[Cin]

I am confused. Why is it okay to join the constant barrage of voices women are subjected to hearing, voices who judge women for not adhering to society's definition of what makes a good woman, especially on a website pretty much devoted to humans who do not adhere to society's rules? Is there no place safe from this kind of shaming? Slut shaming women just sucks. Date who you want but I should think that can easily be done without judging others and finding them unworthy because they don't meet your criteria for being the right kind of woman. I don't get what there is to defend here? The right to slut shame?

I am reminded of the story about how slut night from the old .com site got its name. Some bartender slut shamed the femmes from that site who got together for a night out. There they were all decked out in their best femme finery and he told them they looked like a bunch of sluts. And they took that and owned it (no therapy needed) and Slut Night was born. It does seem though that not much has changed. I guess if we always focus on getting therapy for the victims, perpetrators of slut shaming comments will keep on keeping on. As far as dog piling, who is subjected to more dog piling than women? Maybe the lgbtq community? My best advice is that if you don't like being judged, don't judge others. Choose to surround yourself with the people who meet your standards but keep your judgments to yourself.