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Old 09-30-2010, 01:40 PM   #645
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Originally Posted by softness View Post
my guess, AtLast, is that teachers dont get involved because 1) they have similiar values as the bullies or 2) they themselves were bullied and are afraid to step in or 3) are so caught up in their role as educator that they cant see how it has changed over the decades to include sociological patrol.

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I think you hit the nail on the head here for a huge part of this! The similiar values may very well be at work for districts in many places. And just the whole belief system around differences. So many people just accept that kids can be cruel without any awareness of where the hell they get these cruel ideas.

I remember when a LTR partner and myself were called lesbos by some neighborhood kids in the first home we bought together. These were the exact same kinds of words their father used when speaking of us around his children.

I confronted him about it. I was not going to take this from him or his kids. I did not go ballistic, just said that as an adult and a homeowner (one that paid property taxes that support the schools his kids attended), I was not going to listen to this from a bunch of 10 year olds. I told him be ought to be ashammed of promoting disrespectful behavior around his (and other) kids concerning adults. This was the only framework this guy was going to get- going on about gays and lesbians would have only gotten things going in another direction. And, hey, as if it was going to do any good- his anti-gay and lesbian feelings were not going to change. But, he got the disrespect of adults thing. I had to do the tax garbage stuff to just get to the what this guy would actually understand. Although, being a person that does pay taxes and yet, does not have the same civil rights as others does piss me off.
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