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Originally Posted by softness
I also have thought about Randy and her apparent comfortableness about her gender ID. She isnt at all fearful of talking about it or asking for her needs to be met. And she is accepting of what my daughter can and cant do for her. So I am thinking she must have some source of acceptance being given to her at home.
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I don't agree with where you say Randy 'must have some sort of acceptance ...at home'
I talked to my second grade teacher, because she A) listened and B) seemed to understand (or let me say, she didn't judge, call me names, or 'correct me'). I could be 'matter of fact about it', because she was cool. It was the first time anyone bothered to take me seriously, and I had a lot to say. I could also just ask for what I wanted/needed, because I was in second grade, and when you're in second grade you don't really care about asking for what you want/need. I mean, if Mrs. Clifford said 'no', then ok who cares? This could very well be the first time ANY adult has been cool with Randy, and she may just be testing the waters. It's not like eight year olds have the best sense of boundaries, and Randy may truly have no idea what she's 'allowed' to do in this new sense of acceptance. Hell trans adults don't know what the hell they're 'allowed' to do either sometimes. So, I really wouldn't assume that just because Randy is being vocal and expressing herself that she has some sort of acceptance at home. This may very well be the first time anyone has bothered to take her seriously. Trust me, there was absolutely NO acceptance at my home, and I very much pushed Mrs. Clifford's boundaries and was quite vocal in her class because I knew I was safe from harrassment of other kids and gender roles. A phone call home would have ruined all of that...anyone talking to my parents would have fucked it all up.
Dylan