[SuperFemme]

Originally Posted by betenoire

Well, I wouldn't know since I've never felt that I am in the wrong body (aside from that month in 4th grade where I started putting my hair up in baseball caps and introducing myself to people as Brandon - no idea what that was about for me...aside from the fact that my friends were all boys and I liked to do "boy things" so it probably seemed perfectly sensible to me at the time).

But it seems to be that there's an incongruency between how one looks and how they would like to look, and how one is perceived in / treated by society and how they want to be perceived / treated - neither of those things have anything to do with changing who you are on the inside, rather they're both about changing physically.

I've never had even -one- friend, during or "after" (is there really an after?) transitioning, who has said "oh yippie! now my instincts, emotions, habits, and personality match how I always wanted them to be!" I've only ever heard variations of "Now my outsides match my insides" and "Now people treat me / see me the way that I wish to be treated / seen."

I am really just trying to make sense of it. Cal thinks it is a *chemical* difference in the way hy thinks and processes things. I dunno. But Cal just told me you are always right. So there I have it.