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					Originally Posted by  cybersuebee
					 
				 
				I've only ever heard the term used in a good-hearted joking way, and have not used it since I became aware that it has a derogotory connotation to some. However, why do we assume that it's used only in reference to women. I've heard it used to refer to differenciate heterosexuals from homosexuals - no reference to gender that I'm aware of. 
			
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 I haven't heard it used in a good-hearted way, but I think it's used in several contexts.  I've heard vehemently child-free people use this term about those who have kids too.  The first time I heard it used, it was by a gay man talking about straight people.  But there's also the gold star lesbian vs breeder context - which I find most painful.  I don't have kids (sadly), but I definitely have a past that included straight cisgender men, and I don't want my own dear community shaming me for that past.