[Greyson]

Originally Posted by Dylan

I have a question for the transguys. I'm NOT asking anyone but transguys.

I'd like to know what y'all think about a transguy who is read as male, who wants to be read as male, who has had top surgery, and who is on hormones...but yet uses the women's restroom (on occasion), and who gets ticked off when women in the restroom get upset that he's in there.


Thanks,
Dylan

I think this transguy is getting some sort of pay off out of his choice to use the women's restroom. I cannot read his mind, be sure of his intention. Does he do it to stir it up or perhaps he finds some sort of perceived safety in using the women's restroom?

Frankly, he may not even be aware of why he does it. Is he struggling internally with his gender identity? Is he is still trying to figure out where his gender identity fits, lands? I do not think it is okay to use hostility when taking unwilling, participants in pursuit of one's perceived safety, gender journey, and/or need to stir it up.