Hi Scorp,
I am so sorry to hear of your mother's ill health; I can relate to many of the feelings you and your family are going through.
My dad died of brain cancer a little over ten years ago and, for close to 3 years, watched a healthy man struggle with his diagnosis, operations, a stroke, and finally was brought home to die.
I remember the baby monitor in his room and hearing him moan in a semi-conscious state not knowing if he had enough pain meds or what. Going upstairs and sitting with him and feeling helpless and crying and trying not to because I didn't want him to see me break down. It's traumatic for all family members and can wear you down.
I remember going to work and being in a fog a lot of the times. Work, for me (before and after his death), actually helped me as it kept me busy and on a schedule. After work, I would go sit with him first in the hospital and later at home. I did manage to share with him in a letter -- I am so glad I did this -- all of my thoughts and love for him before he was too far gone to understand.
Remember to go easy on yourself and take some time to take care of your needs to keep you sane and healthy.
Wishing your family comfort in these trying days,
Soon
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