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01-12-2011, 04:05 AM

this is not dramatic nor deep but it is the nicest thing anyone has said to me in a long time. i was talking with a friend today, actually the mother of one of my very good friends but we have become friends over the course of the fact that my friend and i share RSD. we were talking abot my moving and she was asking about the emotional and phusical impact it would have on me immediately. anyway, before we hung up, she asked me to call her when i arrived in OK so that she would know i arrived there safely. i thanked her and as i did so realized that of all the people who knew i was leaving and even when i was leaving, she was the only person who asked me to do that. for some reason, her concern has touched me deeply. she cares enough to worry about my safe passage.
this has made reflect upon kindness in general. of course, Roshis are supposed to practice kindness in everything, but that one remark really brought that home. we never know what small act, what one kind word even, might have a huge impact upon another person. what might not seem like very much to me might be like the pebble dropped into water that sends ripples into another person's life. it might even be like a volcanic action that sends a tsunami feeling of being cared about. so from now on i'm going to make more small acts, more small remarks of caring and concern, because i never will know what one seemingly insignificant small act or word of kindness will do.
just a note on developing the general attitude of karuna, the Buddhist word for loving-kindness.Sharon Salzberg has a wonderful small book called A Cup of Kindness. In it are contained instances of just such small things that can make such a huge impact on another person. it also contains meditations one can do to help develop karuna. she also has a Cd that accompanies the book that contains meditations, just small ones, to help one develop a general everyday attitude of loving-kindness. you do not have to Buddhist to appreciate, understand, and use the exercises in the book or the meditations on the Cd. i highly recommend either, both if you can get them.
remember that one small act, that one kind word....

01-12-2011, 04:05 AM	#10
HoneyedChrysanthemum Guest Tournaments Won: 1 Posts: n/a My Photo Gallery	Just a very nice thing.... this is not dramatic nor deep but it is the nicest thing anyone has said to me in a long time. i was talking with a friend today, actually the mother of one of my very good friends but we have become friends over the course of the fact that my friend and i share RSD. we were talking abot my moving and she was asking about the emotional and phusical impact it would have on me immediately. anyway, before we hung up, she asked me to call her when i arrived in OK so that she would know i arrived there safely. i thanked her and as i did so realized that of all the people who knew i was leaving and even when i was leaving, she was the only person who asked me to do that. for some reason, her concern has touched me deeply. she cares enough to worry about my safe passage. this has made reflect upon kindness in general. of course, Roshis are supposed to practice kindness in everything, but that one remark really brought that home. we never know what small act, what one kind word even, might have a huge impact upon another person. what might not seem like very much to me might be like the pebble dropped into water that sends ripples into another person's life. it might even be like a volcanic action that sends a tsunami feeling of being cared about. so from now on i'm going to make more small acts, more small remarks of caring and concern, because i never will know what one seemingly insignificant small act or word of kindness will do. just a note on developing the general attitude of karuna, the Buddhist word for loving-kindness.Sharon Salzberg has a wonderful small book called A Cup of Kindness. In it are contained instances of just such small things that can make such a huge impact on another person. it also contains meditations one can do to help develop karuna. she also has a Cd that accompanies the book that contains meditations, just small ones, to help one develop a general everyday attitude of loving-kindness. you do not have to Buddhist to appreciate, understand, and use the exercises in the book or the meditations on the Cd. i highly recommend either, both if you can get them. remember that one small act, that one kind word....