[Lynn]

There is nothing antiquated about the terms or the idea of "butch/femme" to me. I am also a lesbian, which is something about myself that I hold very dear. I don't consider that my own identity negates that of anyone else. I'm a woman who loves women, and butch women add a dimension to my life that I never knew before. My partner ID's as butch, but it isn't the label that attracts me, it's the qualities that she possesses. Being comfortable with herself, in her own skin is what I'm talking about. It may not be about the label, per se, but it is about the qualities.

I have to admit that in daily life, my world is somewhat narrow. Except for the few times I've met people from these sites, I don't have a real time butch-femme community. I don't know how the notion of butch-femme is received, or if it means the same to me as it does to others.