[Soft*Silver]

there is such a bittersweetness to LDRs. I have had a few and in the courting phase, I loved them! The people were romantic, sensual, creative, and very attentive. I loved the travel, both theirs to me and me to them. I loved the never ending verbal foreplay. And the delightful ways we both found to keep us connected and to make more dimension to our romance. I loved the little gifts sent via mail, that they found for me in their real life and wanted me to have so i would know they were thinking of me and could show how well they knew me. I loved the intensity, as well as the simplicity of LDRs.

the only thing I dont like about LDRs is the inevitable..someone has to move if it is to go the next level. I have been burnt a few times badly and I cant imagine what it would take to get me to even consider, let alone actually do, moving. And the longer I am alone and the more self sufficient and safe I feel in my own PAID FOR COMPLETELY house, the less open I am to consider letting someone move in with me if they were the one to move to me.

Knowing someone in a perpetual honeymoon type relationship is not the same as dating someone who kicks off their old shoes and walks across your aging linoleum so the two of you can kick back and watch SUV reruns. You dont get to see how they suck on a straw the whole time and make aggravating noises with it. Or how they dont clean up after their cat. Or that they are organizational freaks and you are content piling all the silverware in a wicker basket and digging thru it when you need something. (this is me!)

and LDRs dont let you have body heat. Or protective arms. Or hands that handle you like you are so loved.

But they can lead to that.

Frankly I loved LDRs. Its the moving that ruined them for me...