This made me think about how I have had at least one femme friend begin to refer (within the context of ranting about her ex) to that individual by his biological feminine name in discussing him with me, while during the relationship she referred to him by his masculine name of choice. At the time I didn't call her out on it because I gave her the benefit of the doubt, thinking that perhaps she wanted to refer to him with more formality and distance. But now reading this thread and reflecting on some of the issues, it becomes more clear to me that this kind of dissing really is always on some level about disrespecting gender presentation, and I don't want to participate in tolerating it, no matter if a friend is angry and ranting or not. This kind of deep disregard for someone's identity is never okay.
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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow
So let's grab this topic by the balls and discuss it.
I have experienced it and seen it the one minute we date a butch then we date a transperson.
We are bitter after the break up and we dog the other gender presentation to make us feel good.
Example:
Mariano was so abusive, he would scream in my ear and I would be terrorized cause you know he is on *whispering* T
or
Kelly was so not butch, she wanted me to go down on her YUCK, not like Marianno who is a real mans man.
(Marianno and Kelly are fictional characters)
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