[Gemme]

Originally Posted by ferret

It....hurts...When a friendship/relationship/whatever..."should" go both ways. Not one person putting in the effort. It makes me wonder what would happen if I suddenly stopped communicating with the people in my life who are important to me (am I important to them). I'm a good person, a decent person, and am generally liked....Or at least I thought I was. So why is it just me doing the work - 95% of the time with a good portion of the people I have in my life. If I am indeed worth your time, best you start stepping up.

There's something I've learned along the way that may be helpful to you. You are treated how you let yourself be treated. If you expect and demand to be treated well and equally, you either will be or you won't have to worry about that relationship going forward. Don't be a tyrant but don't be a door mat either. People will push you as far as you let them. Boundaries are good for everyone.

Good luck with whoever is being problematic.