[Miss Scarlett]

Originally Posted by Strappie

I don't think a lot of people think the way you do. I must say you have a good attitude. Some don't always look with in. They continue to put the blame on the ex, when in fact we need to reach deep inside ourselves to find the answers, what went wrong, how do I change it, why do I react like that and so on and so on...

The first place to find a Partner is with in ourselves. Fixin, mending and growing in our life.

You have a jump on everyone else!!

Originally Posted by MsW8ing

Yep what you said Strappie..Check the baggage at the door. lol It's not healthy to go into a relationship until one has exercised the "demons of relationships past" and own up to thier own flaws and do some self improvement.

Absolutely! You have to own your stuff...

My counselor asked me a few months ago what i thought was the worst part of the horrible relationship we were discussing...she did not expect my answer: "i was." Had i not been in some really bad head space from the sudden break-up of my previous relationship, i never would have been in the one we were discussing - not that the other person was without spot, just saying i never would have gotten involved with them in the first place...