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Yesterday 30 minutes on the stairmaster and then today same thing. I watched a great Amazon Prime documentary about a man convicted of murder who was then found to be innocent by the Innocence Project! He was in jail for 25 years!

Sooo... today was a big day for me and Judith. We had our biggest conversation ever! She was in the locker room sleeping at 6 pm (on a Friday night), not having exercised since a yoga class at 1! Didn't I tell you she lives at the gym! So I woke her by putting my bag down (mean). She asked me if I just came from work, which was kind of funny because I was wearing my raggedy ass gym clothes. Maybe she was still semi-asleep. Anyway, her asking me this question allowed me to feel comfortable getting a little deeper with her. After I said blah blah blah about what I do for work, I asked her what she does. She can't be paid to watch t.v. all day at the gym, which is all I knew until now. She told me that she worked in finances, trading, investing, etc. Wow. The Life. Since we were having one of our few conversations not about the gym or the weather, I came out to her! I said, "My partner... [blah, blah, blah]." Sometimes if I'm not sure how someone will react to me being gay, I revert to the old-time "partner" instead of "wife." "Wife" sounds more aggressive- "See, I have rights just like you!" "Partner" evokes more of a small-time backyard commitment ceremony. I did then use "she" in reference to my "partner" so that she would know for sure what I meant. She didn't have a visible reaction. Hmmm, sometimes relationships get deeper just when you think they never will!