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Originally Posted by Zora77
Although I do not identify as a lesbian, I did also not go into this relationship with the awareness that R. is a man. Although my response was not ‘shock and disbelief’, I was a little puzzled.
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That was the same position I was in.
I think, for me, the biggest worry was the knowledge that things would change and I didn't know *how* that would affect our relationship, I just knew it was going to (a change as big as this, how could it not?).
I think it's natural (and necessary) that we as partners ask ourselves how this will affect us, but sometimes we can be made to feel selfish if we do voice these concerns.
I also worried a lot about how the world was going to receive my sweetie. I knew it wasn't going to always be kind, compassionate and understanding - and I knew that I wasn't always going to be present as a buffer - which is kinda ridiculous as I'm 5 feet tall and look like a Sunday school teacher but by golly when someone looked sideways at my sweetie during those awful "in-between-days", even if they were just being curious, I would stare them down, like "you want to start anything, you have to go through me first"
Kris once said I was like a vicious attack kitty when in this mode. Lol
