[Arwen]

Originally Posted by blush

But isn't that part of the perception of high femme? As the "ultimate" of girly?

Honestly? Not for me. High femme, to me, is ultra-sophisticated. She is the NYC kind of woman who is always put together. Girly is different. Girly, again for me, is a bit...a bit Donna Reed, maybe?

Poor Donna Reed...all she ever did was play a part.

Originally Posted by blush

I hear where you're coming from on the comparing your femme self to other femmes. It feels patronizing to me to tell you "Oh, but YOU are an amazing femme!" You already know this about yourself.

Heck honey, I know I'm amazing on my good days. But there are many days still when I fight that battle. And I think, smile, I think it's okay to patronize me in that way. Hee.

But seriously, I think sometimes I DO have a victim/poor-me that whines and wants to know that I'm liked. I've been doing some work on that voice of myself. It's not an authentic voice for me. I don't want to be rescued and when I put that energy out there, that's what happens.

So thank you.