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AtLast · 06-11-2010, 11:22 PM

The term breeder, just like the term class (or classless, no class) have been purged from my vocacbulary. They both (and there are others) have just taken on negative connotations in so many ways and for many people.

Something that I think this very community has given me is an awareness of just how hurtful some terms can be. We are so diverse. Frankly, the term vanilla bothers me because it has evolved into a put down in some ways.

For me, its all about being sensitive to terms (or phrases) that just can be negative to people. And the negative attachments are part of an evolutionary process, usually not starting out negative. If I use a term or phrase and just one person tells me that it is insulting to them, I listen to their reasons. We all have different backgrounds (come from different regions, plus throw ethnic/racial, class, identity, sexuality, etc. in the mix) and come from different places.

06-11-2010, 11:22 PM	#69
AtLast Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Woman Preferred Pronoun?: HER - SHE Relationship Status: Relating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: CA & AZ I'm a Snowbird Posts: 5,408 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,826 Thanked 10,828 Times in 3,199 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	The term breeder, just like the term class (or classless, no class) have been purged from my vocacbulary. They both (and there are others) have just taken on negative connotations in so many ways and for many people. Something that I think this very community has given me is an awareness of just how hurtful some terms can be. We are so diverse. Frankly, the term vanilla bothers me because it has evolved into a put down in some ways. For me, its all about being sensitive to terms (or phrases) that just can be negative to people. And the negative attachments are part of an evolutionary process, usually not starting out negative. If I use a term or phrase and just one person tells me that it is insulting to them, I listen to their reasons. We all have different backgrounds (come from different regions, plus throw ethnic/racial, class, identity, sexuality, etc. in the mix) and come from different places.