[Sachita]

This is what I think and it can apply to almost anyone.

I have a 3 month rule. No matter what I don't have sex until that time passes. Trust me, I'm VERY open minded but I also view sex as sacred and the one final thing that truly connects us. I also want to know that the time I'm investing in pursuing a relationship isn't wasted. Worse case we remain excellent friends. If the can't communicate well or they can't be honest about their feelings its not going to work- end of story. There is no way in hell you'll understand this about anyone coming out of the gate. People talk a lot of shit especially when trying to impress someone. If you can't be with one another, regardless if your B-F, stone, trans whatever, in common space, without the complexity of sex then you've never survive a relationship. I have a real problem with someone who exits at the first sign of conflict so i want to know this FIRST before I ever drop my panties.

If you are remotely interested then spend time with that person. If you're honest, real and basically good people you will begin to forage a friendship. Any chemistry thats there should naturally balance itself because what i have found that the rules changes sometimes depending who you're with. Never say never. I mean I don't want to make love to a butch the way hy does me- nope, not my thing BUT there may be an exception based on the human connection and dynamic WE feel together. If we spend time together, as friends we will naturally learn to respect each other's space. If it evolves into hot wonderful sex PERFECT! If not it just wasn't meant to be.

I don't misrepresent myself I just don't feel the need to tell a friend how I fuck. After many many moons I've also learned that there may be new horizons I may climb. I'd like to keep my options open. I once dated a little trans-boy much younger then I. We started as friends and somehow we established an interesting dynamic that neither one of us had ever even thought about before. It came out of nowhere one day and the most amazing thing is that we remained friends with that special chemistry. I've never had this with anyone before so I never bottom line anything. lol Ultimately I am seeking a life partner and there are so many OTHER factors that come into play other than sex. These all must be present BEFORE anything else and if sex seals the deal off we go into the sunset!