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SassyLeo · 05-11-2010, 02:39 PM

When I read the front page of the article... my initial thought is... WOW she could use some education!

She specifically said that she was not attracted to or dated women until she met her partner. How long have they been together (did it say...I cannot remember)? Now because she has been with her partner for X number of years, she is supposed to be an expert on all things butch & femme; in terms of what kind of "language" to use?

My point is this...while I totally agree that her comments are archaic in regards to the language of "gender spectrum" and playing into the male/female roles that society has forced upon every relationship dynamic, I am not convinced she is "sophisticated" and/or even has the level of information/awareness that we all do.

Years ago when I first came to this community, I had little knowledge about butch/femme dynamics, gender politics, etc (aside from my own growing up with gay parents in the 80's/90's which was still early for alot of this...). I learned by reading and dialoguing with ALL OF YOU!

That doesn't mean I think it is ok; in terms of how she used the gender role language. I guess I choose to look at it like, hey...we still have alot of work to do; to educate...and especially those who are fore front to the media.

It makes me want to write her a letter

05-11-2010, 02:39 PM	#71
SassyLeo Is Grateful How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Engaged Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The PDX Posts: 1,526 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 846 Thanked 1,577 Times in 620 Posts Rep Power: 856202	When I read the front page of the article... my initial thought is... WOW she could use some education! She specifically said that she was not attracted to or dated women until she met her partner. How long have they been together (did it say...I cannot remember)? Now because she has been with her partner for X number of years, she is supposed to be an expert on all things butch & femme; in terms of what kind of "language" to use? My point is this...while I totally agree that her comments are archaic in regards to the language of "gender spectrum" and playing into the male/female roles that society has forced upon every relationship dynamic, I am not convinced she is "sophisticated" and/or even has the level of information/awareness that we all do. Years ago when I first came to this community, I had little knowledge about butch/femme dynamics, gender politics, etc (aside from my own growing up with gay parents in the 80's/90's which was still early for alot of this...). I learned by reading and dialoguing with ALL OF YOU! That doesn't mean I think it is ok; in terms of how she used the gender role language. I guess I choose to look at it like, hey...we still have alot of work to do; to educate...and especially those who are fore front to the media. It makes me want to write her a letter __________________ Joy is the best makeup -Anne Lamott