Hey Heart,
Hope it's ok to tease this out a little more.
I also believe that women exist on a gender spectrum that is as diverse as it is prolific.
Im wondering if, in the article, Cynthia had referred to her partner as "Trans" if the "man with boobs" comment would mean something different to you? What if her partner comes out as Trans in a few days? Would that feel any different when trying to name something on our gender spectrum that may exist in a completely different capacity on someone else's?
Because to me, it does make a difference how that person identifies, if the comment was ok for their way of being or if it was an insensitive, erasing snip.
I was sitting here kinda thinking over a couple of the conversations I have had with some of my Trans Male friends and how a couple have actually talked about feeling like a "man with boobs" until they were able to have the surgery to make their body fit more in-line with what they felt their identity called for.
I was also thinking about the negative comments on this particular article and how it saddens me so deeply that our entire spectrum of Queerness is so often fetishized and/or treated as a voyeur-circus for mouth-breathing idiots.
More thoughts..