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Originally Posted by SuperFemme
Does anybody think that we, as Femmes are guilty of contributing to the male centric way of things?
Do we judge each other harshly? If so, how can we overcome?
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Sisters,
I have for many years struggled to maintain femme friends. Mainly, because of their preoccupation with butches. For some strange reason, femmes (I've known) can' t seem to have validity or fun with other femmes unless we're with our dates or flirting with guys. I have alot of 'straight' gfs as a result. They don't seem to have the same limitations. However, the component we don't share is sexual preference. It is truly difficult for my 'straight gal pals' to understand that a feminine femme is not straight.
I am who I am for me. I struggled through years of fighting my femininity, due a history of rape. I blamed myself for years. I thought femininess meant fragile and subserveant.
I rejected all the things I loved that were frilly, fluffy, 'girly'. But, as I past that '40' mark I realized I didn't care to live under anyone else's definition. I was reborn to 'all femme', I like long bathes, 'my femme day' (1day a week to pamper myself), hiking in nature, or camping out. I am more that just a pretty face and so areall of us! I glad to see some commaradity here.