finally getting my career going. plus people say I am to young and blah blah.