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Why can't I.....
go poop around Dapper after being together over 3 years? I worry about what is going to happen when we move in together. I think I am really up shit's creek.
I wonder if it is because I have control issues...... What can't you do around your significant other? |
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Well first of all, tantalizing femme, LOL, I think it's okay to always keep a few things out of your partner's view, to keep a few things behind the curtain, no matter what stage your relationship is in. You know, some mystery? You say it like it's a bad thing, that you don't "poop" around your sweetie. I think ... it's really okay. Maybe it's healthy to have a little bit of private ground, some harmless bit of inviolable space, within shared space. Some old movie I remember, it had Jill Clayburg, I can't remember the title—anyway, the man she's dating says he wants them to grow old together, and put their teeth in the same glass, and she says, "I want my own glass." I was with a woman for ten years and we used to laugh and say, "I want my own glass," sometimes. We let each other have that little bit of separateness, when we needed it. And btw, congratulations on moving in together!! |
Well the move in is future. No date. But I mean I can't do it unless I am in my own home and hy is at hys. Hy thinks I'm just really odd.
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Lmaoooooo Ok, well after almost 9 years I have no problem doing most things in front of mah Wife. However, and this is pushing the envelope on mah own limits of privacy as to what I post...but when I'm stepping into mah Strap, the dressing room is closed. :shocking: :daywalker: |
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Hahahahahaha :) I was sitting here reading your post out loud to Katy and then read Island Scout's response, and Katy was like, "YES! That! RIGHT THERE! What she said!!!" I drive her C R A Z Y with my nonsensical privacy issues (of which I have none!) I think some of the best conversations two people can have are sometimes formulated in the bathroom. She would like everything I do in the bathroom to remain a mystery. ;) Pooping issues are funny. My oldest daughter refuses to eat before school because the thought of having to poop AT school absolutely mortifies her. I have been known to fart on the first date. True story. Perhaps I am the wrong person for this thread because there's really nothing I can't do around Katy. I'm gross like that. ;) My poor, poor honey. :praying: |
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That's awesome! Thanks. :) |
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That just blows my mind! You are just a private person! :) Kudos to you! |
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lol....... |
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Another trick I learned is to flush the toilet as soon as you start to poop (OMG I LOVE THIS THREAD!!!) and that way there's no poop noise and a vast reduction of poopy smell. Either that or have a coughing fit if it's a noise issue.
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Honestly, it's not noise or smell that stops me. I don't have the urge at all. Even if we have been together for 4 or 5 days straight. (and I'm vegan so I get plenty of ruffage) But the minute I get home, or hy leaves to go to hys.... game on. |
I'm right there with you tantalizingfemme. The other day i left the bathroom door open a little and my puppy bella opened it the rest of the way.
I heard Bully coming down the hall and FREAKED OUT. I screamed SHUT YOUR EYES AND DON'T LOOK. She did and turned her head the other way. THANK GOODNESS LOL@Novelafemme....so true!!! You can also run the water on high and splash your hand around in it while you are on the pot if you are close enough. Then they think you are just washing your face. |
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tantalizingfemme, how about starting with a phone call? You could still remain in separate homes, but give Dapper a call from the toilet when you have to poop. It might be a step towards more intimacy, and toilet flushing tricks wouldn't be necessary because any smell would be a non-issue.
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OMG. I kind of want you guys to video tape this exchange. Not that I'm weird or anything. :eyebat: |
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That would be a start Jen, thanks! I would probably cover the mouth piece the entire time though.... |
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