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Originally Posted by Deborah*
I would like to know what percent of butches do you think are attracted to femmes? And what percent to butches?
I've always been curious about this.
Deborah
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I don't know, I've lived in a few different countries and several citites... and the places that had dyke bars and genderqueer pubs/night clubs...
I'd say most butches had flexibility. Kinda like most people. Most butches liked tomboy femmes, some practical femmes, androgynous types, other butches of various types.
Most butches I knew, hung out with, got with, even married, had *one* butch-butch relationship in their past at the very least.
It's rare I know butches who *strictly* absolutely no exception whatsoever, EVER, see femmes. Most have shagged a butch or an androgynous dyke or had relationships with them, either when there are no femmes around, and they can't deal with screwing married straight women anymore, OR they meet an androgynous/butch dyke with "feminine" traits they recognise as attractive and they have an epiphany about relationships.
I'd say butch-femme -strictly, no exception- is not common.
that's not what people will tell you on some message boards of FB groups
but I also know what people say amongst other butches and in front of femmes, and where they have actually shagged is another matter.
people have standard deviation lengths that they will allow away from core attractions. It's a matter of how wide those standard deviations are, and how many someone finds acceptable (how fluid someone is in attraction).