I'm working through the documents to set up an alternative power of attorney and guardianship for my mother should something happen to me before she dies. So far I have an incredibly detailed an comprehensive medical dpoa done, good enough I've decided to use it myself as well replacing what I currently have. Don't even start me on the financials, I hope those will be ready in a week or so. This should have been done a year ago, I had to switch attorneys to get the ball rolling, I hope there isn't too much fallout because I still need the original one for some other things. I just can't leave her unprotected this long.
Since there is no family, I have to use a stranger, a geriatric care manager. I've never made such difficult decisions in my life. Trying to imagine every scenario, predict every possible hiccup, and put in place bulletproof provisions for each. It can't be done of course due to the ever present "unknown-unknown".
This is unlikely to be needed as I plan on staying alive, but this would also go into effect if I hit predetermined levels of incapacity due to disability I cannot predict.
At the same time it is getting ever more real in my own mind that I have to do this for myself as well.
There is a lot of very unpleasant thinking that has to go into all of this.
