[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Passionaria

(((Gemme))) I know this is true, I have been there as well. It's like the intensity has to go somewhere, like a rubber band being pulled tight then released. SNAP. For me it's all about "how" things are handled. My reality becomes much more flexible if I am treated with some tenderness and care. I have only hated one person that I loved. And it was because they were so incredibly unkind, in how they ended things. Unnecessarily unkind and hurtful. Pain turned my love to hate, I just couldn't understand it. It was a serious reality warp, and unexpected. Now I understand it, and still have a soft spot for them. But if I saw them, I would treat them like a ghost, to protect my heart. Twice, shame on me....

Pashi

Yes! Like a pendulum.

One of the things that determines if negative emotions will spring forth is what happens during the course of the relationship. But, like in your case, how you deal with one another afterwards can also swing the emotional pendulum too.

Even when things are tough and complicated, if both parties exhibit care and respect towards the other, I think all things are possible.