Not touching the issue that started this thread...
However, on the subject of Femmes being Ladies and needing to be treated differently? Please do not treat me with kid gloves. Yes there are times for lovely manners and there are times to just be. (ie Funeral V. Hockey Game)
"Just being" for me, does include cursing. A lot of it.
Yes, we can take care of ourselves and if we have a problem with someone's language we can tell them off all by ourselves.
In fact, some of us quite enjoy it. (from me, it will likely be sexist/racist/classist comments, not cursing)
Umm, and there might be times when I might have been/or be piggish discussing other Femmes and/or Butches. Yes, I love a good mind, but....well, you know.
I keep hoping I will grow up and act like a nice Femme Lady is "supposed" to act 24/7, but it seems doubtful at this point. Yeay!