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girl_dee · 09-14-2010, 09:02 AM

When I saw the title to this thread I stayed away from it because I knew it would hit a deep nerve in me.

(( Sylvie )) i hope you get the help YOU need.. My father is much like yours, and I decided to step away from him. It was not easy. When I was young he was drunk, abusive and disgusting. He ruined my childhood. He almost ruined my adulthood. Our family is a mess because we all deal with the remnants of growing up in that house. I can still smell and see him coming at me in the middle of the night... it makes me physically ill. As an adult, every time he got in trouble he called me and I helped him. His heart is bad after all the years of it. I was the only one there, thru his major heart surgeries.. he had burnt every bridge. He never bothered to even find out if I was dead or alive after Katrina..He has not once reached out to me, it's always me feeling lucky to be in his life.. NOT anymore!!! His last stint was falling and getting a head injury while being drunk, I immediately bought a plane ticket to go see him.. then I backed out and didn't go. This was the very first time I didn't go. He did this, and I refuse to keep running to his side. I hear he now has residual effects of that episode, and I rather not see it first hand. Maybe his Karma is taking care of him, and I don't feel one bit sorry for him.

Alcohol abuse has ruined relationships for me, family wise and personally and I just don't have the tolerance for it anymore. I have my own crosses to bear, but what I do does not affect others. Alcohol abuse does. It's a hard thing to witness.

I did what I had to do for ME, I hope you do the same.

09-14-2010, 09:02 AM	#30
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,833 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	When I saw the title to this thread I stayed away from it because I knew it would hit a deep nerve in me. (( Sylvie )) i hope you get the help YOU need.. My father is much like yours, and I decided to step away from him. It was not easy. When I was young he was drunk, abusive and disgusting. He ruined my childhood. He almost ruined my adulthood. Our family is a mess because we all deal with the remnants of growing up in that house. I can still smell and see him coming at me in the middle of the night... it makes me physically ill. As an adult, every time he got in trouble he called me and I helped him. His heart is bad after all the years of it. I was the only one there, thru his major heart surgeries.. he had burnt every bridge. He never bothered to even find out if I was dead or alive after Katrina..He has not once reached out to me, it's always me feeling lucky to be in his life.. NOT anymore!!! His last stint was falling and getting a head injury while being drunk, I immediately bought a plane ticket to go see him.. then I backed out and didn't go. This was the very first time I didn't go. He did this, and I refuse to keep running to his side. I hear he now has residual effects of that episode, and I rather not see it first hand. Maybe his Karma is taking care of him, and I don't feel one bit sorry for him. Alcohol abuse has ruined relationships for me, family wise and personally and I just don't have the tolerance for it anymore. I have my own crosses to bear, but what I do does not affect others. Alcohol abuse does. It's a hard thing to witness. I did what I had to do for ME, I hope you do the same.