[Jett]

Thanks for your story softness, your friend sounds wonderful, and it's good to hear words of such understanding. I've often found a lot of resistance to the idea that one can be gender fluid, and read a lot of balking response in different places to the sheer idea of it.

I'll admit that the idea was hard for me to absorb because I spent a lot of energy and life trying to fit into ready made "categories", each time just trying to have something concrete.

But the ebb and flow is something I've experienced since I can remember and made my attempts at outward self "identification" rocky at best.

You know it's funny, it's really so simple inwardly, all of it natural, flows seamlessly and compatible but when you try to express it in current language it sounds oppositional and complex... it's not really. Perhaps that's why some peeps are so resistant to the idea of it. I've found people who know me personally seem to totally get it better, in the words of a friend "it's palpable".

Anyway thanks, though I feel happy and content in who I am I hesitated in putting this thread up b/c of the potential misunderstandings but you've made me feel better on it.

Metro
(and thanks for pointing out it's about gender and not sexual orientation, females of the femme persuasion have always been my cup o' tea, it's not about that)